Is Your Relationship Threatening Your Independence?
People have different ideas of what a relationship should look like. While co-dependent, clingy relationships might work for some, they're not for others. If you're an independent woman, it's important that you don't allow a relationship to take that away from you. Here are 3 signs that your relationship might be threatening your independence.
1. Your boyfriend wants you to stay home more
You love to go out with friends and family, but your boyfriend would rather have you stay in with him more often. Being in a relationship doesn't mean that you need to stop going out, enjoying yourself, and experiencing new things. You can invite your boyfriend to come along. If he wants to stay home, that's his choice, but he can't keep you chained to his side. Being in a relationship doesn't mean that someone has control over your activities. You are not obligated to become a homebody because your boyfriend is one.
2. Your boyfriend thinks women should be housewives
If you live together and your boyfriend has this point of view, it's important that you do not give in to his ways. If you even give him a glimmer of hope that you'll become that kind of woman, he'll push for it more and more. It's important that no matter what he says or does, that you do not cave. If you find that he won't clean, cook, or pick up after himself, it might be time to consider moving out before he turns you into his maid.
3. Your boyfriend says you don't have to work
Even if your boyfriend makes one million dollars a year, don't quit your job. A lot of women find it flattering when their boyfriend tells them they don't have to work anymore. If you want to work, you should keep working. If you're only dating, there is no reason you should quit your job. Leaving your own job and earning no income of your own can make you very vulnerable. Even if you think your relationship will last forever, you should continue working and earning your own money. If he insists too much that you should stop working, he might be trying to make you dependent on him.
Being in a relationship doesn't mean you have to lose your independence. You can still be independent while maintaining a relationship. It's important that your boyfriend respects the independent part of you, doesn't try to control you, or doesn't become clingy and dependent on you.
Comments (1)
Where is such man?? Give him to me!!!!!!!
Never wished for anything more than be a loving wife and mother!!!
Yes I will still feel independent. Because it is not given by external conditions, it all happens inside our heads. Even a housewife may be independent in her own way. And happy!