Addressing unhappiness ....
Quite often I work with people who are very unhappy in their current circumstances... The scope of these people differ, from very well educated, rich, attractive to the opposite of the continuum... Sometimes I am amazed to realise once again that there is a big difference between what we see on the surface (the white picket fence and poodle picture) and really what is happening behind a fancy front door...I also can't help to wonder how many of life sufferings and unhappiness are not self inflicted and the acceptance of that circumstances to such a point where something breaks... only then we admit that there is a problem and seeking for help...
The following pointers , maybe to use that could enable everyone to spot and address unhappiness sooner and more effectively (based on my experience)...
Always try to improve the knowledge and skills base, learning is a life long process even for older people,
Read a lot...It enhances the basis for interesting topics and discussions...
Get your own pot where you can bloom (even if you don't have to)...The ability to be independent, gives a golden key to freedom...
Surround yourself with people who has a good influence on you... only negative people and 'takers' will take its toll over the long run...
Know what is happening in your area and what support is available... link in with a small group where you feel comfortable, loners find it very difficult to break from 'behind the fancy door circumstances'...
Spent time on your physical health... Our bodies is the vehicle of our souls...
Make the best of your features... We are not all equally pretty, but we need to be pretty for ourselves as that builds self confidence...
Make time to take stock... Regarding the most important aspects of your life... remember, your children will leave the house one day and then the question is ... what is left for you....
Address the little devils before it grows into monsters... speak up even if you need to apply a bit of humour...
Only a couple of thoughts as I once again realised how many unhappy people we have in this amazing world...
Comments (24)
great advice can't say i agree with it all.
People, and children in particular, should be taught resilience.
Life is going to punch you from all sides, that is a fact, it is how you cope with these blows is what counts.
but when society is the much greater tool that keeps knocking some down, positive thinking keeps them going for so long without some positive actions also.
I'll go pass those words onto a friend ...
and very quickly runaway afterwards
Depression could be a typical monster, however depression is a complex issue and most often requires medical as well as life style changes with psychotherapy ... depending the cause and the severity thereof.... even with depression, if not taken care of with minor episodes, it can effect relationships, resulting in a spiral impact... that could have been 'easier' addressing/controlling in the beginning compared to later...
Monsters as within the context of my blog refers to any issue that started as small but spiralled out of control affecting different areas of our life's... Relationships, energy, health, self perception of our self worth...constructive, logical thinking processes...
And yes, that's a fine toolkit you have there
Now that I am immersed in Asian culture, I have a new found curiosity about the Japanese. I hear very interesting stories coming out of Japan. A well oiled machine.
Good morning to you!
Well, If we learned unhappiness is a temporary status in our life. Then the rest are the happiness.
I'm an optimistic person, pretty content, but I have to live here and deal with everybody else, so I keep to myself more now. Happiness is a state of mind, and has alot to do with skills to solve problems. I think too many people don't have that inner peace and feel hopeless, maybe they give up. Another factor is upbringing: scientists are now finding that a person's brain is shaped for life by how they were treated as small children! So I figure there are alot of warped souls out there. I try to surround myself with positivity and don't watch films that are filled with negativity. We really are what we think, see and do, so I am mindful of that.