Posted: Tue Nov 10, 2009 10:40 AM CST
Does time heal all wounds caused by griefs?
Although the grieving process is complex, there are a few simple signs that signal "it's time to let go and move forward."
What heals the wounds is finding the courage to step over the pain and reach out for something we can appreciate.
It's called HOPE. Grab it! Hold on to it! And breathe in and out, knowing life goes on and so can you.
Posted: Thu Oct 22, 2009 11:38 PM CST
the phone call
A girl quickly punches a number into her phone and waits until she hears the other line pick up.
“Becky, I don’t know what to do, I really don’t. I love him so much and I don’t think he thinks of me that way. I mean, whenever I see him or think of him, I can’t help it, this smile comes across my face. Sometimes he sees me smiling and smiles back. That’s when my knees turn to jello and I get butterflies in my stomach. I know you think that he’s so totally adorable and cute, but if you look past that and actually listen to what he has to say, you find a totally different person. He’s so caring and considerate and he makes me feel like I don’t deserve him. Well, actually, I don’t deserve him. He’s too perfect, I mean, look at all the girls that fall for him. I could never be one of those. They’re all so pretty and bubbly and….. not me. I couldn’t even start to compare myself to them. But whenever I think of him or see him, I can’t help it, I smile. Now I didn’t tell you this but he called me the other day about homework. I tell you now, I made a complete fool of myself. I’m so embarrassed. I stuttered the whole time, but he was so sweet and just kept talking and making me feel better. He’s so perfect Becky, I don’t deserve him, so why do I keep wishing and praying that he will notice me, why?…………Becky? Becky are you there?”
“This isn’t Becky.”
Petrified the girl asks, “Then who is this?”
“This is the guy who’s smile turns your knees to jello and I just wanted to say one thing. Everything you just said now, I’ve been wanting to say since the day I met you.”
Posted: Thu Oct 22, 2009 7:01 PM CST
you have two choices today
Read this, and let it really sink in... Then, choose your outlook of life... whether if its a sunrise or a sunset....
Jerry is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!" He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.
Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, I don't get it! You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?" Jerry replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, Jerry, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood. I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life. "Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested. "Yes, it is," Jerry said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live life." I reflected on what Jerry said. Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.
Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never supposed to do in a restaurant business: he left the back door open one morning and was held up at gun point by three armed robbers. While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, Jerry was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma center. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body.
I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins. Wanna see my scars?" I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place. “The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door," Jerry replied. "Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or I could choose to die. I chose to live."
"Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked. Jerry continued, "...the paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read 'he's a dead man.' I knew I needed to take action." " What did you do?" I asked. "Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me," said Jerry. "She asked if I was allergic to anything. 'Yes,' I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Bullets!' Over their laughter, I told them, 'I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead.'" Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything.
Posted: Thu Oct 22, 2009 1:00 PM CST
don't promise what you can't deliver
A new vacuum cleaner salesman knocked on the door on the first house of the street. A tall lady answered the door.
Before she could speak, the enthusiastic salesman barged into the living room and opened a big black plastic bag and poured all the cow droppings onto the carpet.
"Madam, if I could not clean this up with the use of this new powerful Vacuum cleaner, I will EAT all this dung!" exclaimed the eager salesman.
"Do you need chilly sauce or ketchup with that" asked the lady.
The bewildered salesman asked, "Why, madam?"
"There's no electricity in the house..." said the lady.
Posted: Fri Oct 16, 2009 10:30 PM CST
Doggone, the dachshund says........
A wealthy man decided to go on a safari in Africa. He took his faithful pet dachshund along for company. One day, the dachshund starts chasing butterflies and before long the dachshund discovers that he is lost.
So, wandering about, he notices a leopard heading rapidly in his direction with the obvious intention of having him for lunch. The dachshund thinks, "OK, I'm in deep trouble now!" Then he noticed some bones on the ground close by, and immediately settles down to chew on the bones with his back to the approaching cat. Just as the leopard is about to leap, the dachshund exclaims loudly, "Boy, that was one delicious leopard. I wonder if there are any more around here." Hearing this, the leopard halts his attack in mid-stride, as a look of terror comes over him, and slinks away into the trees. "Whew," says the leopard. "That was close. That dachshund nearly had me." Meanwhile, a monkey, who had been watching the whole scene from a nearby tree, figures he can put this knowledge to good use and trade it for protection from the leopard. So, off he goes.
But the dachshund saw him heading after the leopard with great speed, and figured that something must be up.
The monkey soon catches up with the leopard, spills the beans and strikes a deal for himself with the leopard. The leopard is furious at being made a fool of and says, "Here monkey, hop on my back and see what's going to happen to that conniving canine." Now the dachshund sees the leopard coming with the monkey on his back, and thinks, "What am I going to do now?" But instead of running, the dog sits down with his back to his attackers, pretending he hasn't seen them yet ... and, just when they get close enough to hear, the dachshund says..................
"Where's that darn monkey? Sent him off half an hour ago to bring me another leopard."
Posted: Fri Oct 16, 2009 8:38 PM CST
perfect husband
There are several men sitting around in the locker room of a golf club after a round, showering and getting changed for the 19th hole.
Suddenly a mobile phone on one of the benches rings.One of the men picks it up, and the following conversation ensues:
Husband – “Hello?”
Wife – “Honey, it’s me. Are you at the club?”
Husband – “Yes.”
Wife -”Great! I am at the mall two blocks from where you are. I just saw a beautiful leather coat. It’s absolutely gorgeous!! Can I buy it?”
Husband -”What’s the price?”
Wife – “Only $1,000.”
Husband – “Well, OK, go ahead and get it, if you like it that much…”
Wife – “Ahhh, and I also stopped by the Mercedes dealership and saw the 2003 models. I saw one I really liked. Its a SLK model. I spoke with the salesman, and he gave me a really good price $ and since we need to exchange the BMW that we bought last year..
Husband – “What price did he quote you?”
Wife – “Only $75,000…”
Husband – “OK, but for that price I want it with all the options.”
Wife – “Great! But before we hang up, something else…
Husband -”What?”
Wife – “It might look like a lot, but I was reconciling your bank account and I stopped by the real estate agent this morning and saw the house we had looked at last year. It’s for sale!! Remember? The one with a pool English garden, acre of park area, beach front property.”
Husband – “How much are they asking?”
Wife – “Only $450,000 — a magnificent price…and I see that we have that much in the bank to cover…”
Husband – “Well, then go ahead and buy it, but just bid up to $420,000. OK?”
Wife – “OK,sweetie…Thanks! I’ll see you later!! I love you!!!”
Husband – “Bye…I love you too…”
The man hangs up & closes the phone’s flap. The other men are looking at him in astonishment and derision. The husband raises his hand while holding the phone and asks “Does anyone know who this Cellphone belongs to???”
Posted: Fri Oct 16, 2009 5:43 PM CST
staying the course
Our journey of life is about progress, not perfection.
It's not about doing one thing 100% better - it's a matter of doing 100 things, 1% better each day.
Progress is evolutionary not revolutionary, and most days we measure our progress in inches, not miles.
What matters most is showing up for your life whether you feel like it or not.
Ask yourself, "What two or three little things can I do today
that would move me forward?"
You'll be amazed at how much distance you can cover by taking it in increments.
The little things add up; the inches turn to miles; and we string together our efforts like so many pearls.
Before long, look what you have - a whole strand!
by BJ Gallagher
Posted: Tue Oct 13, 2009 9:41 PM CST
I think you are smart, don't surprise me
See if you can figure out what these words have in common:
BANANA
GRAMMAR
POTATO
REVIVE
UNEVEN
ASSESS
Are you peeking or have you already given up? Give it another try. Look at each word carefully. You'll kick yourself when you discover the answer.
No, it is not that they all have 2 sets of double letters.
Scroll down for the answer.
In all of the words listed, if you take the first letter, place it at the end of the word, and then spell the word backwards, it will be the same word.
Have a nice day!
Posted: Thu Oct 8, 2009 12:12 PM CST
Do You Qualify? You ask, do I qualify?
Do you qualify to be the man I need you to be?
Will you be able to recognize the things you need to see?
Will you be able to understand, that I am a good woman
and in my life I need a good man?
Do you qualify?
Do you qualify to fertilize my unproduced seeds?
Can you fulfill, as I can, all of our needs?
Can you put me in my place if you see I am slippin’?
Can you talk to me whole heartedly, not constantly trippin’?
Do you qualify?
Do you qualify to be called all mine?
Can you leave the other women and temptations behind?
Can you come to me with your problems and not wait until it’s too late?
Can you stand up and admit if you make a mistake?
Do you qualify?
Do you qualify to be the honest man I would want you to be?
Would you be able to look me in the eyes and admit your feelings to me?
Could you take me in your arms and make love to me all night long?
Can you be sensitive and still be strong?
Do you qualify?
Do you qualify to be my friend as well as my lover?
Can you put our love before any other?
Can you cherish me as if I were Diamonds and Golds?
Can you make me feel like I’m the last woman you’ll ever hold?
Do you qualify?
Do you qualify to be called a good man?
If I have doubts will you reassure me and understand?
Can your love intoxicate me as if I were High?
To be in my life, I need to know…
Do you qualify?
You ask, do I qualify.
Can I fulfill your needs and become the man you need me to be?
Are you prepared for what you asked for?
Can you handle the responsibility?
Can you accept that, by GOD, I am the chosen one, the authority, the comforter, and the head?
Will you submit and willingly follow my path?
Or will you fight with me instead?
If I am your King, will you treat me as such?
Will I get the best of your beauty and poise?
Or will I be subjected to an appearance neglected, and checked with some serious noise?
When I talk, will you listen?
I mean whole heartedly and feel me?
Or will you rush me just to make your point too?
Can I be the man all times? Even when it hurts?
Or is it just when it’s convenient for you?
Can you love me for me, and not who you wish I could be?
Will you see the strong man within?
Or will you always remind me of all the past brothers behind me and make me pay for their sins?
If I don’t send you flowers the day your co-worker received some,
will you know that I love you still?
Or will my good name be uttered along with those other doggish brothers?
Will you question if my commitment is real?
Will you be patient and teach me to understand you, and allow my knowledge of your needs to grow?
Or will you shut me out when I ask, “Baby what’s wrong?”
Or will you respond with, “Well, a REAL man would know!”
When we first met, what was it that caught your eye?
Was it my mind, my heart, my personality?
Or was it my suit, or my job, or do you love what I drive, instead of what’s driving me?
Yes I can, and I will make love to you from midnight to the dawning of the sun.
But, if I tell you I’m tired, will you trust I’m sincere
or believe that there must be another one?
I love you and my heart can be yours. No woman could leave me astray.
But like you, I have needs so I beg of you, please,
in this love thang meet me half way.
In life’s tough times I’ll hold you, in the rough times I’ll mold you; your simplest wish will be my command.
My life is yours if need be.
Yes you can fully bleed me, and when hell comes, in your place, I’ll stand.
A good relationship is a powerful institution that must be built on a foundation of two.
So to answer your question, YES, I do qualify.
Now, more importantly…
Do you?
Posted: Wed Oct 7, 2009 5:36 PM CST
incompatibility?
Opposites attract, but after marriage, opposites attack. Most of the time, we are attracted to people who don't have the things that we have. Incompatibility is why we get married, but it's also used as a reason to divorce.
Incompatibility is just a lack of communication. If we just try to love [our partner] the way we want to be loved, we are in trouble. Unless you communicate, it's difficult to know how to love another person.