tgwstw Blog Post: Sat Jul 18, 2009 1:33 PM CST

tgwstw Cork, Cork Ireland
Posted:Sat Jul 18, 2009 1:33 PM CST

Marionettes on weakening cables

Huddled up with fear and hate
Because they know their fate and it's a lot to put them through.

Sometimes one has to come to terms that one has been a fucking asshole.
An unintentional asshole, but nonetheless, an asshole.
I always want truth to come out. Why?
I guess I feel bad for years of ignoring my instinct, always telling myself that I just wanted to fuck things up for myself. I always used to do this when I was younger, gag the voice of instinct until it began to throw a fit, like a panic rat scurrying furiously, gnawing at me, to LISTEN.
To look at me, one might think that I love myself or think that I’m better than others. I have been told this a few times by two women, I don‘t think it‘s jealousy I think it‘s genuinely the way they see me. I try to project a 100% self assured image . Now I am not about to go full circle and say that I am dowsed in self doubt and self loathing, because I am not. Mostly, I think I’m A O.K.
There are some things that I am good at. I think I write expressively and articulately. I am good at making friends, with random strangers. I can sink a good few beers. I have a way with animals. I am a vicious flirt, with little shame and apparently a brilliant kisser. My family is the sun to me. I guess the good of these qualities is quite subjective, but they are things I like about me.
Now for the less than desirable things, I mean, I don’t have a career, my own place, or a car. I have a zest for life, but my life isn’t exactly easily defined. It’s different than most grown ups, I know that much. I stutter when I’m nervous in certain social situations, interviews do the same humiliating thing to my speech. I mean if I could always have a few beers on me, I’d have zero nerves. But apparently society frowns upon this?
Another bad quality, I’m relentless when I think people are being wronged when it’s not my place to say anything or get involved. I have learned this recently. Through yet another online scuffle. It’s not my place, I have no right to say anything, although to be fair, this occurrence was an unintentional minefield of a subject I had brought up. I hadn’t been informed of recent events and posted a thread about weeding out fakes amongst us. I can’t say I’m a victim as I drew the shit-storm upon myself. This I admit. If I had been aware of the recent activity, I would not have posted a thread detailing a way to weed out the bogus and malcontent in our midst.
I don’t want to be seen as a shitty person. I mean, it beggars belief why anyone would want to draw trouble on themselves, I’m for the easy life. So I have resigned to a simple fact, that as well as shady characters existing in real life, there are going to be more of them online. Where you don’t have to stick around for the consequences of your actions, the words you throw, they will come by the dozens with their sticks in buckets of shit. If I think that awareness will stop them, then I’m an idiot. I will just draw more unwanted criticism upon myself. Which Golly, I did in style last time. “Why it means so much to me…… Why do I care…It‘s not anyones place to decide who‘s fake or not…”
As much as it galls me, the criticism is warranted. I shouldn’t care. I can only protect myself and cannot be responsible for what other people allow themselves to believe. My instinct is not their instinct, my prerogative, is not theirs. So having thought about it all, fuck it. It’s not my place to play Jessica Fletcher, or to try and ensure that no-one is wronged. It happens everyday, in real life, online life, so looks like I’ll finally have to have a spoonful of a concoction of my own creation….. A dose of get the fuck over it.
I plan on sticking around. I don’t feel I have done anything outwardly wrong, aside from wanting everyone online to be genuine. Which yes, makes me a naïve, idealistic asshole. A bad person? I think not.
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tgwstw Cork, Cork Ireland
Sat Jul 18, 2009 1:34 PM CST
So to my good friends, thank you for being so. For those I pissed off, I’m sorry for doing so. For anyone who has a vendetta against me, the only thing you do better than I do, is hate. =) If you are the particular person reading this, you know that I’m referring to you. I am young, reasonably attractive and articulate and generally well liked. I know this much. I am a few bad things, but I do not mean any one person online or in real life any harm. If it is your plan to make me be seen in a bad light, that is your issue, not mine. Always there to dig the knife in but never there to provide any positive input on any other topic. Amazing that. I am one of many who has noticed that trend. Not that I can’t handle it, but it highlights ones thought process when they only ever discuss topics that end up in an argument. I discuss many diverse topics. I was just silly enough to bring up something that people were made freshly sensitive of.
However, I was well intentioned.
That is all I have to say on the topic.
Now how is everyone’s Saturday? I am going to put on some fresh coffee, maybe break out some Tiramisu..
Might even watch Gran Torino for like, the 5th time! Feel free to come over but BYOB.

I’m sorry y’all have to read my blog bulimia.
=)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZiC0XefAeLU (watch it!!!)
Profile Deleted
Sat Jul 18, 2009 2:30 PM CST
I must have read a few hundred of these blogs and i must say, 'well put'. I feel the same as you do in may aspects of this online/real life thing. And in my quest to not be played or allow others to be played, i find myself under scrutney and insults. I get the, 'your beautiful so you dont know what it's like' and the oh so famous 'how would you know. You dont have any problems getting men'. When in fact, cute, pretty, hott to death, i'm on the same site as them looking for the same thing and getting the same thing that they're getting. And in my quest to defend people being bombarded by low ratings and insults, i feel an uncertain need to protect them. And then end up getting lashed out on by the people i took it upon myself to defend. And i sit wondering why?

I'm learing it's not up to me to fix some ones low self esteem issues. No, i do not have low self esteem. I suffer from a lot of shit but that is NOT one of them. And because i hold myself in the highest reguards, i'm stuck up and snotty and i dont really want a man, i'm just on here for the fuck of it.. Because apparently if your on sites like this you MUST have low self esteem of something. And it boggles my mind to no end about how someone could come to that conculsion.

I sit and look at my computer screen for hours on end reading profile and what men and women want from each other and all of them say the same thing. No one on here or anywhere is different or want different things, so i'm thrown back at the fact that none of these people are finding anyone.

I came to the conclusion that the majority of people want to be alone so that they can have something to complain about!! And the ones who really are looking for someone are ending up finding those people. The majority of people on this site only care about what 'Rating' they're getting.

I'm very upfront when i respond to a blog. Because, if not upfront, then why bother. And yes, the majority of men i've encountered are whole Assholes. And it is just a matter of weeding through the assholes. I like this site better then any other which isnt saying much lol however, i've had a few conversations with some cool people. I think we all have asshole tendencies. What makes the difference is HOW MUCH of an asshole you really are and what warrents you being an asshole. If i've done nothing to you and your being an asshole to me, i'm going to be a bigger asshole back. I didnt cheat on you, lie to you, fuck up your trust, damage your car, fuck you and leave you.. so why are you being a total Dick to me?? I'm not having it and if that means that i'm a Massive Bitch,t hen so be it. You cant please everyone and i'm not trying..

I love this blog the best.. You ROCK!!
happdude limerick, Limerick Ireland
Sun Jul 19, 2009 10:32 AM CST
Yaaaay Hess is back! this site is interesting again cheering







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