10 Tips a Guy Doesn't Want to Date You
Finding the right man can be difficult and the world of dating can be a confusing and competitive play ground. Sometimes it's hard to tell what a man is thinking. Getting your hopes up after a few dates can lead to a crushing disappointment later. So, what does he really think about you? Don't waste your time waiting on a guy who is just stringing you along. Here are 10 tips to help you see if a guy is not taking your seriously.
Tip 1. He doesn't call
You have had a date and all seemed to go well. Trouble is, he didn't call. You are constantly checking your cell but there are no missed calls, no unnoticed texts. If he hasn't called, chances are he isn't thinking about you. Don't waste your time thinking about him.
Tip 2: Your dates are lame.
He takes you to the same restaurant every time or just wants to watch a movie on the couch and feel you up. If his dates show no hint of planning, then he obviously doesn't care about impressing you. When a man is attracted to a woman he wants to impress her. If your dates are noticably unimpressive, that's a hint he doesn't feel the need to please you. Toss this lame larry to the curb.
Tip 3. He is all talk.
When you're together he talks about all the great places you could go together. He may even mention you meeting his family. Unfortunately, his family is always out of town and he is too busy with work to take you anywhere. It can even be as small as him saying he will call you at 8:00 and not bothering until 11:00, if he calls at all. Face it, you aren't his priority. Drop this big talker and look for a man of action.
Tip 4. He is looking for someone else.
He contacts his ex girlfriends, messages other girls when you are on a date, has coffee with girls he just met. Long story short, men have friends who are girls, but if they are interested in one girl they won't jeopardize that realtionship by hanging out with randoms. Ditch this flirty philanderer and find a man who would rather spend time with you.
Tip 5. He's secertive.
His phone and computer are locked up like fort knox. He freaks when you go near his phone or glance at his computer screen. He's obviously hiding something. It doesn't really matter what he is hiding, just that he isn't being honest with you. If a guy is hiding something, it can't be anything good. Trust is the most essential part of any relationship. If you can't trust him, make it clear you just aren't into untrustworthy guys and move on.
Tip 6. He tells you he doesn't want a relationship.
So many women brush off this statement. If he tells you he doesn't want a relationship, what he means is, he doesn't want a relationship with you. When a man finds someone he connects with, nothing will stop him from being with that person. Find a man who has no qualms about making you his girlfriend instead of playing the waiting game with Mr. wishy washy.
Tip 7. He never invites you to his place or never goes to yours.
A guy who likes you will be willing to go anywhere to be with you. Even if this means it takes a little longer to get to work in the morning, he'll do it because he likes you. However, If he never wants to take you to his place, consider he doesn't want you to know where he lives or maybe just doesn't want you to get too comfortable at his place. A player won't want just any woman dropping by his place, especially if he is seeing multiple ladies.
Tip 8. He disappears.
He disappears for long periods of time, blocks you on facebook, avoids places you hang out. He clearly is not interested. If he didn't give you a reason for this sudden disappearance, he obviously doesn't care about your feelings. Let houdini do his disappearing act and find someone of substance.
Tip 9. He talks about your friends too much.
He has met a few of your friends and he makes it known how attractive or fun they are. He asks which ones are single and seems unconcerned that his interest is hurting your feelings. Clearly, he isn't your number one fan and he should be.
Tip 10. You are paying for everything.
Sure he likes a good movie with you and is up for a nice dinner, but you are the one paying. You are going broke trying to keep a guy who can't open his wallet for you once in awhile. This guy is living it up on your dime and not offering anything in return. A real man doesn't need a sugar mama.
Find a good man and a good partner by using these 10 hints. If he's not interested, it's best to find out early. If he doesn't call, or calls someone else, it's obvious you're not on his mind like you should be. If he talks all about himself, but never about you and he doesn't put any thought into your dates, he just doesn't care. Maybe he seems great but he has a million secrets and he straight up says he doesn't want a relationship, he is flat out telling you he is not interested. All these tips and more suggest he doesn't take you seriously and it's time to move on. A fun loving filly like you deserves a man who can't take his eyes off you. Use these tips, get out and meet a real man.
Comments (23)
1. Nothing is mentioned her calling him. What if, in their parting words, she said, "I'll call you", and so he's waiting for that call? This is a stupid premise. Similarly, what if work just had a major breakdown, or similar, and everybody's doing over-time (some companies operate in this mode all the time, been there done that) and he is just too busy, even though he's thinking of her constantly? Yes, there are people that just walk away (women on here do it 90% of the time, in my experience, but many are scammers, so I don't judge). But it isn't a "male" trait. One call solves this fabricated dilemma.
2. If a woman is more concerned about being impressed, that just being with him, maybe he is making the point he doesn't want the distractions other places may entail. Maybe he doesn't want a 'gold-digger'. I knew a very pretty woman in the Navy. She started hinting to me she might be interested. But just a quick conversation with one guy put an end to that. She always demanded more and more expensive restaurants, etc. And she switched boyfriends often. It appears I was the only one that said no to her. So, ladies, if you want expensive, offer to pay the bill, or be more involved in the planning of the date. Or best yet, concentrate on the person you are with, not where you're going.
3. Same premise as 1. People have busy lives nowadays. Making blanket statements like this is just bigotry towards men. If a man spends a lot of time at work, it is for a reason. It is simple to find out whether he is "stalling" or truly busy. In some situations you can ask if you can swing by his work or house to drop something off, like info on the next date you are hoping for or planning. To make statements like this, assumes that something untoward is going on. Again, this is just bigotry against men, when superficial details such as these are spewed out.
4. This one actually makes a little sense. But it is a two-way street. In my experience, women are far more likely to be talking on the phone during a date, than men. I've been in many a restaurant with women answering their phones. Men do too, but not as much. But if they do, they are usually on it the entire time. Most of those that I recall appeared to be married, and I felt sorry for the wife.
5. If his computer and phone aren't locked up, some scammer is sure to get into them at some point, and it may expose your phone number publically as well. If his phone *isn't* locked up like Fort Knox, stay away from him and don't give him your phone number, unless you want to see it published on the world wide web.
Etc. The fact is, this whole thing isn't chock-full of common sense. Some that follow appear to be blatant, and obvious, but I didn't read past this point.
Yes, there are lots of men that are cads. I've heard them talking that they only will stay with any woman for 4 years, so they never end up in a common law marriage. So, at the four year mark, they get rid of their "girlfriend" of the past four year. This is evil behaviour. If you are dating a guy, and his last relationship lasted only 4 years, you might want to look into why.
Common sense is much more important than a list of "reasons" that may not even apply.
For example, any guy in or near his 30's, should been able to find a wife by then. (There are exceptions to this. Total abstinence, for example.) But, it doesn't take much to find out, if he's the slightest bit honest, why he hasn't married. Usually, he can get what he wants without getting married. No marriage, no messy divorce. He gets to keep all his money. No support payments. Many men see this as a way of life. Don't "put out" for these creeps. Women who do are the ones that help create them. And if he asks for nude photos? Guess what. No Gentleman would ever do that!
Just my opinion.
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