Posted: Tue Oct 27, 2009 12:51 AM CST
Breathe - Faith Hill - lyrics
I can feel the magic floating in the air
Being with you gets me that way
I watch the sunlight dance across your face
And I've never been this swept away
All my thoughts just seem to settle on the breeze
When I'm lying wrapped in your arms
The whole world just fades away
The only thing I hear is the beating of your heart
Cause I can feel you breathe
It's washing over me
Suddenly I'm melting into you
There's nothing left to prove
Baby all we need is just to be
Caught up in the touch
The slow and steady rush
Baby, isn't that the way that love's supposed to be?
I can feel you breathe
Just breathe...
In a way I know my heart is waking up
As all the walls come tumbling down
Closer than I've ever felt before
And I know and you know there's no need for words right now
Cause I can feel you breathe
It's washing over me
And suddenly I'm melting into you
There's nothing left to prove
Baby all we need is just to be
Caught up in the touch
The slow and steady rush
Baby, isn't that the way that love's supposed to be?
I can feel you breathe
Just breathe...
Caught up in the touch
The slow and steady rush
Baby, isn't that the way that love's supposed to be?
I can feel you breathe
Just breathe...
I can feel the magic floating in the air
Being with you gets me that way
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3jS3AQzKSGA
Posted: Sat Sep 26, 2009 6:46 PM CST
FRENDSHIP the Ultimate Foundation!!
Some time ago, there was a forum started by someone that did not feel that two people romantically involved should be friends first. She said, she noticed many profiles with the "Friends First" clause if you will. She did not feel, that this was necessary and a requirement for a compatible and romantic love affair that can last the long haul. I beg to differ!!!
I believe friendship is the foundation for all relationships, both platonic and romantic. Why?
What makes a friendship, a bond between two people? Isn't it having something in common that brings them both together in the first place? The commonality can be anywhere from living in the same apartment building to working for the same company as coworkers or common good and bad experiences. That commonality or compatibility is established via communication, is it not? Of course you already know that, but how often do you really think about friendship in great detail, I don't think many do, as good and true friends are hard to find.
Isn't intimacy what creates friendships in the first place? I am not talking about sex, I am talking about the communication of your intimate thoughts and issues that you deal with on a daily basis. As time gos on and you meet others, where ever that may be, you slowly begin to open up, share your most deepest and intimate thoughts and concerns. Of course this happens at different levels. In the work place you may share some of your intimate thoughts about other coworkers or company policies with those you, through time, think will understand or at least keep it to themselves. In your living environment around your home, apartment, or neighborhood, you begin to do the same thing as time passes. You start to choose, who it is, that you want to share your personal thoughts about anything and everything under the sun. Likewise others share their intimate thoughts and concerns with you and bonds are established. Again, you know this already, but have you really thought about it on a deeper level?
What is a good and true friend? As we meet people and they come and go, those who remain have certain qualities. For one, the friendship is reciprocated, meaning they care about you as much as you care about, for the most part. You share your deepest most sensitive intimate thoughts and concerns with these types of friends, is that not the case? Isn't this the way trust is built and love is established even on a platonic level? So, it stands to reason, that your lover, your wife/husband to be should be your very best friend. You live together, sleep together and share everything together. I believe a strong friendship is the foundation for two lovers that want a relationship to last a lifetime. True friends are not jealous or self-centered. They return your emails or phone calls, even if they are busy to simply say "busy now, I'll contact you later!"
Early sex in a relationship ruins this foundation. The friendship foundation is not firmly established(build on proper communication) and rides on pure passion and lust. Then when difficult times come about the stress and strain pulls them apart. The sexual physical intimacy was established but not the psychological, spiritual, and emotional bond that is established through real friendship first. I find so many people do not get this and wonder why they do not form strong bonds. Don't get me wrong, it took many mistakes and error in judgment to realize fully the ramifications of this myself and I am still learning, are we all?
Don't waist your time with those that do not reciprocate friendship and ignore your emails and phone calls. Recognize self-centeredness and those with other agendas. It's a two way street, just like a phone is, a two way device.
May you all form beautiful friendships that can last a lifetime!! 
Posted: Thu Sep 17, 2009 8:34 AM CST
Define dating, establish honest commmunication
I think the problem lies in the definition of dating. Not everyone's definition is the same. When you meet someone you should establish honesty and that definition before proceeding further.
Some people think sleeping with those you date is ok! I don't! When your intimate with some one, you made a choice and a commitment. Commitment involves the responsibility of being transparent to your partner and their feelings and emotions.
Sleeping with more than one person is not dating!! At least in my book. It's playing around.
As everyone is looking for the perfect person(perfect for them) then dating should be about meeting several people for coffee, tea, lunch or dinner as a platonic way to get to know them. So is chatting with different people on different dating sites! Then as time gos on and people are added or drop from your dating list then it suppose to be slowly dwindling down to the best choice. Then you make a commitment and then if you decide it's right, you begin the intimacy stage.
I know you all know all this already, but the problem lies in that this definition is not defined and transparency is not established in the beginning. Then it's doomed to fail from the start. I am not talking about real players, this can happen with two good decent people. The communication is not properly established and one person thinks he/she is committed while the other person still thinks they are dating!! So, of course your going to catch them chatting with someone else on another site.
Perfect example; Two people meet and begin chatting and phoning daily sometimes for many hours. One person seas this as a match and commitment while the other is doing the same with another person. Both are so caught up they do not fully communicate what they are doing and both are assuming. Then either the communication is abruptly stopped or one is caught chatting with another on another site. Throw in some sexually charged flirting and you have a perfect mix for disaster just waiting to happen.
What is the problem with telling someone, "your great, I like you allot, but I am not ready to commit yet and I am dating others?" It takes time to know someone and you can't commit until you know them well. It's like buying a machine without the manual. Of course again, it's about the communication, you don't say this to someone after having had an intimate encounters with them. Again, it's the honest communication and the definition of dating that is important, at least to get off to the proper start. Honestly defining dating can match the players with the players and the real daters with the real daters. People need to spell it out "I am committed to you," "I am not sure yet, give me more time, I am dating others." The problem also lies in that most people want to be exclusive without communicating it, that is not realistic and also set's them up for failure.
I know, I know, easier said than done, that's just the way I see it and I can see all failures can be traced down to that lack of honest transparent definition of dating from the beginning.
I think a large percentage of beginning relationships never get off the ground due to poor communication. But, I am just like you all, I am learning all the time and all the above is subject to change, it's the only way to keep growing. That's JMO!!
Posted: Wed Aug 12, 2009 9:13 PM CST
She's All I Ever Had
She's All I Ever Had by RICKY MARTIN
Here I am. Broken wings, quiet thoughts, unspoken dreams.
Here I am. Alone again and I need her now to hold my hand.
CHORUS:
She's all, she's all I ever had.
She's the air I breathe.
She's all, she's all I ever had
It's the way she makes me feel.
It's the only thing that's real.
It's the way she understands.
She's my lover, she's my friend.
And when I look into her eyes it's the way I feel inside.
Like the man I want to be.
She's all I ever need.
So much time, soo much pain (but) there's one thing that still remains.
(It's the) The way she cared the love we shared.
And through it all she's always been there.
She's all, she's all I ever had in a world so cold, so empty.
She's all, she's all I ever had.
It's the way she makes me feel.
It's the only thing that's real.
It's the way she understands.
She's my lover, she's my friend.
And when I look into her eyes it's the way I feel inside.
Like the man I want to be. She's all I ever need.
Song link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NEZcXlgkJeQ
Posted: Tue Aug 4, 2009 8:05 PM CST
It Takes Two and It Takes Only One
IT TAKES TWO
It takes two to rub noises and look deeply into each others eyes.
It takes two to share each others deep dark secrets.
It takes two to share each others painful experiences.
It takes two to share a bottle of wine under the stars over a campfire.
It takes two to share a romantic movie close together arms rapped around.
It takes two to have dinner, laugh and dance all night.
It takes two to walk along the pier, stopping to embrace under the moonlight.
It takes two to make love everywhere in the house, car, woods, and the beach.
It takes two to make an effort, to compromise and meet each others needs.
It takes two to do, so many things, to make a relationship work.
IT TAKES ONLY ONE
It takes only one act of selfishness to ruin everything.
It takes only one lie to destroy all trust.
It takes only one act of deception to destroy a good bond.
It takes only one act of infidelity to destroy a relationship completely.
Remember what it takes to keep a relationship, when you find a good one.
"Those who forget the past are condemned to repeat it" George Santayana
Posted: Wed Jul 29, 2009 11:41 PM CST
Heart Breaking Scammers!
Heart Breaking Scammers!
I have been on this site for some time now and doing allot of corresponding. The sad thing is, it's mostly about heart breaking scammers. A large percentage of my correspondence contains stories of people being scammed and played. Not once but many times. Even if they have not lost money, their feelings have been broken time and time again. I have examined this and have been reflecting on this horrible Internet phenomena. Haven been played myself, by a Philippina, and took worm, hook, line, sinker, fishing pole, fisherman, boat dock and the 1200 gallons of water making it float, I know a little bit about this kind of deception. I therefore, need to write this blog to express my point of view on this harsh and malicious practice by these monsters that lurk the WWW.
We, so want to be touched, held, and romantically spoken too. We, so desperately want to feel that special feeling of love and adoration. Sometimes, we want it so bad, that we literally create an alternate reality that is far from actuality, practically, and beyond common sense. This self created dream is so far off the true reality that it puts us in a state of vulnerability and irrational thinking. Adding other outside stressful influences like, abuse, family, work and the loss of a loved one can make us further vulnerable and completely impair our sense of judgment.
A doze of reality
If an honest and truthful man/women tells you they “LOVE YOU” don't believe it! If they have not seen you in real life and have not gazed into your eyes and have not at least spent several evenings with you, “IT SIMPLY IS NOT POSSIBLE.” IT IS NOT TRUE!!
Writing “I LOVE YOU” in a chat or Saying “I LOVE YOU” in a phone conversation without meeting you is a “LIE” straight and simple, no and if or buts.
An honest and truthful man/women will visit a man/women and if she/he has children, she/he will meet them in real life and get to know them a little, to get a feel for the “ENTIRE PACKAGE.” A man/women with children is an entire package and anything that affects the parent affects the child/children. This was my very fist big mistake. A true, honest, and loving man/women will love your child/children and you need to see that in real life(reality) by having him/her spend time with you and the child/children. There is no better way to see how someone reacts and behaves than while spending time with you and your child/children. This is very important.
So, if you hear those words “I LOVE YOU”, “I WANT TO MARRY YOU”, “YOUR MY FUTURE HUSBAND OR WIFE”, “YOUR MY FUTURE”, “YOUR MICKY MOUSE” Don't believe it, unless you have meet them, spent time with them and they have meet your child/children. PLAIN AND SIMPLE!!! GOT IT?
I hope I have made myself clear! Don't forget, I am not just a spokesman here...I was also once a customer!! Believe me I feel your pain!!
Good Luck and God bless!!! 
Posted: Wed Jul 29, 2009 5:16 AM CST
Bread - Baby I'm A Want You
Bread - Baby I'm-A Want You - Lyrics
Baby, I'm-a want you
Baby, I'm-a need you
You the only one I care enough to hurt about
Maybe I'm-a crazy
But I just can't live without...
Your lovin' and affection
Givin' me direction
Like a guiding light to help me through a darkest hour
Lately I'm a-prayin'
That you'll always be a-stayin' beside me
Used to be my life was just emotions passing by
Feeling all the while and never really knowing why...
Lately I'm a-prayin'
That you'll always be a-stayin' beside me.
Used to be my life was just emotions passing by
Then you came along and made me laugh
And made me cry...
You taught me why...
Baby, I'm-a want you
Baby, I'm-a need you
Oh, it took so long to find you, baby
Baby, I'm-a want you
Baby, I'm-a need you
http://www.connectingsingles.com/profilevideo.aspx?user=rubendario&typ=529713&v=4773
Posted: Fri Jul 24, 2009 8:18 PM CST
Profile Views
I notice, there are allot of people that get all hung-up over profile views. Profile views shouldn't have any meaning for you except for those that are followed by some form of contact. Scammers that contact you usually do not leave a profile view foot print.
There are many reason's why someone may view your profile.
1.Genuine interest
2.Finding a forum thread they liked and or that someone else commented on that they found interesting
3.Finding a music video they liked and heard before or a comment someone made
4.Finding an e-card you may have created or a comment someone made that they find interesting
5.Finding a poem you have written and or that someone commented on
6.Finding a blog you created and or that someone else commented on that they found interesting
7.Finding a movie you posted and or that someone else commented on that they found interesting
8.Finding a book you posted and or that someone else commented on that they found interesting
I can go on with many examples, but I think you get the picture. In other words, profile views can really mean nothing. It does not always mean there is an interest in you.
Profile views in stealth mode:
On the other hand, profile views, are a good way to get to know the person you are interested in. Use them to your advantage. If you don't want them to know you are viewing them LOG OFF and use the search function to find them and then view their profile, it will not register and you can view and study the person without their knowledge. View and study people, that is the only way your going to find compatibility. Viewing their forum posts for example will tell you what interests them and even when they are on line and what forum they are currently in. With some, you can even tell who they are really interested in, but be careful, you can also be wrong. Then if you want to show interest, you can LOG ON and them view their profile and send an internal email or flower for example.
Study profile views, that is the only way your going to get to know people. If your spending all your time goofing around forums and trying to get to know people, although I think it helps, I think your only using a small part of this websites tools and services to get better acquainted with others.
If you are not getting any profile views, then do some work. Create some blogs, forums, e-cards, add some music videos, books, or movies. Keep modifying and improving your profile. Make an effort, don't expect the opposite sex to beat down your door because you created a profile. Most of all, be honest, straight-forward, and represent yourself truthfully.
And for God's sakes, don't stalk or obsess over people. If you don't get attention, let them go, move on, "they are just not that into you." Let it be, there are allot of fish in the sea!!
Many want compatibility, their perfect match, and heaven on earth, but few want to put in the effort required to make it happen!
Good luck and God bless!!
Posted: Tue Jul 21, 2009 11:06 PM CST
Have You Ever Really Loved A Woman
Bryan Adams : Have You Ever Really Loved A Woman Lyrics
To really love a woman, to understand her
You gotta know her deep inside
Hear every thought, see every dream
An' give her wings when she wants to fly
Then when you find yourself lyin' helpless in her arms
You know you really love a woman
When you love a woman
You tell her, that she's really wanted
When you love a woman you tell her that she's the one
'Cuz she needs somebody
To tell her that it's gonna last forever
So tell me have you ever really
Really, really ever loved a woman?
Yeah
To really love a woman, let her hold you
Til' you know how she needs to be touched
You've gotta breathe her, really taste her
Til' you can feel her in your blood
An' when you can see your unborn children in her eyes
You know you really love a woman
When you love a woman
You tell her that she's really wanted
When you love a woman you tell her that she's the one
'Cuz she needs somebody
To tell her that you'll always be together
So tell me have you ever really
Really, really ever loved a woman?
Oh
You've got to give her some faith, hold her tight
A little tenderness, you gotta treat her right
She will be there for you, takin' good care of you
You really gotta love your woman, ya
And when you find yourself lyin' helpless in her arms
You know you really love a woman
When you love a woman
You tell her that she's really wanted
When you love a woman you tell her that she's the one
'Cuz she needs somebody
To tell her that it's gonna last forever
So tell me have you ever really
Really, really ever loved a woman?
Yeah
Just tell me have you ever really
Really, really, ever loved a woman?
Oh
Just tell me have you ever really
Really, really, ever loved a woman?
http://www.connectingsingles.com/video_3675_1/bryan_adams_have_you_ever_really_loved_a_woman.htm
One of these days, I am going to pick up my guitar and learn to play this song!! 
Posted: Fri Jul 17, 2009 12:26 AM CST
Climb a Mountain
This last Tuesday, after a 12 mile bike ride, I climbed Sleepy Giant Mountain in Cheshire Connecticut. I went with a young couple here on vacation from South America.
I have climbed this mountain before and the hardest climb is the blue trail, the steepest and most challenging. This climb always reminds me of life in general. It reminds me of how sometimes in life, things can be a big climb(obstacle) and it seems like you will never get to the top(over it). The upward climb is hard and tiring, but once your over the top and start climbing down, it becomes easier, you feel happy that you have succeeded and that you overcame the obstacles on the way up.
I felt good about keeping up with a couple in their late 20s to early 30s. My friend was complaining during most of the climb up, it's too steep, I am afraid of falling, what do I do, when will it end. He was in a battle against his own mind. Isn't that what we do when we feel that life's obstacles seem overwhelming? His girlfriend is a physical education professor and she followed me right up the mountain without hesitation and soon realized it was a mental exercise. The climb seemed at times to never end, it took us 3 hours to complete the entire trail and a good hour and one half was the steep part of the mountain itself.
I suggest you try something like finding a mountain to climb. Break it down into steps, climb right up, over come what you see, pace your self, overcome and adapt. Once at the top, you'll be able to see for miles and appreciate the beauty of our planet and also challenge yourself with the lesson, in mind over negative circumstances or situations that appear to look like mountains or large obstacles.
Good Luck and God bless!!