Why Are Compliments from Guys So Hard To Accept?
As I stated in my previous blog I just got back from visiting my kids. On the way back home my daughter drove me back and she spent the weekend here with me. Her friend Lisa came along and the 2 girls went crazy at the Casino we visited.It was so funny. They flirted and they gabbed with guys. One guy was already to be my "son-in-law". HA HA HA HA!! My daughter made me laugh when she told him "No way"!! The poor man was persistent. And she finally gave him the slip.
My daughter likes to drink Chardonnay and the ever present glass in her hand made them sillier and bolder. My goodness, what a transformation in life from a little girl holding my hand when we went places to a wonderful young woman having fun away from Dad.
On the way home at 1 a.m. the subject rolled around to giving women compliments. It seemed like the compliments that were handed out that night were too good to be true. I understood because I liked to see if I could "score" when I was a young dude. And my daughter and her friend were wise to the advances of these young Lothario's!! But when they started saying they couldn't believe the compliments and that it was hard for them to accept I wondered why!
I had the same problem twice! I was married 2 times and both times my ex's just couldn't accept me saying to them that I thought they were beautiful. And that I loved them. I meant it, but they just didn't appreciate it. The second wife told me I was crazy!!
My daughters friend responded with a puzzling answer again: Women just cannot accept they are beautiful!
I fail to see why it's such a hard thing. Are there any answers? Please ladies, tell me why?
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Or when it's a really sincere compliment.
"I love your dress" "oh I bought it on sale" or "It is several years old" "My sister gave it to me"
Why can't so many of us not just say; "Thank you"
Too funny. Your a hoot! Thanks for the laugh!!
Elga, Map, CC & Br.C!
Yes, I understand the problem that women have with a stranger or even a friend saying that, but these women were MY WIVES!!! Albeit, not at the same time but in 2 different marriages.
Women need to protect themselves. That's a must, but wives??? That's a real quizzer!
I can't understand a partner not accepting them.
That's what I would think!! Good for you!!
Map!!
Well said. It was hard for me to figure out when my daughters friend said it. I was totally puzzled.
CC Girl!!
Now that's the way! I would think a big hug and a big smooch would say it all!!
KN!
That's a good way also. Humble and smooth. That always works!!
For you, KN!!
So they shrug it off, with "oh, i'm not really" "or its no big deal" to avoid their discomfort. Secretly they are pleased though.
Who doesn't like a sincere compliment?
OK, that sounds reasonable. We guys do that too, I'm sure!!
Reddi Girl!!
OK, I can understand that, too!
How ya doin'??
KN!!
Thank you!!
Ummka,
Hello my friend. OK, that's a good reason too!
Well, it looks like the blog has run it's course. Thanks to all. I will continue to check because i need to acknowledge everyone!!
Stay Blessed!!!
Goodenuph