Posted:Fri Jun 19, 2009 12:30 AM CST
Overcoming fear of rejection
This advice can be used by both men and women. I do not pretend to be an expert, only someone with opinions.
If you approach someone and they don't want anything to do with you, don't take it as meaning that there is something wrong with you. You might not be their type, or they had a bad day. Just move on.
Also, if you get no as an answer, don't become a stalker, just go away. I know that in comedies and chick flicks, a common theme is the persistent guy who relentlessly pursues the girl and finally wins her, but in real life that's not how it works. In real life, its at best annoying, and at worst frightening.
Tulefel
Göteborg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden
Fri Jun 19, 2009 5:09 AM CST
A very sound opinion indeed. And a good advice!
Biosphere
Hesperia, California USA
Fri Jun 19, 2009 11:03 AM CST
I agree, one should never pretend anything. If you approach someone you dont resonate with, also be kind and courteous of showing respect for the person as well, your showing a type of rejection not doing so. People viberate on different frequency levels and one most understand that. It is as simple as just changing your reality, but remember: we all most live as "ONE"
the "EGO" allows us to live as independants.
~~Love and peace~~
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Fri Jun 19, 2009 12:33 PM CST
thank you for the post!! appreciated!
however, what if you are rejected even if resonance IS THERE INDEED!
have been asking myself over and over; there must be a reason, like there s one for every single thing. still it s hard to find it out. and to me rejecting this "being on the same wavelength" is like throwing a blessing to the trashbin...
it is like refusing being blessed by God, by love
i would like to ask him. and i will not stalk him, my fear, and second question for you here, is that he will perceive me as one and i would like to show myself as i am, a non stalker, a truth pursuer....
thank u if u d like to come back on this
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JEDDAH Saudi Arabia
Sun Jun 21, 2009 2:10 AM CST
honestly iam not counting much on this internet dating,i think its an illusion&a big waste of time,but iam still trying,hopefully iam wrong,but mirecles happen sometimes.
QueenMary
Nantes, Pays de la Loire France
Sun Jun 21, 2009 3:39 PM CST
When I meet men I'm not attracted to, whether it be physically or mentally , I feel very embarrassed because I haven't got he courage to tell them so. I really can't handle such situations so I give all sorts of excuses so as not to hurt them. However I'm sure I don't sound credible.
Can a man here help me ? What is best to say ?