Ross123 Blog Post: Tue Jun 16, 2009 3:12 PM CST

Ross123 Beverly, Massachusetts USA
Posted:Tue Jun 16, 2009 3:12 PM CST

Looking for the silver lining in the cloud.

It's hard to launch myself into the single world after 18 years of marriage, but I will hold my head up and stay positive and keep a sense of humor. I do have a job, not a good one, but a very secure one. Right now, with unemployment nationally, at 9.4% and rising, how many people have what I consider a secure job, in the European or Japanese or Civil service sense- something that you have legal rights to, which can only be lost after a very expensive buyout? Not too many people.
I have a decent relationship with my kids. I am separated, not divorced. In a very odd way, our society has made a fetish out of codifying and agonizing over the exact stage and status of relationships, and who is available and not available. Maybe this is a way to make sense out of what I see as a world that has gone increasingly crazy. So someone who has not legally severed the last link with the ex is taboo to many.




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sweet_saucy2008 Northwest, Tennessee USA
Tue Jun 16, 2009 5:20 PM CST
There are many reasons to sever any ties through divorce. One important one is that you are still accountable for whatever they do. Hell I have been divorced for 3 yrs. and I got a call today from the Sheriff's Dept. looking for my ex. The Deputy thought we may have been back together. If that had been the case I would be held accountable for his whereabouts. The Deputy just told me without asking that they had papers on him. He is in deep as the cops are looking hard and heavy for him, but I can sleep easily knowing it is not my problem anymore. He took me down enough drains in 17 yrs.

I have custody of my granddaughter who is his step granddaughter and I would not want her exposed to having the law out here to pick him up as she has seen them do with her own father.

You can still have a link and get along, but it is best to sever all legal ties. professor

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