Posted: Sun Apr 26, 2009 4:06 PM CST
Tough Day...I want tons of feed-back- I need dialo
Well I need to speek from my heart- I do not want to sound ungrateful for the responses from everyone to my site- I am flattered but nine times out of ten the first thing a man will tell a me is that I is beautiful ( from certain countries-ladies you will agree- Will you marry me?)OMG- What are men thinking? Ladies- is it me or is it the most uncomfortable position to be in when a compliment comes out first thing-no name- no how are you today? To me, it is a turn-off- This makes me question if men really like me or just trying to get in my knickers- I hate being so on gaurd about how to read that from men- Do they just truly do not know how to approach a woman? I feel for some of them because they aren't all jerks and misogynistic- but are just maybe equally unsure and frustrated.
Is it just me ladies to say that it drives me away when that is very first thing a man emails me? Am I asking too much for men to say- you sound like an amazing person- or even introduce themselves and say simply-would you like to chat? do they not know that there is more to us after all this time and effort for equality
Men- would you comment on a mans handsomeness in your introduction? No- not likely- so why do you feel that is how you need to approach a woman? Are we not like men in having goals and ambition- qualities that make as human as men?
My point is that although women may be conditioned to accept compliments- it shows that all you are seeing is their physical appearence. Not that we do not like compliments but I rather receive them after there is a level of trust established... it is just uncomfortable and is preceived as though you are only after nothing other than sex.
I have only been on this site for a week and already have had an IM experience of a man who came across as nice and someone I could open up to and then proceeded to tell me he was jerking off to my photo.
Men- may I ask you if you think that is appropriate- because if you find nothing wrong in doing that I suggest taking a hard look at yourself and if you look at women as HUMANS or merely objects for self-gratification?
Women- am I with you in my disgust...how do I deal with men when they do everything in theor power to plant seeds of mistrust and dishonesty...That whole jerking off thing- Could it be he just thinks its alright? Help- I know I am spewing but it is a clusterfuck of emotion, frustration and fear that I will go down the road I so do not want to again-Trust am man and they rip out your heart and feed it tot he dogs....Talk to me peeps!
Posted: Sat Apr 25, 2009 2:26 AM CST
I am going to play the Photo Police for a minute
Speaking from a frustrated viewer of photos: I say this cuz some people do not give thought to what kind of impression you are ACTUALLY going to make
1. Put a little EFFORT into your appearance- think of this photo as what someone will see on their first date-
2. a close -up will give the viewer a better scope of your face...
3. No hats, no sunglasses please- It shows that you are hiding something like your true self- not attractive and plants seeds (pun intended) screaming 'SEEDY MAN' stay far away
3. For god sake - smile- all a person wants to see sternness and sullenness in a mans face when looking to find a potential soul mate
4. Men- if you think women are gonig to find you normal and not full of yourselves when posing with out clothing on the top half of your body- think again- Ego-maniacs are turn offs- just be real please...
5. Not having your photo in your site- is not going to win you dares- again it shows that you are hiding who you are...be brave- women like confidence in what ever you have without cockiness of course...
Now go and Prosper!