Why does bad things happen to good People?
I need perspective...and I am therefore open to different opinions.Background:
I'm a trained Industrial Psychologist and left a good job in Johannesburg to move closer to my folks last year December. My dad is bed bounded for the past 15 years and my mom had polio as a little girl. Most of my family is in Germany, I'm the only child, couldn't find a life partner as yet and do not have any children. Just as I arrived in the Northern Cape, my mom fell and I have two bed bounded folks I have to take care of.
Question:
Now, I need to know if there are any other people who also sometimes wonder as to why bad things happen to good People?
I'm not Miss Perfect, but I try to be good and do good where ever I go. So, tell me why does life have to be like This? Am I the only one who are maybe too critical when it gets to why things happen the way it Does?
PS: Remember to give the people you know who are caregivers a special hug this Christmas, as it could be very much needed.
Comments (15)
Diference is bad people don't give a heck!!!...
It's hard work to take care of your parents, because you DO care...
If you were another kind of people you've just walked away from them...
Hugs!!!
Your comment is appreciated. I also believe it comes from a very sincere place. Thank you.
Getting help, by means of a home, will be extremely difficult for me. We are a very close and small family...having them in a home will provide me with more stress than freedom to enjoy what life has to offer. Once again, my question is, ...why did it happen with us as any form of sending them 'away ' is totally out of my field of reference. The issue and personal believe of blood is thicker than water gets to me...I believe it was brought over my path and I need to deal with it, should there be joy in life it will include them as their well being is part of my joy...And here, some may feel I am a bit psychotic and maybe I am...
This is maybe also the reason why I am not married as yet...I need meet a person for whom I'll be prepared to love him even adult nappies...that would be my personal definition of true love.
I guess sometimes it is how we view life. Today I just heard that a dear friend of mine's brother died aged 68... Not old, but not young either... His death was not expected. The story behind this is that his mother buried her 9 year old son some almost 40 years ago (he was her youngest child and died of meningitis) about 5 years ago she buried a daughter aged 41 who died of leukemia....after a long struggle with it ( leaving 8 children behind...2 married, the rest all at home) This week of Christmas she will bury a 3rd child. She is heart broken, my heart is broken for her... and sad YET... The wonderful thing is ... She says ...''why not me?'' This woman is as good a person as I know and I know some wonderful people. She has taken strangers in off the street and fed them. A true Christian in every sense of the word.
This life, lonely is not fair if we view it only from this life. Fortunately the woman I am talking about has a deep abiding faith in God and leaves it all in his hands.
It is hard and I feel for you... I was a caregiver to my dear mum and it is heart wrenching at times.
Hang I there dear lady and God Bless you for your kind heart.
Lots of hugs to you
Yeah, that is a good observation...Darlaston jumped in, don't know how and also don't know where that is
Have always given from my self to others to help and support but never get anything back from life but more problem.....very strange but thats life apparently........
WRONG: This wasnt the totaly truth......I did forget that heaven has always been so kind to me that I can walk through fire but my spirit is always high.....so......I dont know if that is some kind of payback?:)
I haven´t read all the comments but, from a spiritual perspective, we are supposed to have "chosen" our family, relatives, friends before incarnation, and also the lessons we want to learn here on this earth for our personal and spiritual growth.
What happens "FOR" us, has nothing to do whether we are "good", or "bad", it just happens because it is in our soul contract and we chose it.
Of course, we all have "Free Will" and can chose to terminate this contract but, in this case, we will probably have some "Karma" we will need to pay back in the next life?
The only way to know is through some past life regression work, and also, sometimes, through a journey to the Akashic Records.
Hope it helps?
We just can hang in there and try to make the best of it.
Your input is appreciated. Thank you so much.
Yeah, when night falls in SA and when I am done with everything I had to do for my day, I am grateful that I am able to do what I was suppose to do. Further more, when I see the appreciation in the eyes of my two parents for the things I do for them, it provides me with a defined purpose of why it is worth while living. This I think is critical for being a human being. We need to feel valued as this a critical facet of personal gratification of to why we life. This gratification comes in different forms for different people, job, parenthood, role we play in our community/church and even relationships. Point is...With the sad in my current circumstances, it also provides me with a great feeling of appreciation and achievement.
On the aspect of why certain things happen the way it Does, the older I get, I'm getting the idea that all these things are pre planned. It is part of a predefined destination. The measurement for the human species will be how did we deal with whatever crossed our path...point is what will happen, will happen...Our role is restricted in modifying happenings and consequences of these happenings, but point is, what will be will be...If it is planned for us to get cancer we will get that, the modifier could be the age
we get that, by example following a healthy lifestyle versus not. The same applies to becoming a very rich person, if it is not in the destination plan, we can work, play lotto, go mad...but will always have to work to be able to afford a decent living. Here the genetic theories and the impact behavioural science can have on a human being is of great interest for me. Supporting to this, is the debate why certain people are born in certain areas with much opportunities vs others who are in a rural, deprived areas somewhere in deep Africa...so I can go on and on...
My point is, in trying times I constantly need to remind myself that my current circumstances are part of my destiny, the challenge is to accept this and to make the most of every day...