Posted:Tue Mar 10, 2009 2:10 PM CST
Razorblade Romance..
Dont ask about the blog title. Just a moment of confusion. I cant believe im confused already.
I have no idea what the heck to do, if anyones interested by this stage, ill explain. So ive been with my boyfriend now for 2 months it will be 3 in a few weeks, trouble is i like this guy and he likes me and we have more in common and things between us are pretty good we've known each other longer than ive known my boyfriend, we we're going to meet but i met my boyfriend and we decided to date, but of course now i really want to be with this guy and at the same time i dont want to desert something good after 2/3 months 
I love my boyfriend, but all he seems to do is lecture me when i cant do anything right or i have down days he tells me to stop being a faggot and in a way he's probably right and then he pulls all this stuff about how much he cares for me and how much he doesn't want me to be some kinda dolie or shelf filler later in life.
We had a very large row that lasted for 2 days, which was Saturday and Sunday, and he was like i leave you for one weekend and you turn emo. I love being emo because i used to be that way before we met and its like im progressing into something ive missed and i love it, now i get told off for wearing eyeliner and studded belts.
I wish someone could see my problems and give me a push in the right direction because im sure as hell confused. 
goldstone
Somewhere Inn, Colorado USA
Wed Mar 11, 2009 3:05 PM CST
Hello confused,
These are matters of the heart. No one call tell you pick one or the other, this is your choice. Experiences from other people can say, one is good and one is bad - and logically you can tell what is what. The tree is known by it's fruit. For where your heart is, there your treasure will be also.
One may be abusive, and one may not be. Here's the gist of what I can tell you without judgment:
"Though I speak, but I have not Love, I have become sounding brass. Though I have knowledge, but have not Love, I am nothing. Though I bestow good, but I have not Love, it profits me nothing."
"Love = suffers long and is kind, does not envy, does not parade itself, is not puffed up, does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil, does not rejoice in iniquity - but rejoices in truth."
"Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things, love never fails. When that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away with. And now abide faith, hope, and love; these 3 things: And the greatest of these things is Love. Pursue Love."
Lastly, in my experience, we don't really know what love encompasses when we are young. We mature in this, especially guys, at a later moment in time. Consider the marriage vows - that should tell you something... and maybe scare you to wait a little while until you are sure of things on which you must decide. That is all I can tell you. The rest is up to you. I wish you well.
DBOWMAN
brighton, East Sussex, England UK
Fri Mar 13, 2009 2:15 PM CST
your boyfriend is wrong you are not a faggot. 4 years ago I came out of a domestic violence situation. Domestic violence isn't just about 1 partner hitting another it can also be constant name calling, constant critisms and various threats to leave or commit suicide unless you do what your partner tells you, basically emotional, mental and psychological abuse which I went through for 5 years to end in physical violence when I told my partner I was divorcing him. I saw the effect this was having on my son that was what made me divorce my partner. This sort of abuse can make you lose all self confidence and it has taken me 4 years to get to the stage where I now trust someone enough to want to get to know and eventually settle down with him. It seems to me that you are in the early stages of this kind of situation, I could be wrong, my advice is get out and go with the guy who is treating you right. In the end though only you can make the decision that is right for you. I wish you luck in whatever choice you make. I don't know if there are any support groups for victims of domestic violence in your area but if there are why don't you go and talk to them they might be able to help. My local support group was a great help in the first year after my divorce in practical and emotional terms.