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Posted: Fri Jul 10, 2009 7:05 PM CST
Misbehaving children
I work part-time at Target, and today was the day from Hades. It seemed that every screaming, crying and whinning child came through my cashier line. I would like to know why the sol called "grown-ups", abdicated their role as the adult/parent? For example:
child: mommy I want juice; mommy I want juice; mommy I want juice"!!!!!!!
mother: You can have juice as soon as we get home. Ok?
Since when does the grown up ASK the child??????
Or the child that kept screaming and crying from the back of the store all the way to the front check-out:
child: I promise to be good - can I have a toy now? Over and over and OVER again, screaming and crying all the way. All mom did was say, over and over and over again:
mom: no, you missed you chance to have a toy.
When my two brothers and I were growing up, we were taught from day one that we did not back-talk to adults, especially our parents, without suffering consequences; we learned that we were told only once about our bad behavior and if we continued, we got an open handed slap across our mouths or a swat against our butts, when WE DESERVED IT! For those who cannot tell the difference between "disciplining" a child and "child abuse", really do not deserve to have children.
My parents taught us three to NOT be bullies; do not pick on someone smaller than ourselves; do not HARM animals in any way, shape or form. And, our parents ALWAYS knew what we were doing, whether it was playing cards or board games, knowing the difference between reality and fantasy (so we could watch the Three Stooges and understand that it was all make believe) and that things they did on TV could really hurt.
My parents NEVER had the attitude, "NOT MY CHILD". Because kids get into trouble. Just how serious, depends on what they are allowed to get away with in public.
The carts in the store are NOT toys.....they are not meant for the child to hang on the end or lay on the bottom. They CAN and DO get hurt. But I can't tell you how many times in one day I have to ask the parents and child, "please do not hang on the end, please sit down, or please do not allow your child to roll around on the botton". Not only is this an issue of safety for the child, but it is also a liability issue for the store.....yet, many times I am told, "oh, it's ok, he/she does it all the time". "I'm watching him/her". Then I see the mom/dad walk away and pay no attention.
I also used to work with spinal cord injured patients, from car accidents, gun shots, falls, etc., who would give anything to not only be able to WALK again, but to be able to function on their own. Yet, I constantly see children 7, 8, 9 and above who are just too lazy to walk and insist that they sit in the cart. To me, this is really pathetic.
For the children who are not only well behaved, but actually help their moms and dads, by taking the bagged items I set to the side, and put in the carts, I always THANK those children, tell them and their parents how wonderful I think I they are. I always wish them a wonderful day/evening/weekend and thank them for shopping at our store.
I wonder when parents will stand up and take back their role of ADULT and actually teach their child the difference between appropriate and not appropriate behavior.
Posted: Wed Jul 8, 2009 10:04 PM CST
Proper English
What has happened to the art of being able to spell correctly, including using proper punctuation and capitalization? 
Having been a secretary for 30 years and owning my own home-based business doing medical transcription, I do quite a bit of "correcting" the wording of the physician's grammar, it is essential that I know how to spell and construct sentences correctly. 
I understand the concept of instant messaging, (which I am not talking about, I do not abbreviate even there), except for an occasional "LOL or brb". I am not even talking about the occasional misspelled word, I'm speaking about the emails, postings and blogs, where a person actually has time to think about what they want to say. It really sets my teeth on edge to see such awful spelling and wording.
So many of the blogs I have tried to read make me believe the person is completely ignorant or lazy. There are many ways to say just about anything, especially when it comes to sexual content, without being just plain rude, crude and disgusting. What attracts my attention even more than what a man looks like, is what his writing "says" about him. If he actually takes the times to put some thought and ideas into his emails and blogs, I will always want to continue discussions with him, including probably wanting to meet. But when I receive emails that make me have to play "twist" games with the wording, to understand what he's saying, I stop and email back, "thanks, but no thanks".
I have received several emails from men who stated on their profiles that they have "some education" or high degree, yet their writing is just horrendous.
I am not, by any means, a perfectionist; my home is not "eat off the floor" clean, but I do take pride in where I live, whether or not I have company over. This is something that my parents taught me was the right thing to do, along with taking pride in how you dress (guys, wearing your pants around your knees is not classy, just looks stupid), and instilling in me a love for words, using words to convey so many emotions, thoughts and ideas. Again, I don't expect Pulitzer prize type of writing, just basic priciples would be wonderful.
The same goes for when people have differences of opinion..... when people are unable to use words to adequately defend their position, they resort to showing their ignorance by name calling, belittling and insulting comments. Talk about the decline of a civilization.