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Posted:Mon Jun 29, 2009 10:39 AM CST
How to remove hateness in your heart ?
After u've been hurt by someone in your family for years, how could you remove hateness in your heart when u hv to keep meet him/her temporary or even everyday, n he/she keeps doing the same mistakes over n over ?
move away n leave your family is not the best solution right.
we hv to face the problem not to run away.
But how ????
heatherhuntsman
van nuys, California USA
Mon Jun 29, 2009 11:54 AM CST
Pray for them with love in your heart. Love them and with sincere honesty pray they will be happy and have all the happiness they can .Search for what ever part you played in the relationship. Forgive, have compassion. It might take years. In my situation it is too intense for contact, yet some days it gets better. Time heal all.Rejoice and give thanks.Peace and Love
sweetvelvet
dublin, Dublin Ireland
Mon Jun 29, 2009 2:16 PM CST
i felt hurt by a member of my family for years ,it was only when i forgave them the person that i could start to feel able to deal with them better.
unlucky
Hamilton, Pembroke Bermuda
Mon Jun 29, 2009 5:09 PM CST
It's not easy. First you for give them. pray that you did all you could help them. If they keep making same mistakes. Pray for them and be there for them if they see what they is doing wrong and need your help,
OneKitty
La Grande, Oregon USA
Mon Jun 29, 2009 5:52 PM CST
You have to set personal boundaries for yourself. For instance, "I am not going to allow you to do that to me anymore," I am worth more than that. You can do a google search on personal boundaries and it will explain it better than I can. Good luck!
gizmo1965
poteau, Oklahoma USA
Mon Jun 29, 2009 8:14 PM CST
Hi Red,
I feel bad for you and your situation. I have had problems with my family sound's like yours.My most recent was a man i met on here who used me and i loved him so much this went on for 3 years.Yes i know i was stupid but as they say "Love is blind" I never received any recieved any relief from my pain until i prayed and asked God to for forgive him for the pain he caused me,Then & only then did i feel peace & was able to move on with my life... Good luck, Gizmo
Red_Cherry
Surabaya Indonesia
Tue Jun 30, 2009 9:57 AM CST
sg0974
Shelbyville, Indiana USA
Tue Jun 30, 2009 12:33 PM CST
Not that even that long ago that I was in a relationship of where I thought that the woman that I met truly loved me for me until that love and trust was completely destroyed. Deep down in my heart, I know what this person has said and done to me personally will never be forgiven. In your situation, to the people that has hurt you, They will have to answer to god himself in due time and they will have to repent for their sins and ask for forgiveness from God, Jesus, and eventually to you.
khirin
np Bahamas
Tue Jun 30, 2009 7:23 PM CST
u have to forgive that person, hate is a serious thing and it destroys you also. you have to forgive them for you, praying always helps.
Red_Cherry
Surabaya Indonesia
Wed Jul 1, 2009 10:22 AM CST
i Tried, will hardly try, though its really hard
n keep trying trying n trying.
thank you :)