Posted: Tue Sep 1, 2009 11:29 AM CST
Scammer or Not ?
I've received several respondents asking me to communicate with my email address direct or ask me to add them to on-line chat. But I'm very aware about the advise from this site quoted as follows: "Scammers often ask for your email address right away, or give you theirs. They want to communicate off site as soon as possible."
As this site is free, I feel very convenient for me to read mails (make no difference to log in to my own email -- as to read mail from here is just to log in too), why they want to send mail to my own e-mail address?? I cannot understand and will they be scammers... it hesitate my further communication with them. As I've unhappy experience before that the respondents from other on-line site that they ask me to send photo to his email address, after I've sent, he never replies and a week's later, my computer gets virus and need to change the hard disk finally which cost me maintenance fee.
Now the respondents here, photo and profile not bad, but just asking communication with own email address. Should I trust them or should I alert? I really feel a bit frustrated about this. Why they feel not convenient to communicate here? I love to write blog here and log in to check my mails here too. And to read blog from members too. Why they don't like it? Can some members tell me I should alert or should have more faith to it?
Thank you very much !! 
Posted: Sat Aug 1, 2009 12:32 PM CST
Thank you....
Very encouraging comments received for my latest blog which is so sincere and helpful. It lights me up and get back strength to keep on searching.
He didn't call me the 2nd week now and I have to know well he didn't miss me at all as if you miss someone you always want to give her a call whenever possible. Is it true? To me it's very true.
Though I got mails in my mailbox here, but all of them are thousands miles away, I've no idea how can it work. I do not want distant love anymore... as I know well it cannot work at all. But so few male members in my location and most of them are very young and for fun. Will there be miracle for me to come across with my Mr. Right at my old age? I feel quite hopeless indeed.
Still love the blog site here to get so warm advise and sharing.
As I do not know how to "click" to write back a note to the comment received, I would like to convey my heartiest gratitude to all of you who send comment to me. Thank you so much my dear friends.
Posted: Thu Jul 30, 2009 12:35 PM CST
Can I cry?......
Quite depress tonite... memories remind me I failed... failed and failed... again.. again.. and again...
Whenever I met a man via internet it seems very sweet from the beginning and a very sad ending. The first one i met at 1998.. he fly from US to visit me for a week that both of us are so happy to each other. I still remember the day he fly back to US, tears come from his eyes.. it's so true.. so real. But one week later of his trip back to US, he told me he begins to date girls from internet.. six months after he told me he's going to get marry.
The one I met after the US guy, is the one I wrote in most of my blog here... whom never tell me truth about his life.. his trip.. his exact date of arrival... whom always not willing to spend a holiday or a weekend with me, never bring me along in any of his social gathering for the past 9 years.. though I still hope he's the one I can settle down with. On my 50th birthday this year,I told him how much I wish he can celebrate with me, but he said it's a public holiday, cannot celebrate with me, because he promised to go to trip with his friends. On my birthday I called him... he's not going trip indeed, at home on bed but still say cannot celebrate with me !!
This July his birthday, he said he is at UK celebrating with his parents, i called him wishing to say Happy Birthday to him... He is BACK already!! Just not wishing to let me know.. just not choosing me to celebrate with him...but someone else...
Since last Saturday, I tried not to call him to see whether he'll give me a call... today is Thursday already.. NO CALL from him at all... not even a MSN... not even an email... May be he's very happy not hearing from me...
Why I'm still here... i've been keep searching for more than 10 years... but no successful case at all... I really want to cry.. but I know once it starts it cannot stop... 
Posted: Mon Jul 13, 2009 11:37 AM CST
Cannot sleep...
Though the web site cannot help me to find my Mr. Right in my location, it helps me to enjoy reading blog when I cannot sleep. 
It's really happy to read blog here, to write and to get back comment. To share and to know I'm not alone to face my loneliness. At least a place to let me fill in my time when I cannot sleep... 
Posted: Fri Jul 3, 2009 11:23 AM CST
How it works...
I've long been inactive here and recently I got 2 incoming mails saying interest to know me after viewing my profile. But when I check the feature "Who's viewed me", their profile didn't show up i.e. they hasn't viewed my profile, but how can they send me mail in this web site without viewing my profile? Just feel a bit strange and hope to see whether any body can help to clarify my doubt... 
Posted: Wed Mar 18, 2009 2:27 AM CST
No more excitment
When I firstly found this web site, I'm very excited with hope and dream to find my better half here. After few months' practice, I realized that it's so difficult (especially in my same location) to find someone real and truth that I can date in my area.
When I firstly registered, I mostly visit the web site every night and eagerly to check mail box every morning. But now I even nearly forget I've been registered here, seldom log in...without hope and excitment anymore. The only reason I log in still is to read blogs and sometimes like to write a blog to share feelings... Is there anyother way to meet my love other than via internet sites?? Or may be I've to accept the truth to walk my life myself...
Posted: Fri Feb 13, 2009 6:22 AM CST
Valentines Day...
When someone say "Happy Valentine Day" to me, instead of saying thank you, I should be honest to say such kind of commercial day brings much pressure to those lonely singles like me, who do not have dateing and have to stay evening at home watching TV alone.
Better not answer phone calls so that no need to tell friends where I'm... what I'm doing. Why choose to stay at Home? Because whenever you go to the street, the scene of flowers that every girls on hand... every couple... every pairs... in restaurant.. in cinema, on street.. all these scene will enhance my inferior feelings in addition to loneliness...
Who invent such kind of Days.. which make me so embarassing every year... 
Anyway Happy Valentines Day to everybody with a Valentine ! 
Posted: Mon Feb 9, 2009 10:40 AM CST
Posted: Sat Feb 7, 2009 12:16 PM CST
Better than None...
When Mr. Right never shows up, but met a Mr. Wrong... What to do?
Mr. Wrong will be very sweet sometimes, though of course, will be very sweet to many others too. The question "Better than None" or "None is better"? It seems a very simple question.. if we told our friends how Mr. Wrong cheat us.. all buddies will advise to kick him away. Certainly the answer is "None is better". Why the scene "Better than None" will still be there so unconsciously?
If keeping Mr. Wrong but keep searching Mr. Right here, will we become Miss Wrong too... cheating Mr. Wrong? If we have to kick away Mr. Wrong first before keep searching Mr. Right but Mr. Right never shows up, will "none is better" for the rest of our life?...
Posted: Wed Feb 4, 2009 7:22 PM CST
Why seek marriage...
When I was 20, puppy love is so romantic disregard reality.
When I was 40, I dream for life long partner.. but seems too late to win through internet world..
Mostly 99.9% of the "sites" men want to bed only, not committment. My man told me my chance to click and found marriage is "miracle" just like to win mark six.
"why should I want marriage".. a question I've been asking myself when I was young. Before 30s, I enjoy dating but after 30s I feel very tired in searching and dating especially when such need a long way to and from to meet for an hour only. It's wonderful if we can see each other everyday, instead of a long way travel. It can only fulfilled if our home is a same loving home. Though I still wish in addition to a big big bed for two, we still have two big beds belongs to each other at that same home so that we can have a quiet sleep when necessary. If we can settle down, my feelings of being sailing in the endless sea can end with parking. Such feeling of loneliness seldom happens when I was young start sailing.. but at my 40s, such loneliness is so strong especially at those rainly cold dark night, it's so tired for long searching journey, so tired and lonely at every Christmas, every new year, every valentines, every birthdays, every festivals... I know how happy I'll be if I can find someone to give up his forest.
Without such secure parking I cannot concentrate my spirit to work, my heart is so insecure, my energy waste in searching, my time waste for transport, my mood always up and down....
I remember one of my successful client said he loves his family so much that it is the most powerful motivation for his work. Because of his marriage, he has a goal for life -- to protect his family which leads to his successful today which he's so proud to share with his wife.
Why get marriage -- answer should be different for different views. If we are honest, responsible and faithful to love, we know it's a kind of motivation for a goal to work together to build a lovely happy home.
But to the man I love he will only say he'll not marry me because most his friends get divorced after marriage. I asked will you stop driving after you learnt how many car accidents a day?? He didn't answer, because he knows so well He'll not stop driving for such reason..
We will not hesitate to do something we love even we know there is something called "accident". As that's life, We will not choose NO driving/travel/swimming..just because we knows there will be accident as we know well We'll get poisioned even we do nothing just sitting home to eat...
I know so well his answer just an excuse... I should know so well The only answer why he doens't want to marry me is because HE DOESN'T LOVE ME AT ALL... BECAUSE I'M NOT THE KIND OF WIFE HE WANTS.. If one day he met a lady he loves certainly he'll marry her... just like what he told me he likes to live alone.. but indeed he let so many girls stay and live, just not me.. He told me he doesn't like to go out weekend because he loves quiet weekend but why I saw him in a mall with a pretty young girl one saturday evening?... because what he claimed he doesn't like to do is just applicable to me, not other girls.. if he wants to please someone, he'll do it.. Just that he doesn't feel need to please me, that's why he doesn't like to do anything for me....
Why I keep waiting him for 8 years.. will he ever knows the answer?? Why I always keep on pretending trust even I know it's lies again and again... will he ever knows why?? Will he ever knows???? Will he ever treasure my love??... NEVER... As so many times I told him during the past 8 years, I HATE MYSELF SO MUCH TO FALL IN LOVE WITH SUCH A STUPID DEVIL LIAR ...
Really hope to meet someone who can help me out of that DEVIL...to rebuild my real trust in man.. 