Rejection...dont give up.

by Unknown Aug 2010 6,820 Views 8 Comments

rejection is a very painful feeling to experience..and leaves us often wondering why...why indeed...do people look at us and for some reason choose to not want our company for what ever the reason...

maybe we dont sound good/or look good/dress well/maybe we are shy/more thoughtful/wont do wrong things/are not talented and successful..from school days all the way up..seems there is always the shadow of rejection..touching us sometimes...yet in it though its not nice..there are some real good learning points...

first we can see the kind of people who are doing the rejecting...and such are not recommended for our friendship circle at all..if not taken for who we are..then better off without them

another is that there is a strange level of strength too...being able to stand on our own...being more independant...

our image of our selves is all we need...look at anyone else for approval and we are on tricky ground.

i have known lots of rejection..from friends, and strangers...groups of people...but still standing...still moving on...my life is not measured by how people view me..

its a painful process that is true....but in the pain there is a shaping of us..to quote the song by shirley bassey....i am what i am......

so whatever the source of rejection..there is strength....independance...people awareness....choosing those that value us...being free of comprimise..we are our own person...and lots of people like that....

so be kind and good to yourself...put a value on yourself...for one day you will rise above your circumstance...and be the stronger.

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export4141•Apr 17, 2011•Hilo, Hawaii USA

serpico12
well said boyo

GALUH•Mar 8, 2011•PALEMBANG, South Sumatra Indonesia

I experienced rejection and it was pain. He simply told me that he couldn't go on because he liked to meet girls in the area that he possibly visit someday. Now I think that was a good point in his rejection on me. That he was not a scammer. Though we are careful, sometimes it is a rather difficult for us to know whether some one is a scammer or not. And rejection is a process to make you be somebody new, more mature.

serpico12OP•Jan 31, 2011•cardiff, Mid Glamorgan, Wales UK

hi scatlyn..well thank you for visiting here as well as the poems..and i value your insight here too..while rejection is not an issue for many, there come moments in life when people for various reasons do find themselves out on the rim..no one wants that, but we all are choosy and prefer some more than others..

i am noting your last line scatlyn..its true you can rise from your circumstances, thats the beauty of it all, our life does not depend on the approval of others, nice to get it but not essential..

with God nothing is impossible...He it is that gives us all things..so in Him we can succeed..

thanks a lot scatlyn...for such a insight and lenthy reply..

SCatlyn•Jan 31, 2011•Brecon, South Glamorgan, Wales UK

P.S.Those who see us from the outside may be able to see some particular thing we don't, that can be helpful to us. But those worth listening to are the one's who give sound advice, not rejection.
And no one can see the true person inside us - the whole picture. They have no idea of our life's circumstances, what we've been through, what our true motives & intentions are, etc.

One person said it this way "You can't judge a book by it's cover."

SCatlyn•Jan 31, 2011•Brecon, South Glamorgan, Wales UK

@joy - Rejection does happen for a reason - often unfair reasons. Some of those would be low income, appearance, a physical handicap, a mental handicap... even rumors started by someone who's jealous, sometimes very vicious rumors, or simply not "fitting in".

As the author stated: maybe we dont sound good/or look good/dress well/maybe we are shy/more thoughtful/wont do wrong things/are not talented and successful..from school days all the way up..seems there is always the shadow of rejection..touching us sometimes...

Sure, there are those who are rejected for a valid reason, though that's rarely the case. And I agree it's a good idea to take an honest view of what someone has said about you, if there's anything true & of value there, use it & learn from it.

The point of the article is to not let your value/worth as a human being be decided by those who reject for some unfair(and often unknown to us) reason given by someone who often turns out to be very judgmental & immature, though we may never know that, and end up basing our value/self-worth on such things.

"my life is not measured by how people view me...", "if not taken for who we are..then better off without them","being free of compromise..we are our own person", ".. be kind and good to yourself...put a value on yourself...for one day you will rise above your circumstance...and be the stronger."

- great advice for anybody

Thanks for the article, Serpico, written w/much insight & wisdom - you are a kind & caring person, as evidenced by those who read your wonderful poems in the Poetry Corner, and as evidenced by your compassionate articles as well.

joyaepace•Jan 29, 2011•Galway, Ireland

Be kind and good to yourself...put a value on yourself, right. But be kind and good to others too, may be they will not reject you then? There must be a reason for rejection, it does not happen for nothing. Being free of compromise? Our image of ourselves is all that we need? Dubious premises, they would not help socializing. You have to compromise to live in society. And you have to know what others think of you in order to know yourself. A person may have a grand image of himself that does not match a perception of that person by others. Who is right? I am afraid that the others because they see you from outside and it means they see better. It is not about shyness or looks or intellect that causes rejection, it is usually how a person relates to other people.

ilco2010•Sep 9, 2010•rapid city, South Dakota USA

your article is making me feel better, it puts things into perspective. i learned stuff i did wrong and how my insecurities played a role also. thanx

monica

afterbam•Sep 7, 2010•P.A., Pennsylvania USA

amazing post...

thanks for this...

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