The Art of Charm: Seven Steps to Seduction

Seduction is a difficult craft, one that only looks easy. Many men and women around the world have wondered how their peers can effortlessly get any partner that they want. Sure, there are things that make it a little easier. Money, good looks, and a great voice can all make it easy, but that is all they do – make it easier. Anyone can seduce. Anyone can become charming. All anyone needs to know is how.

There are seven steps to the art of seduction.

Image Management:

Men and women alike have to have the right kind of image, both to themselves and to people around them. It is important to make friends when the opportunity arises and to be as charming as possible with every single person encountered. The most striking people do not hesitate to inform others of their admirable qualities. A strong opinion makes for a striking person, but it is important to never argue. It is hard to say no to a person who is both popular and well-liked.

Give Them What They Don't Expect:

Taste differs from person to person, but it's all about giving them something that they don't get every day. Beautiful women are showered with attention – so ignore them, but be around them. Make them wonder why this one person isn't wrapped around their little finger. Some men and women are striking, but find themselves ignored. Give them the attention they never get.

One Person Presentation:

Jealousy is a dangerous emotion which can lead to hurt feelings. The greatest danger jealousy brings to the table is that it makes people unpredictable. Jealous people are unpredictable. They may rush into the arms of another, or become moody and angry. It is best to keep from mentioning other lovers. This makes your date feel secure and special, feeling they were the only one in the world that caught your eye.

Keep the Conversation Interesting:

Seduction is about gaining and keeping the interest of a new potential lover. Topics such as Facebook or work are fine for making friends, but these things are mundane and boring. Talking about exotic places to go, mythology, astrology, fate, and the like is a much better idea. Seduction is not just about you, it's about the things that interest you and the things that interest her.

Space:

Absence makes the heart grow fonder and is a core part of seduction. Sometimes, seduction comes easily and quickly, but more often than not it will take a little time. Spend time apart from him or her and it will let the thought of you age like a fine wine. Sticking to her like glue makes you mundane and part of a routine. That is no way to seduce anyone. You stop being special. Give her some room and she will come to you.

Subtlety is the Best Policy:

Seduction is about showing, not telling. It is about letting them think about sex on their own accord. Never say things directly – hint at them, the way a poet would. Talking about sex can be construed as rude and overly suggestive. It puts pressure on your date, and many people respond negatively to pressure. Sex becomes the last thing on her mind.

Appreciation:

The heart of any successful seduction is true appreciation. You wouldn't be going after her unless something caught your eye. So be honest. Let her know what caught your eye. Do not fall into the trap of simply telling her what you think she wants to hear. Tell your date what you admire about them. Tell her honestly what makes her special, unique, and sexy. Make your date feel important and wanted. People respond to that kind of emotion.

Naturally, there will be nights where nothing seems to work, but the most seductive people in the world also know how to deal with rejection. Someone is going to reject you, but it is important to note that it does not speak badly of either of you. Lack of interest can be due to a number of issues, many having nothing to do with you. Maybe he or she is having an off night and they just want to be alone.

What is important is to keep trying. After being rejected by someone, shake it off and move on. Consider the experience practice and move on... don't quit. Every opportunity you take has a small chance of failure, but every opportunity you ignore has a complete chance of failure.