Posted:Tue Jul 14, 2009 5:43 AM CST
An Observation about CS
As a member of CS for some time, I offer an observation that I would like to share.
While many are complaining about not getting enough sex, not dating, not hanging-out, no one emailing, running into scammers and players, no one chatting with them, I think there is a better way. I see us all as like a galaxy full of stars and planets just spinning around, forever in our orbit, most of us never touching except for those chance collisions that spark a union, a communication, a sharing, a communion between worlds. These chance encounters seem to be very few and far in between. Why not improve your chances by being more focused and in the right area of CS.
Isn't intimacy what everyone is really after. To share yourself with someone on different levels. But to to do that, don't you need common interests and a common point of view? Isn't that the foundation or the bridge to communicating with the opposite sex? Each one of us sees the world differently, so we all, in actuality, live in a world of our own. So, to express those common interests and points of view, communication is the key. Don't you think? To express one's self correctly is to express one's truthfully. In the World Wide Web, the written word, is as close to reality as your going to get, so why start off appearing like someone else, even if it was unintentional?
I notice that the special interest groups are, for the most part, neglected. I notice people join the groups, but do not get involved as people do in the regular forums. I think, special interest groups are the best place to focus on expressing yourself, your interests, and your points of view. If you really want to find someone compatible and special. The special interest group section, I think, would be a good place to really split up those who are primarily interested in sex, playing the field, just want to hang out, or those really looking to connect with someone special for the long term.
The regular forums just don't cut it. As a newbie just pointed out, about the CS forums a short while ago “these forums are created then hijacked by individuals and used as chat sessions for small talk” I find this can be fun at times, I also see that in the long run, it waists allot of time, you end up expressing your individuality all fragmented. In other words, for every good expression you write, about yourself, in a forum post about a real opinion or point of view on a subject, it get's lost within long endless joking chatty and banter. Those who are trying to read your posts and trying to get to know you, have to go through endless meaningless banter to get to those few written moments of your true written expression. I bet, many people do not get involved in forums very much for this reason.
So, if your feeling like your on a treadmill and going no where, stop, get off and focus on understanding what you really want, find or create a new special interest group and get involved with liked minded individuals that share your common interests and point of view. Then express yourself honestly and as accurately as possible and your chances of finding compatibility will increase. Instead of endless mindless posts, those searching your profile and trying to get to know what your really about, can just go to your special interest groups and read what you think and how you feel about this and that. If they are compatible, they will become interested, then will join in, get involved, enjoy themselves, become friends, then the sparking and collisions can begin.
JMO!! How else can two different world share their beauty?
“That which you seek, is seeking you.” Rumi
Good luck and God bless!