Posted:Fri Jan 9, 2009 5:35 PM CST
how to have a happy marriage
Too often, couples believe marriage should be perfect right from the start.
If every minute is not filled with bliss and joyfulness then something must be wrong. Perhaps they married the wrong person, or they just, "fell out of love." Maybe they just need someone else to make them happy.
My observation is that those couples who truly have a happy marriage are those who weather the storms of life, who work daily to create happiness, and who give their love to their spouse.
A beautiful "soul-mate," type of marriage does not happen overnight, nor does it just happen.
These profound and deeply loving relationships are the result of years of dedication, commitment, support, care, nurturing, and love.
Like many desires in life, we often tend to want immediate gratification. We want things to be given to us. We like the idea of instant blessings, joy, and reward.
A truly successful marriage is not something that comes with the wave of a wand, or the blink of an eye. It doesn't come by wishes, dreaming, or pretending.
A beautiful marriage comes from compassion, commitment, understanding, determination, forgiving, and giving, giving, and giving. It comes from love.
A beautiful marriage does not just suddenly appear. It is created as it is lived.
A beautiful marriage is a masterpiece... it takes time.
