What To Expect When One Is "Menopausing" ?

Been There, Done That ?

According to Wikipedia:

Menopause, also known as the climacteric, is the time in most women's lives when menstrual periods stop permanently, and they are no longer able to have children , a natural change that typically occurs between 45 and 55 years of age. It can occur earlier in those who smoke tobacco. Other causes include surgery that removes both ovaries, or some types of chemotherapy. At the physiological level, menopause happens because of a decrease in the ovaries' production of the hormones estrogen and progesterone.

Symptoms:

* Dyspareunia is painful s*xual intercourse due to medical or psychological causes. The pain can primarily be on the external surface of the genitalia, or deeper in the pelvis upon deep pressure against the cervix. It can affect a small portion of the vulva or va*ina or be felt all over the surface

* Vaginal dryness

* Atrophic vaginitis (also known as vaginal atrophy, vulvovaginal atrophy, or urogenital atrophy) is an inflammation of thevagina (and the outer urinary tract) due to the thinning and shrinking of the tissues, as well as decreased lubrication. These symptoms are due to a lack of the reproductive hormone estrogen.

Other physical symptoms of menopause include: lack of energy, joint soreness, stiffness, back pain, breast enlargement, breast pain, heart palpitations, headache, dizziness, dry, itchy skin, thinning, tingling skin, weight gain, urinary incontinence, urinary urgency, interrupted sleeping patterns, heavy night sweats, hot flashes.

Psychological symptoms include: anxiety, poor memory, inability to concentrate, depressive mood, irritability,mood swings,less interest in s*xual activity.

Yes, Yes, we all know about menopause...doh laugh

This blog is not to educate others about menopause...as I haven't experienced it yet...not looking forward to it tho! 'Was sitting with friends yesterday and this topic came up. Most of my friends here in Jordan are either going through menopause or were already there. Symptoms they are going/went through are exactly what I read about on the internet and books but in most "s*xual" topics here on blogs and forum, many women who are past the menopausal age claimed to be "hotter" after menopause...this is contradicting science and what I've heard from those who went through it ...makes me wonder if they're simply BSing and "wet dreaming" here ?doh Many here claimed to be very sexually active after menopause...more than ever and looking for a nicely packaged hot tall, dark and handsome man who has all the right qualities...won't settle for less than great sex...seriously?dunno laugh

Here is a great place to read and learn from the experiences of others but it seems many here are in denial of their decline and failures in life...who are we kidding ?dunno

Most of my friends who are going through menopause or been there said that they're no longer interested in dating...menopause makes them feel sexually unattractive and "old". This doesn't make me look forward to my menopausal days at alldoh

For the men:

Would you date a woman who's going through menopause and experiencing those symptoms above ?
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Comments (144)

wave Kind of hard to avoid at my agelaugh I've ah,....
experienced itconversing Love em anywayhead banger
Pedal,

How did you survived those menopausal symptoms ?confused I meant of those ladies you've dated...grin
If a man has the opportunity to run, he must put on his fastest running shoes and never look back (at least for 3-5 years). Some poor women suffer the ill effects of MP for up to 10 yearsdoh doh doh

It's really a horrible occurrence for a woman...in every facet of their lives. Some women sweat so much they have to change their PJ's 3 times a night (and they're drenched). I know a woman who use to carry a battery operated fan and in the middle of the conversation she would whip it out and you would stand there in total amazement. Every Pharma working on a cure, but there are just too many pathologies that they just can't find one drug cures all.........exercise is very important to reduce the symptoms.......grin
Hi Sands,

I have a friend who sweat a lot too..she's back in America now but she sweats a lot even when it's snowingsigh


So, would you date a woman who's having those symptoms ?confused I wan't to weigh my options nowlaugh
Pedal,

That's very nice of you...someone sure is very lucky to have you.

But...

What about your share of "understanding" ? Would you put up for years giving all the "understanding" and not getting any in return ?dunno
I have decided I am not going to have it at all,ever, therefore I am not grin
laugh that's why my age requirements are in the 40's.......no lie....avg age is 51, so I'm figuring I can have some fun and travel before I have to find the fastest running shoes I own......laugh

I'm dead serious about the above.......
Tenner,

I think Hillary handled Lewinsky welllaugh

women...root of all trouble? I thought we're the peace keepersdoh laugh
*femininity
Sands, so the older you get, the larger the age-gap you will be looking for?
Sands, what blog was that where Pedaler commented the fun stuff? I could use some more laughs. laugh I suspect I know though...wine laugh
One very important note......one out of 6 women get osteoporosis right after MP ends. Thanks weak bones (lack of calcium)...so they must increase their calcium by I think 2,000-2,500 mg per day.
@Molly

That approach worked for me thumbs up laugh
Ch, I hardly noticed it at all, just a few sweating incidents, and soon it was over.

I think it differs with each woman. teddybear bouquet
I forgot to mention their brains turn to Jellyrolling on the floor laughing












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My brother-in-law who is a saint by any womans standards told me he couldn't take it anymore and was thinking of moving out.....I drank with him one night and convinced him to hang in there.....they're still married after many many years....
Molly,

What are going to do about it ? I don't think we can run away from it...better be prepared and face it when the time comesprofessor laugh
Hi calm....you know which blog.....cheers
Hi calm....you know which blog.....cheers
Sands, re the lack/loss of calcium.....not true, apparently. I read an article the other day (unfortunately I can't remember where to give you a reference point) Calcium can be a major cause towards osteoporosis, Magnesium is far more needed in the body.
I really didn't explain that very well, but I will go hunting for the article, I may have saved it on Pinterest.
Serene,

Yes, we are all different and one doesn't have to experience all those symptoms...

I've seen friends in their 60s loving and enjoying their life more than those a lot younger than them.

I believe it's in the way you accept and handle those symptoms and the support system you have around you...
Molly, not exactly, but I will be able to make better choices once they tell me it's left the room.....wink
It happens to men tooblues I just ordered some lime green
trousers two sizes too big, and a pair of white shoes.thumbs up Then I am going to drive with my left hand
indicator on for two weeks.thumbs up
Sands,

That's very honest of you, I respect thatthumbs up

Honest opinions from men and knowing what they think could certainly make us women aware of many things...perhaps helps us a lot to accommodate some changes or lots of changes in life...for happier ending
@zmountaineer
laugh

Never read a list of symptoms! You'll have cause to worry.
Tenner, I definitely have to disagree with you there.

Medical knowledge will catch up with real knowledge and experience eventually.
Yeah, now you ripehead banger dancing
Tenner - you are telling ME that I don't know what I'm talking about?

SERIOUSLY?

You know my life and my experiences better than I do?

Sheesh.
Sands, I feel sorry for any woman you will meet so.
Because they know they will have a best-before-date.
You will dump them the moment they go through a natural cycle of human life.
I personally would prefer somebody who is with me through the bad as well as the good times, as I would be for him.
professor Hug for Lizhug , double hughug
Sands, even I know that idea about calcium was rubbished years ago, hadn't heard about magnesium, but I'll be all right here as it's in the natural water supply laugh
Crazy. I've made 2 comments so far which you both ignored.

ELEG. Has also just confirmed it that you don't want to believe older women and are just putting them down.

As for the men here quoting scientific facts unless you've experienced it yourself it's obvious that you haven't met the right women.
To you all..tongue tongue tongue
yeah Z, I can't tell you how many times people have spoken to me about magnesium in just the last month......my friend had kidney cancer and the Dr. told him magnesium to low........dark chocolate has plenty of magnesium....fyi
Calm,

You're one of the lucky fewhug I've seen worse...when my friends are giving in to those symptoms, I try to be very understanding and patient toogrin
Z...happened to come across this article for the UK... Osteoporosis affects 1 in 2 women over the age of 50 in the UK. But the biggest problem is that osteoporosis is so often a ‘silent disease’, bone loss happens gradually over time, without any symptoms. Osteoporosis, at the moment, remains woefully unrecognised and yet it is preventable and treatable.

Sands, all we have to do is have regular Dexa scans and eat properly.
I am absolutely not going to give into the temptation to list what I've learned and enjoyed in the last few years but trust me, Crazy, with your fella that you see occasionally and your on-line adventures? You have no idea. Daniela said it best. tongue
Oh, one more thing. I know a woman 37 years old and one 41 who are going through it now. Research has been written that MP is coming earlier in the female life cycle .......maybe it's the water.....dunno

So, CH don't bank on the average age of 51...... just to brighten up your day since you've been getting blasted lately....grin rolling on the floor laughing
yes Molly, now it becomes a race between XRays and taking enough calcium....dunno
Z,

So you're experiencing it too...I hope you get all the loving and understanding you deservehug laugh
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