Should the Guy Pay for the Date? Dating Etiquette and Double Standards

Decades ago, no one questioned who should pay for a date...the man was always expected to pay. But dating etiquette has slowly evolved over the years. These days the man is not expected to pay for anything. The social double standards of the twentieth century no longer apply. However, someone has to pay for the expenses incurred. Find out who should cover the cost of dating activities, and be prepared to cover at least a portion of it when dining out, going to the cinema or participating in any other endeavors that are not completely free.

Be Prepared to Cover your Share of the Date

Some guys are old fashioned when it comes to dating, and they are happy to pay all costs, but this should never be expected. When planning a date, always bring enough money to cover your share, even if the guy chose the activities. It is a double standard to expect someone to pay based on their gender alone, and it is something that can be discussed in a tactful way while planning the date. If subsequent dates are likely, consider other options.

Take Turns Paying for Activity Costs

When wondering who should pay for the next date, consider who paid last time. If each person paid their own way, consider offering to cover the total cost. Volunteering to pay is a friendly gesture as well as a display of generosity. Taking turns is a good idea, but do not plan on total fairness. After all, expenses will not be the same every time. If coming up with the money will be a problem, go back to paying separately. After getting to know one another better, deciding who should pay for a date will no longer be a concern. Those that cannot afford costly endeavors should look for free or inexpensive things to do.

Allowing your Date to Pay

If the other person offers to pay for the entire date, decide for yourself if the proposition is acceptable. They might expect reciprocation on subsequent dates, or they might plan on paying each time. It is a personal choice. When wanting to keep the relationship on a more friendly level, it is best to pay your own way. Absolutely nothing will be expected in return.

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Dating can be expensive. Whether paying for every date, taking turns, or allowing a boyfriend or girlfriend to foot the bill, make sure that you are both on the same page regarding expectations. Some people are simply looking for companionship. They are not interested in marriage, at least not in the foreseeable future. Paying for dates in an effort to impress someone will never work if goals are not the same. Discuss expectations before becoming emotionally and physically involved with a boyfriend or girlfriend. Some women think the man should always pay for dating and won't date a man who isn't willing or able to do so. Some women always want to pay their own bill so they don't feel obligated in any way. If the willingness or inability to pay for dates is a deal breaker, rethink the entire relationship. True love cannot be bought or sold.