Dating is a Game: Rules to Follow for Success

Dating is a Game Rules to Follow for Success

It's easy to fall into a dating slump. Anyone who has had several bad dating experiences in a row knows exactly what that means. For some daters, their entire dating experience may be a slump. Although there is such a thing as bad luck, it is far more likely that people who almost never find lasting relationships through dating aren't doing things right. It's true, there is no exact path or perfect anecdote for how two compatible people meet and fall in love; however, there are some rules that will help you play the game of dating with far more victories and fewer blunders when it really counts. When one has success in dating, dating can become fun. Even if you aren't looking for the one or a serious relationship, when you are doing things right, success follows; and success always brings satisfaction. You can start your journey to satisfying dating by forgetting the failures of the past and following a few rules that will most definitely lead to rewarding experiences in the future.

Rule #1

Approach every dating opportunity as you would moving to a new city or starting a new job: Leave your baggage in the past and allow your date to do the same. Even if this is just for the hour or two you are on your date, allowing for the past to be in the past is important for getting to know someone without the distractions of what's happened long ago. Far too many daters bring the past into the present and let it dominate and control the present. If you focus too much on your past relationships in talking with a new dating prospect and ask too much about their past relationships, that is almost always a distraction. Although past events do collectively make a person who he or she is, isolated events or relationships don't. It's best to focus on who you are now, and also for you to find out who your date is now. The past can always be discussed later, once the present has successfully allowed you and your date to connect as the people you currently are.

Rule #2

Don't let petty mistakes or superficial turnoffs destroy something before it has a chance to begin. Some daters are unforgiving because of past experiences or superficial pet peeves. If you are going on a blind date, and your date shows up late, don't automatically assume your date is a jerk or isn't your type. Maybe your date is perfect with the exception he or she doesn't have much style when it comes to clothing--that shouldn't lead to a veto or an assumption you couldn't be a good match. Far too many daters allow small problems to eliminate relationship opportunities that could have otherwise been really great. Even if it's only for the date you've agreed to, allow yourself to let mistakes and turnoffs go and give your date a fair shot throughout your evening together.

Rule #3

It is a natural human tendency to be turned off to someone who is egocentric. Some daters are egocentric on dates because they have been taught or assumed that dating is a chance to really prove to the other person how great they are. There are some people who are narcissistic, and that does make it really hard to make meaningful connections. The following rule is one of the most important rules, not only for dating but for all relationships: Put your dates needs and interests before your own. Be focused and interested in what your date is talking about, and be a good listener. There are few things that are more attractive in a potential partner than someone who genuinely cares about you. It's important to show that you care about the person you are dating from the beginning. This rule will allow you to make connections more easily, and if nothing else, you will make some great friends throughout your dating career.

Rule #4

Be classy. Some daters have falsely assumed that being classy is old fashioned and out of date. Class is something that never fails because it is the action of putting forth one's best self. Doing things like minding your manners, being courteous to your date and the others around you, and being groomed and properly dressed for the occasion are things that never fail to impress. Being classy is influential and shows that you care about yourself and others. It will also leave your dating partners wanting more.

Rule #5

Treat your date well no matter what the outcome of the date is. Whether you've just finished a single date or you've been dating someone for a long time, it's always good to end things on a good note. Be respectful of a person even when you don't respect them. If you don't intend on ever seeing a woman again at the end of a date, that doesn't mean you can't walk her to her door and make sure she gets home safely. Don't spread gossip about your date or make others think ill of people you have been involved with. It only reflects badly on you, and quite often, unkind words get back to the person you say things about. Taking the high road and remaining respectful can go a long way, and it can lead to you having a really good reputation. A good reputation leads to more dating opportunities with the kind of positive people you will want to date.

These five rules are simple, but many people don't follow these rules. It doesn't matter if you are bad at one or all five of these rules, doing what you can to follow the ones you aren't good at will help your dating life. These are time-tested rules that work in almost all circumstances when dealing with romantic relationships. As you test these rules out and perfect them with your own personality and style, you will have fun dating and be successful doing it.

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