moonkitten Blog Post: Fri Feb 6, 2009 5:42 PM CST

moonkitten Brighton, Michigan USA
Posted:Fri Feb 6, 2009 5:42 PM CST

Oh,Pa-Wasn`t Ma Enough?

I had only just been divoced,and trying really hard to recouperate from a 17 yr.abusive marriage.I finally got settled in my house,couldn`t get my ex to pay child support,he thought it would force me to go back to him.I had been looking for work,but I didn`t have a car.My neigbor,got a job downtown,for me,with her,and said I could depend on her to ride downtown with her,Whew!! I felt independend,at last....Then...I heard the doorbell ring.....There was Pa,looking very forlorn,& sad.Behind him,on my small porch lay his huge trunk."Vell,daughter,I`m here ,now-to help you!! I leave Ma,dat vuman.Oye!!! She gotet big mout....I move in vit you"..."That`s it,you`re moving in with me-just like that????You just left her!!!!"NO,NO- I tell her I moving in vit you". -"Oh,I see,as long as you told her".What could I say-just leave him on the porch...He went on and on."You need man in the house".Yeah,sure -I need a man;All I could think,was, my dad had left,and I knew how my mother was ,so dominating,no one could ever get a word in.But my dad was 71.yrs old.What was he thinking?! Well,I kicked my daughter out of her room,put a rollaway bed in mine,& that was that.Two weeks later,Pa went walking around,& decided I needed a car.He paid someone $350. for something with a deficient,ill-fitting wheel arm.Which at every stop sign,the car would make a left turn by itself,even if I was going right."Thank you,Pa"...Goot,you no have to valk!!! Yeah,Pa-yeah...After all the yelling he`d do about raising my kids,my sister`s mother in law came to visit,with my sister and her husband.He got into his politics,and the mother-in-law got into it with Pa.Oh, MY God!!!I finally went to my room,excusing myself,after i heard her tell him to"shut up,preacher".I finally appeared in the living room,thinking everyone left,but found the pair making out -on my sofa!!!!!My sister was outside,smoking."PA!PA!!!WHAT ARE YOU DOING"????? I felt like pulling my hair out."I sorry,she goot lookink,you know"?!! '"Yeah,but-this is not right...Ma is already not talking to me".",Aw,she crazy voman anyvay"!!"I know,I know".(Believe it or not,I find that hard,too).During the night,(and I heard nothing),my Dad moved out and went to live with that woman.But it only lasted for two weeks.In one month`s time,he had moved back home with Ma.He thought the grass was greener,on the other side of the fence,but what men don`t seem to realize,is,that it still has to be mowed.Pa died of cancer,a year later.I tried to find a lesson in this ,too.But.I`m still at a loss-always trying my best to be an obedient,loving,understading,`(confused) daughter.-whaddya gonna do??

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Horizon51 Tokoroa, Waikato New Zealand
Fri Feb 6, 2009 7:11 PM CST
Some men just don't know what side there bread is buttered on, and i guess some woman can be like that to.
Havin trouble gettin my ex to get the msg as well, Geezzzfrustrated
JayTee Auckland, Auckland New Zealand
Fri Feb 6, 2009 11:54 PM CST
You can't take responsibility for anyone but you (& your small children of course)
I've been where you are...maybe try to stop trying to be the obedient, loving, understanding daughter and give yourself half a chance?
Life's too short to spend it pleasing everyone else honey.

Somewhere in there you have to have some "it IS all about me" time.
Sometimes it's hard to say no to everyone else's demands, sometimes it's real easy. The more you practice the better it gets.

kia kaha (stay strong)
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moonkitten Brighton, Michigan USA
Sat Feb 7, 2009 5:36 AM CST
To the wonderful understanding comments:I`m 75,now.There`s laughter & tears,as you will find in the memories,I`m sharing here...My parents have been gone for a long time.My daughter & I have a wonderful relationship now-not to worry.My interests are now my own.As of late,I wasted many years,getting into the wrong relationships.Number one priority is myself.That`s why I`m here-to find a decent man-but younger.LOL-Nessie







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