Posted: Sat Aug 15, 2009 11:08 PM CST
what life is about...
You may not be a grey-haired sage of 80, but the truths of life are revealed throughout your lifetime. Although no one can claim to know all there is to know about life, you must have some idea.
Well, here's what someone learnt about life:
Don't go for looks. It can deceive. Don't go for wealth, for even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile, because only a smile can make a dark day seem bright.
It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it. But it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.
Always put yourself in others' shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably does hurt the person too.
A careless word may kindle strife. A cruel word may wreck a life. A timely word may level stress. A loving word may heal and bless.
Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion, and the romance, and you find that you still care for that person.
The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything that comes their way.
Sometimes, the most extensive article may say very little or nothing to you, but a short and simple phrase says it all.
The wonderful thing about life it that there will always be variables. You have to see them and be aware of them to know how to react to them.
Posted: Sat May 23, 2009 5:32 AM CST
“I have a new theory about all relationships and w
First of all you need Passion. This is where you have a physical chemistry with this person, where you feel drawn to this person that you’re with, you may even feel a warm feeling right here in your stomach and maybe it spreads all over your body when your with this person… where you can lose track of time and give yourself completely to this experience…
Next you need Intimacy. This is where you feel an emotional connection with this person, like you’ve known them before, and like you were always meant to know this person… like this was meant to be and where you feel completely comfortable and close… and you may feel it right here in your heart…
Then you need Commitment. Philosophers have called this a sense of “duty”… where you feel secure, knowing that this is someone that is here for you, that we both choose to be together… and this is someone that you can see yourself with now and in the future…
Now, all relationships are based on varying degrees of each one of these elements.
For example if you have just passion, but no intimacy or commitment, then that would be like just physical infatuation. Like a one night stand or something… nothing more, nothing less…
If you have just intimacy, but no passion or commitment, then that would be just friendship. And we all have those…
If you have just commitment, but no passion or intimacy, then that would be an empty relationship. Like a lot of married people out there… so sad.
Then you can have passion and intimacy, but no commitment. This is like a “Romantic affair”… and maybe the knowledge that it is something that's now or never… or that you have no guarantees about, makes the passion and intimacy even more intense…
And you can have passion and commitment, but no intimacy. That is like people who stay together because they really like the sex.
And you can have intimacy and commitment but no passion. That would be like grandma and grandpa who are together for companionship, but can’t remember the last time they did it.
And of course the ideal, as with all things… is about balance, where you can have just the right amount of passion, just the right amount of intimacy, and just the right amount of commitment… well… now that I think about it, an extra little bit more passion would be nice… what do you think?”
Posted: Fri May 22, 2009 2:43 AM CST
Begin Again
Begin Again
One of the best things we can do in our lives is this:
Begin again.
Begin to see yourself as you were
When you were the happiest and strongest you've ever been.
Begin to remember what worked for you
(and what worked against you),
And try to capture the magic again.
Begin to remember how natural it was when you were a child --
To live a lifetime each day.
Begin to forget the baggage you have carried with you
For years:
The problems that don't matter anymore,
The tears that cried themselves away,
And the worries that are going to wash away
On the shore of tomorrow's new beginnings.
Tomorrow tells us it will be here every new day of our lives;
And if we will be wise,
We will turn away from the problems of the past
And give the future -- and ourselves -- a chance
To become the best of friends.
Sometimes all it takes is a wish in the heart to let yourself ..
Begin again.
Posted: Sun May 3, 2009 6:05 AM CST
Our deepest fear
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate;
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves:
"Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?"
Actually, who are you not to be?
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure about you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We are born to make manifest the glory that is within us.
It is not just in some of us - it is in everyone!
As we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others......."
There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening, that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other and be lost for all time ............
There is a world of difference between meeting and an encounter.
People can live in the same house,
sit at the same kitchen table,
they can exchange many words,
they may even give each other signs of love,
and apparent tenderness, and yet they may never meet in the real sense, they may never really encounter one another.
An encounter is a strange and wonderful thing. In an encounter people open their hearts to one another. They become fully present to one another. As a result life flows from one to the other and people are transformed.
When you have once seen the glow of happiness on the face of another, you know that a person can have no higher vocation than to awaken that light on the faces surrounding.........
Posted: Sun May 3, 2009 3:59 AM CST
The dance
I have sent you my invitation,
the note inscribed on the palm of my hand by the fire of living.
Don't jump up and shout, "Yes, this is what I want! Let's do it!"
Just stand up quietly and dance with me.
Show me how you follow your deepest desires,
spiralling down into the ache within the ache.
And I will show you how I reach inward and open outward
to feel the kiss of the Mystery, sweet lips on my own, everyday.
Don't tell me you want to hold the whole world in your heart.
Show me how you turn away from making another wrong without abandoning yourself when you are hurt and afraid of being unloved.
Tell me a story of who you are,
And see who I am in the stories I am living.
And together we will remember that each of us always has a choice.
Don't tell me how wonderful things will be . . . some day.
Show me you can risk being completely at peace,
truly OK with the way things are right now in this moment,
and again in the next and the next and the next. . .
I have heard enough warrior stories of heroic daring.
Tell me how you crumble when you hit the wall,
the place you cannot go beyond by the strength of your own will.
What carries you to the other side of that wall,
to the fragile beauty of your own humanness?
And after we have shown each other how we have set and kept the clear, healthy boundaries that help us live side by side with each other, let us risk remembering that we never stop silently loving those we once loved out loud.
Take me to the places on the earth that teach you how to dance, the places where you can risk letting the world break your heart.
And I will take you to the places where the earth beneath my feet and the stars overhead make my heart whole again and again.
Show me how you take care of business
without letting business determine who you are.
When the children are fed but still the voices within and around us shout that soul's desires have too high a price,
let us remind each other that it is never about the money.
Show me how you offer to your people and the world
the stories and the songs you want our children's children to remember, and I will show you how I struggle
not to change the world, but to love it.
Sit beside me in long moments of shared solitude,
knowing both our absolute aloneness and our undeniable belonging. Dance with me in the silence and in the sound of small daily words, holding neither against me at the end of the day.
And when the sound of all the declarations of our sincerest
intentions has died away on the wind, dance with me in the infinite pause before the next great inhale of the breath that is breathing us all into being, not filling the emptiness from the outside or from within.
Don't say, "Yes!"
Just take my hand and dance with me.
Posted: Fri May 1, 2009 12:40 PM CST
Why Nice Guys Fail :read it and weep!javascript:em
Hey, Paul here! Giving you an exclusive look why Nice Guys Fail and Bad Guys succeed. If you're single with your thumb up your ass - thinking, "Why do all the hot girls go after assholes?"
Here it is - do you want it? Good, I thought so!
There's numerous reason's why Hot Chicks (HC) go after Bad Asses (Alpha Males). Nice guys are also called Beta Males. What the hell is a Beta Male and a Alpha Male?
Characteristics of an Alpha Male
-Leader of a pack..group
- Comfortable with himself.
-Confident
-Respect himself and doesn't let anyone fuck with him
-Independant
Characteristics of an Beta Male
-Tries to impress the woman he likes.
-Over compliments to prevent her from leaving.
-Needy and clingy.
-Poor social intelligence when it comes to women.
-Follower instead of a leader just for others like him.
-Can't stand up for himself.
Now, if you were a girl - which one would you go after? A Alpha Male or a Beta Male?
Alpha Male. A Nice Guy is usual a Beta Male. An Alpha Male is considered by other Beta Males as assholes because they feel inferior to the male.
Alpha Male doesn't give a shit about what you think of him nor will he ever will. You can say he's a loser and he'll just look at you and laugh.
However, a beta male will try hard to make you think other wise.
So why do women go after Jocks or Bad Boys? Bad Boys aren't Beta. They're unpredicable causing a mysterious persona about themselves.
A Beta Male would give out information just for the women to like them. They don't hold back and cause the suspense vibe to fill the conversation.
Also Beta's are honest - here look at this:
HB10: What job do you do?
BETA MALE: I'm a plumber - I fix sinks all day!
How is that conversation? Boring right? :)
HB10: What job do you do?
ALPHA MALE: I can't tell you that - it's classified information here, lady!
HB10: No, seriously - what do you do?
ALPHA MALE: Do you promise not to tell?
HB10: Yes!
ALPHA MALE: I'm a FBI Agent, not the FBI agent you think though!
HB10: Huh? Why that?
ALPHA MALE: Female Body Inspector.
That's a better conversation! It keeps the woman more into the conversation. Never gives a direct answer like the Beta Male does.
ALso the conversation is exciting, fun, and has some humor to it.
Also, some of the reasons why women like Bad Boys is because they like to fix up and train the bad boys into suitable husbands and give some meaning into their lives - instead of dating the same boring guy over and over. See?
Good, that's it for today - I'm tired of talking! LOL :)
Posted: Mon Apr 27, 2009 3:29 AM CST
I want you!
"I want you despite the fact that we've only known each other very shortly. I want us to be that loving couple walking barefoot on the beach holding hands right on the edge of the ocean where only the more lingering waves can reach, gently caressing our feet. The sky is fiery red on the horizon as the sun is ever so graciously going down, plunging into the warmth of the loving sea. A light breeze gently whispers in our ears as we look into each other's eyes. We can both feel the heat of our passion as our hearts beat in unison,but we hold back until the feeling intensifies past the point of our futile resistance. In a fury of emotions my thoughts deeply penetrate your mind making your attention slowly move back and forth, over and over,from pure love to raw animal instinct and lust, as you come and come again to the same conclusion that you
must surrender your entire being to the sheer power of our passion that is sweeping us both away into a world of feeling complete.
Are you the lady i want?
Posted: Sun Apr 26, 2009 11:51 AM CST
Are YOU a good kisser?
According to Discovery Health: “A simple kiss can be a highly
effective method of analyzing how prospective mates stimulate
pleasure centers in the brain. More importantly, kissing can also
be a delightful experience!
By mixing touch, sight, smell, and taste senses with powerful
physical attraction and emotions, kissing can be one of the most
delicate, but often complex, activities shared between two people.”
What do you think about kissing?
Are YOU a good kisser?! If you were to kiss me, how would I rate
you on a scale of 1-10?
Posted: Sun Apr 26, 2009 11:48 AM CST
me truths about men & women & the daily struggle o
A typical womans thoughts
-Do I look fat?
-Is she skinnier than me?
-Am I sexy?
-Are my boobs big enough?
-are my boobs too saggy?
-Will my friends call me a slut if I sleep with him?
-That dumb bitch, stole my boyfriend!
-I can’t orgasm!
-I can’t give head!
-Is he satisfied with me in bed?
-What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I get a normal guy?
-What do I really want from a man?
-OH GOD all these emotions I am so confused!!!
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The daily struggle of average woman is a lot more complicated than the daily struggle of average man or maybe the same?:
A mans thoughts
-Am I good looking?
-Am I a skilled lover?
-Does this guy look bigger than me?
-Is my dick big enough?
-I can’t make woman orgasm.
-I am horrible at eating pussy.
-What am I doing in bed?
-What’s wrong with me, why no girl likes me?
-What kind of woman do I want?
-Do I want marriage, girlfriend, or just play the field?
truth is men can still fuck when they are 80 and women have serious issues after age 21.
Posted: Sun Apr 26, 2009 3:49 AM CST
why being single sucks!
Why is it everyone in a relationship says it sucks and wishes they were single but everyone who is single says it sucks and wishes they were in a relationship?
The way I see it the dating game is fundamentally flawed. It seems everyone is jaded no matter which way you look at it.
As a single guy of almost three years you get to a point where you are tired of all the effort it takes of putting yourself on the line, playing the "game" as some people put it. Inside you wish you could just be you. If only it was as simple as walking into a room and saying: "hey this is me..love me for who I am".
But you can't. It just doesn't work that way. There are so many subtleties that go into the dating game. Damn all those fuckers who hurt us and make us put up walls to the point it is almost impossible to truly get to know anyone without jumping through a million hoops.
Well to all you single folks out there take a shot to us...and to me. May we find someone who rises above all the bullshit and sees us for who we really are, flaws and all, and simply likes us despite it all.
cheers all,
Paul