Keeping it real vs chameleons
I’m seeing a man who is straight as a die and has a personality built on rock. We occasionally do not see eye to eye, which is quite a shock, because my best male buddy is a chameleon. You know the type I mean? expert at being the person you want them to be.Are chameleons bad? No. They are fun, sympathetic, empathetic, in tune with you, because you ARE the tune. The stronger your personality, the more they will align with you.
Are they cruel and deliberately deceitful? No. They don't do it on purpose, they can't help it. Their attraction to you is real, they like the person you make them become.
Are they trustworthy? Duh, no. When they get tired of the tune, or find an easier one, or feel too pressured by the personality you have given them, they will vanish.
Do you walk away? It is hard to walk away from someone who suits you so perfectly.
So - enjoy the friendship, why not? You’ve made friends with yourself, you know. Just take advice from Auntie Elegsabiff, don't fall in love, as it could hurt deeply when it ends, who wants to be rejected by themselves?? (You haven't been. Re-read)
Think of it rather as finding out you really do like yourself and you enjoy your company very much. Looked at that way, it isn’t altogether a bad thing. Just a bit – unreal.
And look for real friends. They're much harder work, mind you
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and or entertaining too many men.
I like interesting people.
No whacky baccy here
Thing is, those who've had a chameleon friend or even lover have sometimes been stung. I'm spreading the good word.
hang on need a moment here
I'm reeling.
Wow.
What happens when your buddy meets all his ladies at once? Tartan?
Why settle for a boring stick in the mud that will drive you batty with his predictability?
No, go for the colorful chameleon who will keep life bright, beautiful and entertaining.
Problem is that colorful chameleons become easily bored and may scoot off to the next tree.
And it will, sooner or later. Almost has to.
I know. Boring.
They also make nice pets and you can carry them around on your shoulder.
No No I mean a certain amount of changing is good from both people for long lasting friendships.
Thats why they say when your partnership, marriage, boyfriend split you should be on your own for awhile to learn who you are again as an individual. Two people together grow together, I have branches all over these days
But not ready for to bring it home yet. much rather see a pair of slippers at my hearth,
Actually I'm not 63, I'm really 64. I just won't put my true date of birth on the net when I register or for anything.