a very sad experience
Life is grand. Life is beautiful. Yet for some of us, there are those that can't see and or feel and or think like this for a while if not for a long time.I was volunteering for the senior place last two weeks and then I read at the bulletin board that the Shelter for Battered Women badly need assistance. I called in and been driving different victims back and forth to the doctors and some errands.
What an experience, with what I have seen and witnessed from the victims since last Wednesday, I still can't sleep, eat my food and or feel good for these women.
If you don't have a strong stomach and or will power, I wouldn't suggest for anyone to go and help. I am still vomiting from the trauma and torture of these poor women. It is very sad and very inhuman. One of the poor victim just can't help but sharing her life as if to relieve her from the pain she carries deep down.
She started by saying that she is from one of the third world and joined in a mail order bride club in her country and not even two weeks got herself connected to one of the man from the US. To cut the story short she got her fiance visa, came here got married and thought life was all heaven made. Not long after, about 6 months she noticed the man she thought was so loving and so good turned out different. Anyways, she is now staying at the shelter. Been here for the last two years, no child and doesn't have a permanent green card yet but the way I understand from her story, she doesn't care anymore. She just wants to be out of the relationship and doesn't care if she is going back to her birth country.
I am amazed at what damage and torture one has to go through but wait this long before she has the guts and will power to say: "it is enough!" and call for help. Two years she went through this pain. Unbelievable.
Anyways, I can only pray and hope that those victims out there wouldn't have to wait that long and has the courage to come out and seek help to get out of that predicament.
Thanks for all your reads and comments (if any). I do encourage participation and sharing if only to create awareness to so many people that are weak and don't have the courage to get out of such a horrifying situation.
Note: I have been married twice, the first one was to an alcoholic, who was the nicest person in the world but when he is under the spirit turned out to be the most strange and worst person to be with. It took me only 6 months to say, that is enough and filed a divorce. Luckily I didn't have to go through any abuse of some sort but felt no way that I would have stayed in that marriage. My second lasted for 30 years (28 years married) and was so beautiful and loving. I helped a lot of my friends in going through bad marriages, about 5 of them but I haven't seen any of them battered and or abused like these ones.
Have a nice day/evening fellow bloggers.
Comments (19)
I am partially retired now and I have time to go and help so I have been so busy the last week for the first time on the shelter. I used to volunteer at St. Vincent de Paul for food for the homeless and it is not as emotionally draining and or put me in distraught as this. Very sad indeed.
But thank you anyways. If I may add, you should and must document your claim.
glad to read you were lucky enough to get yourself out of that situation,but as you said, unfortunately not everyone can...
but where would such people be if not for people like you
I'm sure it's all very draining but all you need is a happy little song to cheer you up.. music can be such gentle reminder of why we do as we sometimes do
Note: writing it all about is very relieving. I was in limbo for a while of opting to write it or not but when the local newspaper advertised a great shortage of Psychiatrist and or Psychologist for the State, just made me feel more of the need to write about it. There must be a whole lot of unstable people out there that are preying for victims.
It is very emotionally draining and the distraught I feel is beyond me to recuperate. One thing I just learned now is the fact that I feel lucky there are not too many who go through these ordeal in comparison to the number of population in the area. I have no statistics but I can look it up. As far as I am concerned, there is no justice for anyone who is a victim of this most inhuman treatment.
Anyways, yes, our humanitarian effort is so underrated. Let me ask you Ms. Fiery, are you talking about new president in my country? Or yours? Africa I mean?
Anyways, these things do happen no matter the season and or the event that is taking place in the political field. But yes helping is a must. I only wish that no one has to be in such a dire situation like this.
Thanks again Ms. Fiery.
I wondered what happened to you. I hadn't seen you around. Sorry you went thru this but i am sure you helped lots of people! God bless you!
What you undertook is very commendable! Helping battered women and probably children! There is such a need for this kind of help! When I was growing up, I saw a lot of that in my family. It used to make me want to be a grown man instead of a small boy so I could could protect some of my aunts!
When my mother was pregnant with me, one of her sister-in-law who was much bigger than my mom, beat my mom up! The doctor wasn't sure I would be born normally without brain damage! God was watching over my mom and I and I was born normal!
I don't understand what makes people do that to someone!
I think you are making the right choice backing away from that situation!
Jim
Lindsy , you got my admiration for volunteering to help others,
But thank you for the encouragement and may I suggest that you please tell her to talk about it. The more we are aware and or the society about these incidents, the more vocal we are in not tolerating it and perhaps, will weaken the perpetrators and seek help. My thinking of course.
I've seen wives chasing their husbands with 'itak"
It is very sad indeed specially when they do everything to keep them trapped in their web.