Profile Clues to Beware Of
I have not read female profiles so I am focusing on men.
Men drop personality clues in their profiles. Some are huge RED FLAGS. Other clues are more subtle.
Like this - "Leave your garbage at home". This is just so harsh. I interpret it to mean - I am not a compassionate person. I don't give a rat's a$$ what has happened to you and I don't want to hear it - go to the kitchen and get cooking or spread your legs and get ready for me.
I don't think its their intention to be mean - it just comes naturally for some. They may be hurt and angry over a past relationship. What they don't understand is by stating that - they are putting their garbage right out there for everyone to see. Forcing us to see their garbage.
Be very careful and vary, when choosing a guy whose profile contains those words - sometimes in all caps. He's probably bitter and distrustful of women.
Another line I've tripped over a few times - 'No Drama' and 'No Games'. Wow! They want a zombie! We are women. Women are dramatic. We laugh and cry and worry and give hugs and try to fix people/situations. We play the 'game' by wearing make up, fixing our hair, the scent we chose to wear. Men and women play with each other during almost every interaction they have - we flirt, tease and joke around with the opposite sex. Perhaps what the men mean is 'no con-artists, no one pretending to be anything other than what they are." I've heard stories from guys about women who use other peoples photos or really old pictures meant to lure and entice. This is not gender specific. I've had it happen, a man sent a 15 yr old photo and professed to be other than he is currently.
There are men who love women. All women. They love that we are soft and emotional. They love that we can be stern and argumentative (not as much as they like the soft stuff), they love and understand that it in our nature to question everything. In essence they love how we are made - physically, emotionally and mentally. We are not men. We will never be men (well, not without surgery and a lot of soul searching). These men adore our bodies - even when we may not. These men recognize that men and women were not created the same and cherish us for our differences. Our bodies are softer, bumpier. We were created to continue the human race; to give life and sustain it and to love and comfort our mate.
Gender roles have changed. It confuses some. Do women get offended when a man holds a door open for them? Some do. I don't. I hold the door for everyone.
There are men and women on here who do play cruel games - with no intention or ever meeting anyone from the site (shame on you).
Men become offended because we want that stud from the romance novel. The guy who takes care of himself physically, who is kind to others, who is protective yet supportive, passionate and loyal.
Yeah so?
Hey guys? Do it! Be it. Is it too much to ask?
Because I am the heroine in the same novels. I will fight for myself and for you. I am sexy and soft , hard and intense, loyal, loving, strong, weak . . .
A relationship will not last if you stop flirting, teasing and playing together.
Just my thoughts.