Why Women Pick the Bad Guys.

Have you ever watched the woman you want go for a man that you know is a waste of space? If this is something that's happened to you, perhaps you wondered why on earth an intelligent woman would make such a poor choice. This article explains why women pick unsuitable men to date and offers hope to the good guys out there.

Dangerous Excitement

Bad men do not spend their evenings in front of the television with a mug of hot chocolate. Instead they go out, get drunk, flirt with several women, sleep around, and maybe even break the law. While definitely not advocating any of those things, one would have to admit that the lives of bad men are anything but boring. In fact they can seem very glamorous. This sense of danger and excitement can make unsuitable men seem very appealing. Dating a bad man makes a woman feel that she is a little bit wicked and naughty too.

A Challenge

Unsuitable men don't usually want to commit to one woman. They are womanizers, and they enjoy playing the field. Thus this type of man represents a challenge to a woman. She thinks that she'll be the one to transform him into a faithful and loving partner, but she won't. She also believes she can change him, but she's wrong about that too. Nevertheless, it's human nature to long for what you can't have. Nice men do not present much of a challenge to women. That's because decent men are usually open and upfront about their feelings, and this can make them seem too easy to have.

He Seems Confident

Because bad guys are usually players, they tend to have a lot of experience with women. They are the men that know exactly what to say and do to pick up women in night clubs and other venues. Bad men know precisely what it is they want, and they are not afraid to take it. This gives women the impression that bad guys are confident and self-assured. Nice men are not brazen enough to approach a woman and start flirting insistently. That's because they worry that it will make them seem overly forward and presumptuous. Hence the nice guys are often overlooked.

She Feels Special

The bad guy knows he can have his choice of women, and that gives him extra appeal. When a woman becomes the girlfriend of a bad man, she feels that she is special because he picked her rather than one of the hundreds of other women he could have had. This makes the woman feel gorgeous, and gives her ego a boost. Her bad boyfriend may be unfaithful, but that's fine provided he comes home to her at the end of the day.

Love of Drama

A loving and contented relationship can come to feel boring for the type of young woman who craves drama and excitement. When a woman is happy and content with a good man, there aren't as many dramas, arguments or disagreements. Instead, things are pretty much peaceful and serene. Being with a bad guy is usually painful, but there is no shortage of drama. A relationship with a bad man is always full of discord and upset. There is very likely to be a pattern of breaking up and getting back together. This pattern is bitter-sweet, and therefore addictive. After a while, women who date one bad guy after another come to think that love should hurt, and feel that anything less than pain is mundane.

Fear of Commitment

Some women unconsciously pick bad men to date because they are still hurting from a recent break up. Commitment is the last thing they want, even though they may not be aware of it. If a woman chooses a guy she knows has a bad character, then there is next to no chance that the relationship will develop into something more meaningful. Hence the odds of the woman getting hurt again are significantly reduced. After all, a man cannot break a woman's trust if she doesn't have any confidence in him to begin with.

Hope for Good Guys

When you are a good guy, getting passed up in favor of someone you know isn't a decent person can make you feel miserable. Fortunately, there is still hope for the good men when it comes to women. First of all, some women grow up and realize that bad guys aren't good for them. They also figure out that love isn't supposed to be consistently painful. Furthermore, there is much you can do to attract women if you happen to be a decent guy. For instance, you can avoid the temptation to wear your heart on your sleeve and express your feelings prematurely. You can also set boundaries, and avoid being too soft with women. You don't have to be cruel or mean to get a woman's respect. You merely have to be assertive. Always remember that if you act like a doormat, you make it hard for women to resist wiping their boots on you. Also if you put a woman on a pedestal, you shouldn't be surprised when she kicks it down.