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Wondering how one know's honesty of a person in a long distance friendship or a relationship.
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Straight away you dont, like everything in a relationship, whether friends or lovers takes time to work that one out about each other,...
Hi

Well in a long run a deceptive and un true person still can play don't you think?confused
Definitely of course but again time will tell,.....beer
You need to use a lie detector..or your 6th sense. dunno
True dat

Time is such a precious thing....hopefully it becomes a treasure rather than a lesson.
I find painful torture to tell the truth always works,.......laugh
Dan

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Such a contrasting tools to detect, one being an expensive human made device and the other one a natural gift which cannot be developed.

I think natural gift malfunction sometimes in some cases.
One doesn't. You cannot know for sure without meeting
Unlao

I second that.

Assuming a real big distance between the two where travelling is a big wall to climb....how to Judge honesty.
I don't think the size of difference matters that much. Online, a person can be anything they choose to be. Face to face is what really matters
Distance, not difference laugh
Distance is a big obstacle.....travelling facilities....visa status for some nationalitieshead banger big deals.....

Not an easy thing to win marathon of a raceconfused
Hi Back" wave
you will trust because of how good and worth while she makes you feel dunno
Yep, Imback, it takes dedication and commitment for sure
Ok I was joking about the lie detector but using your intuitions is only thing you can do.

People tend to tell you what you want to hear and if you're gullible it works every time.

You don't need a special gift to learn how to discern.
Itchy
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Whatif...one gets very comfy and trust reaches horizon and on their magica meetup....reality shows big time deception?

I big explosion in the name of trust.
dunno
Dan

When trusting my intuition or how I see things while communicating....it kills the optimism.

Living a dream only goes to the street where other can deceive u and you can ignore it as a misunderstood perception.

Btw i enjoyed your vlog the other day...hug
Unlao

Yes it does....for the right one it is more than worth while but on the other hand it is just a lesson and a big waste of precious time.
Then no more ifs scold

Move on to someone that will appreciate you better...wink
Depends on how well you know that person...simply have to rely on what you feel and think of the good things...no room for doubt in an LDR...you've got to give 100% in order to receive the same...I'm there
Yep, that's the risk dunno
You saw my vlog? Thanks. handshake

Of course you can be optimistic but also realistic?
Itchy

Once bitten twice shy!

A failure thing is always part of one's fear....I do agree half in half out thing never works....
Crazy

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Well how do you give oneself 100% in a LDR, there is such a wide canvas of one's limitationsconfused

Time difference, cultural differences..
.list goes on and on.
Unlao

That is what I have been talking about!!!!angel
Imback, if you decide to go the difficult route of having an LDR, and expect honesty in a relationship with someone you have never met, nor she met you, then the only thing to do is believe and accept that they are being honest.

Otherwise you will drive yourself crazy, and possibly them as well.
depends on what kind of LDR you're in and the person you're in an LDR with. If you haven't met that person yet then that's just BSing but if you've met and spent time to know that person and end up in an LDR...if she's worth it then you have reasons to give it your best shot
True, once bitten and all that but sometimes we use it as an excuse not to cross the ocean when we haven't the courage to lose sight of the shore.
Dan

Yes your vlog was amazing ....the one while singing duet on a guitar...

Optimistic and realistic....seems like sailing on two boats....don't know which one is more reliable frustrated
Molly

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Practically that seems to be the only positive solution all rest end up no where.
Crazy

That is a nice scenario.
You know I'm in an LDR, right? I'm OK with it, I can't be bothered dating losers in real lifedunno

I met this guy when I first joined here...it was great, we even said the L-word, we haven't met so how stupid is that? The thing is, we were happy and I'm sure if I agreed to meet him, we'll hit it off...that's what I'm afraid of ...reason why I back off. with the right person, LDR can work.
Itchy

We all live once...and with time we all want to settle down with the right one....simple peep with simple desires
If you can swim why not chance getting wet wine
Itchy

Swim is HUGE....I am ready to drown ..
.but only with an honest one.
Lifes too short imbackagain, go with your gut and do it, you have nothing to lose but something to gain, otherwise it will be a case of thinking what if,.................beer
Crazy

A nice sacrifice.
Does every better opportunity needs a sacrifice?dunno
no pain no gain...just go for it.

I have a very good reason why I didn't go for it...had to hurt one of them...I chose the less damagelaugh and who can get hurt from an LDR and you haven't met anyway? laugh
You won't drown, I won't let you scold

you can rely on me to give you the kiss of life if or when ever your in need batting
imbackagain,You don't know if they are telling you the truth or not it's just a risk one takes.

Obviously anyone can claim to be anyone or anything they wish.Some people are good actors/actresses.
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