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Hi, freedom, I would like to say that men do not understand the purpose of women. Freedom, I just wrote this in the "advise" forum. The planet Mars symbolizes a warrior and a protector. The Planet Venus symbolizes love. The basic ability of a man is to protect and fight and the basic ability of a women is to love. The problem with men is that we move women from the planet of Venus (Love) to our planet Mars (warrior and protector). In the process we (men) put to much of ourself into women which causes fighting. We know that women are not made to fight. However, men... if you have a fighting woman that means that she has too much of you inside of her... A woman's purpose is not to bring stress, strife, or contention into the house or relationship, but rather bring love into the house, home, or relationship. Men ask yourself what have I done to breed fighting and conflict into a being that was shaped for love? Just remember men... we love when we feel needed, women love when they feel cherished. Because of life's experience of lesser men... it becomes harder for a woman to receive love because women have so many fasle pretense of what love is suppose to look like... Love through the perspective of a man is base on provision, rather than affection. Men use gifts for affection. "You know I love you because of what I bought you". On the other hand, a woman who thrist for love do not need a gift... if she can get affection. A women would rather have feelings because affection is more than the gift. If there was nothing on the face of the earth but the trees, the grass, water, and mountains. How would you love her? And how would you love him? You got it... now love her that way... at this very moment... for the rest of your life.

Hello freedoom,

I guess men can not express them selves well like women! I do agree with you it is rude to not have the respect and courage to say goodbye.
If a man is brave enough to face his women and with full honesty say, what he really thinks, and why he wants to end a good relationship, we would have not had all these rich lawyers, getting richer, sorting out divorce casess, we would have had peace. But sadly some men choose not be happy and they get what they deserve!!!Stay lonely and regret the past...
If only they believe in good communications as way to sort out issues, you would not have had pain of thinking why he did not say goodbye!!
Let me you some thing, you are the winner and he lost!!

A very interesting issues you have raised....Well,I have said a polite 'Good bye' and 'wish you the Best' to my ex-partners and have being 'horse whipped' for it.....Its not only 'Men' that have this issue.....plenty of Ladies out there who are ,to use your words 'Rude'
As for perfect...No, I am far from perfect,and I know that as well.....welcome to the human race....as a person...well all have our good and bad points.....Oh plenty of Men have also 'Run' away from there Wife's,I am one of them,and I didn't leave for no reason either....I don't think this as a 'Man' and 'Woman' Issue more as a 'Person' issue....Food for thought...all the best to you

John Dutchie

How about why does a woman after 15 years decide that your anniversary is the best time to say, "Thanks for the flowers, but I should probably tell you that I don't love you anymore and would like for you to move out."

I gave a polite goodbye, I let her keep both houses and all but one vehicle as well as the business. I wish her the very best as I do the other 7 women I have had a relationship with. A recent one I had hoped to begin a relationship with told me simply one day to please not ever contact her again she wanted some space and if she decided to she would contact me again one day. So I again said a polite goodbye and left her knowing I would always be willing to be a friend if she wanted one.

Perhaps you can tell me why this has happened perhaps you can not. It would change nothing in the end other then to offer one more reason why people tend to turn away from other people. They grow apart, they change enough that the one they are with is no longer a satisfying partner to share their life with. There are of course countless reasons and the only real way to get an answer is to ask the one doing the leaving so to speak.

I have heard 8 times now that it is not my fault, that they just need something different. Perhaps that is all it is, perhaps they are being kind in not telling me how I offended them or turned their love away from me. I may never know the truth to that. All I can do is accept that they no longer wish to be a part of my life and wish them well on their continued journey.

This may not answer your question at all but I felt compelled to respond since I have only ended one of my relationships and even in that one I said goodbye and remain friends with her to this day and thats been almost 16 years ago that we seperated. (I use seperated since I have never 'officially' been married)

I am not perfect by any means and perhaps it is my imperfections that drove my companions away, but perhaps you can tell me why if it was me, they didn't have the kindness to tell me what it was about me that made them leave.

Take care,
me

Dear Freedom,
Generalization will get you nowhere. Except to meet the next Guy with "closed" mind that He IS the same as the one that obviously have hurt you. Past is past, one that have left you was not worth your love. Period, finito.
Move on, you are young enough and maybe, just maybe, the right Men - YOUR Men, is just a breath away. But HE will need your right attitude before he starts discovering beautiful you.
That's an American view of this European Man.
Let me know if this makes any sense to you. I would be curious.

Freedom
This is such a simple answer.
Even a chimp can understand.
Men that are"real"men don't show emotions
It's a sign of weakness
CASE CLOSED

Most men are not in touch with their emotional side. Still many are taught to express emotion is to show weakness. To put all men in the same basket is not fair - it's a generalization. I've met some women who are also unable to say good-bye and that too could be a problem.

It's a human problem not just a man's problem.

I must post on this! Too bad about the cowards who would be so rude. However, I can understand their fear too. Still not any excuse. I had a young lady leave me abruptly a few years ago, similar story. Then she even went so far as to pin a note on my door and run, nearly a year later! Saw her running to her car, in the note she asked me to return some photos and mementos.

The moral is: I really wanted, and still do, to tell her, "bye, bye sweetheart, I enjoyed our time together, do take care." That is all! Not to be mean or rude, just to express my feelings, with a smile.