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Without knowing all your lifes detail or your ages / tastes etc I would guess one of following may have happened.

1. Your partner is unsure of what she wants as part of her next stage in life. May be having doubts about the next phase (your next posting being the trigger)

2. She is seeing someone else or getting bad advice (not talking about having an affair)

3. Unresolved compatability issues crept into relationship over time.

Best guide. Not blame her for this at this time. Try not to be angry (easy said than done.. but try and stay calm) Seek to understand what has lead to this. Majority of us are not able to do this ourselves. So best advice from here is get counselling. Can be combination of couples and or seperately to work out what has happened. Counsellor will not seek to blame; merely extract the facts for both to see. And to build common solutions. Often we do things without realising why and what the motivations were behind them.

I'd try through your commander or one up line officer. They will not want an unhappy chappy in their group. They'll have the resources to help. Your mates (if they are close) will not want to see you feeling hurt.

Good Luck mate. Pretty bad time but it can get resolved. Most of us have gone through that.
Take care.

what he said ...
also
Dont blame yourself
remember if someone doesnt want to be with you then your not going to enjoy their company anyway .
Life is full of suprises from bad onesgood ones grow so relax what will be will be ..
Best thoughts n vibes to you
Love Kizzy

You're 22 and she is probably young as well. While your experiences make you older and more mature hers are grounded in 'cool time' rather than your 'real time.'

Give her what she wants, carry on with your life. Be a father rather than an adversary and understand you grew up faster than she did.

Been there, done it and got on with my life.

If I were you I would seek counseling to see if this marriage still hangs on some love between yourselves.
It's not only what you have put into the marriage but also what she has to keep it going.
You have to do this for her and yourself, leave aside the anger and hurt and see if both of you can figure this out with professional help.
Good luck!!

i'm probably the worst person to try and give advice,.. so i'm not going to... but i will tell my story and what i've tried to do to get on with life since. 2 years ago,.. i had been in a 6 year relationship with a man i adored,..was engaged to be married and planning the wedding. he was also in the military and left for a 6 month medical training thing in tx. (i'm giving you the very very short version) we'd been through the distance thing many times before. i never cheated,.. it's not in my nature. we were the happiest we'd ever been right before he left, .. went on a vacation and had an awesome time.. almost decided to forego the wedding plans and just get hitched! but thought better of it. he'd been gone about a month when he just cut off contact all together and about 4 months later sent me a text saying it was over. we had been living together for a long time and all he'd taken with him was one duffle bag with a couple shirts and pants. he left everything here and never came back. last christmas i finally brought myself to move all his things out and into storage (incase he ever wanted them back) now.. granted,.. i don't have children with him, so i don't know what to tell you there, except love them. but for the past two years i have struggled to put myself back together and face the reality of it all. the reality being that some people in this world (most actually) don't give all of themselves to the person they're with. you may think you know them,.. but in most cases,.. you don't. i was always a people pleaser in my past,.. and recently i have discovered it's uselessness. please yourself. spend this time finding out who you are on your own. i've never known myself so well,.. and i discover new things everyday. things i had no clue i was able to do or deal with. you'll find you're much stronger than you ever thought and once you find that knowledge and accept others choices whether you agree with them or not,.. you'll be a much free'r person and most likely will have much more success in your next relationship because you're eyes will be open a lot wider to who people are on the inside. don't hold a grudge,.. while anger feels a lot easier to deal with than hurt,.. it will only fester inside and eventually weight you down. find things you enjoy doing and do them well... discover new people and new stories that tell of who you are... so you can define yourself by more than just the old stuff,... the old you.. and do something you've never done before! it's much better to grow from pain than to shrink from it. but like i said before,.. i'm probably one of the worst people to give advice,.. so you can take it or leave it.. each finds their own way. my way might not be yours... but that's what i've tried to do over the past two years. i do want to make one thing clear tho.. as wonderful as growing sounds... don't for a second think it's not supposed to hurt. i still have days that aren't good,.. where i find myself back in the same place as i was when it first happened... but i have more good days than bad,.. and eventually i know i will be happy with someone new in my life again,.. eventually... but it's been a long hard road and before you can ever be happy with someone new,.. you must first be happy with yourself,. by yourself. i wish you all the love in the world dear. no one deserves these struggles,.. but it's part of what life is about and it will all become a part of who you are. embrace it.

let it go, obviously she doesn't want to be with you anymore, go on with your life and find someone new
I'd suggest - as a New Year's resolution package: relax, redefine yourself (you as you, not somebody's husband), find new people, do yoga, go somewhere far, discover new areas!
In spite of all, learn from this experience and don't blame other women

THANK YOU ALL SO SO SO MUCH!!!!

seems to be some info missing.

was she stateside, and you overseas?


did she meet someone back home?