rubendario Blog Post: Wed Jul 29, 2009 11:41 PM CST

rubendario Hartford, Connecticut USA
Posted:Wed Jul 29, 2009 11:41 PM CST

Heart Breaking Scammers!

Heart Breaking Scammers!

I have been on this site for some time now and doing allot of corresponding. The sad thing is, it's mostly about heart breaking scammers. A large percentage of my correspondence contains stories of people being scammed and played. Not once but many times. Even if they have not lost money, their feelings have been broken time and time again. I have examined this and have been reflecting on this horrible Internet phenomena. Haven been played myself, by a Philippina, and took worm, hook, line, sinker, fishing pole, fisherman, boat dock and the 1200 gallons of water making it float, I know a little bit about this kind of deception. I therefore, need to write this blog to express my point of view on this harsh and malicious practice by these monsters that lurk the WWW.

We, so want to be touched, held, and romantically spoken too. We, so desperately want to feel that special feeling of love and adoration. Sometimes, we want it so bad, that we literally create an alternate reality that is far from actuality, practically, and beyond common sense. This self created dream is so far off the true reality that it puts us in a state of vulnerability and irrational thinking. Adding other outside stressful influences like, abuse, family, work and the loss of a loved one can make us further vulnerable and completely impair our sense of judgment.

A doze of reality
If an honest and truthful man/women tells you they “LOVE YOU” don't believe it! If they have not seen you in real life and have not gazed into your eyes and have not at least spent several evenings with you, “IT SIMPLY IS NOT POSSIBLE.” IT IS NOT TRUE!!
Writing “I LOVE YOU” in a chat or Saying “I LOVE YOU” in a phone conversation without meeting you is a “LIE” straight and simple, no and if or buts.

An honest and truthful man/women will visit a man/women and if she/he has children, she/he will meet them in real life and get to know them a little, to get a feel for the “ENTIRE PACKAGE.” A man/women with children is an entire package and anything that affects the parent affects the child/children. This was my very fist big mistake. A true, honest, and loving man/women will love your child/children and you need to see that in real life(reality) by having him/her spend time with you and the child/children. There is no better way to see how someone reacts and behaves than while spending time with you and your child/children. This is very important.

So, if you hear those words “I LOVE YOU”, “I WANT TO MARRY YOU”, “YOUR MY FUTURE HUSBAND OR WIFE”, “YOUR MY FUTURE”, “YOUR MICKY MOUSE” Don't believe it, unless you have meet them, spent time with them and they have meet your child/children. PLAIN AND SIMPLE!!! GOT IT?

I hope I have made myself clear! Don't forget, I am not just a spokesman here...I was also once a customer!! Believe me I feel your pain!!

Good Luck and God bless!!! teddybear

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kekei kingston, Kingston Jamaica
Thu Jul 30, 2009 1:19 AM CST
I feel your pain too. Thanks for all the advice you have given to me, I sure hope that many people read this article. Sometimes just for a moment you forget that there are many undesirables about. I am hoping that you will find the right person soon.wave
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tbird48 lawrenceburg, Indiana USA
Thu Jul 30, 2009 6:24 AM CST
PLAIN AND SIMPLE YOU SAID IT ALL!!cheering
pequena murcia, Murcia Spain
Thu Jul 30, 2009 7:57 AM CST
vear well put good one you
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PrettyLuna Jakarta Indonesia
Thu Jul 30, 2009 8:56 AM CST
It's very good. Thanks a lot thumbs up
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oreosdog Birmingham, Alabama USA
Thu Jul 30, 2009 11:34 AM CST
You couldnt have said it better!!!peace teddybear
sweet_saucy2008 Northwest, Tennessee USA
Thu Jul 30, 2009 1:35 PM CST
I am sorry to read about your experience. I have been fortunate enough to have avoided what you went through. The fact that you chose to share your story shows a great amount of character. peace
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editlauren Shanghai, Shanghai China
Thu Jul 30, 2009 4:17 PM CST
You have my sympathy knowing that the one involve is a filipina. I am a filipina but not all can be like ur "friend"...Scammers were everywhere, more worst maybe than ur "friend". Too bad u found her like she was one of those desperate women , and knows nothing but to fool people. A lot of them out there so be careful.....
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banafrit malaga, Andalucia Spain
Thu Jul 30, 2009 5:59 PM CST
Thanks for sharing your experience - makes me think more deeply about online dating :)
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catlynn04 Hartsville, South Carolina USA
Thu Jul 30, 2009 9:38 PM CST
Hi,

Thanks for your post, Ruben. I met a guy on here a few months ago who seemed really nice. He asked me for my email address so we could correspond. I didn't at first, but did after a few days. The next day he removed his profile from this site. Then we started chatting on yahoo messenger. In his emails and on yahoo, he said all the right things, and as you warn about in your post, was telling me he loved me about 3 weeks after we'd been chatting. Goodness, after our 2nd DAY of chatting, he was suggesting we get married and adopt children! I was like, whoa! lol (he suggested this after we had emailed back and forth several times). He often wrote in broken english, so that eventually turned me off.

Soon after, he told me he loved me, I started having computer problems. A friend told mine it could be from someone who contacted me on a dating site.. that they could have sent me a virus when I answered an unknown imstant nessage. Anyway, by that time I was starting to suspect the person I met on here may have been a scammer, too. He said he worked in Africa, though he was from Alabama. We had been chatting on yahoo messenger, but after I got my computer fixed, I changed my ID name there so he couldn't contact me anymore.

I noticed something very interesting tonight.. HE Is back on here. His name is bennyman. His picture is the same as the one he had up when I met him. His profile still says he lives in Alabama. But this time for his occupation, he's saying he collects art. He also says he's separated, where before he said he had a wife and two sons who were killed in a car accident some years ago.

I think I will report him as soon as I finish writing this.

Again, his name on here is bennyman. I think his name before had been benlarrycoker. Beware of him, ladies!

Thanks again for your post, Ruben.
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rubendario Hartford, Connecticut USA
Fri Jul 31, 2009 3:02 AM CST
Thank you everyone, for taking the time to read and comment on my blog entry. God bless you all!! angel angel bouquet bouquet grin cool
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spunkey272 Grangeville, Idaho USA
Fri Jul 31, 2009 2:17 PM CST
I joined in november and the first guy i met sent me
flowers and then he is not in new york but nigeria
almost every guy i hav had contact with has said
he loves me within the first half hour of talking
to him. Then i get proposed to by over 15 guys
since i hav been on here. They all say i love you
your what i've been looking for all my life. you
know the usual stuff. I hav been very blessed to
hav made some friends in india, they are the only
ones who haven't asked me for money. They advised
me not to send money to the scammers.so whoever
wrote this thread is so right we hav to be very
careful about who we associate with.
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Fri Jul 31, 2009 5:17 PM CST
Reuben, you were on the money as were the others who'd brought on their experiences. Maybe I'm just a suspicious ol sumbitch but I watch out for things like broken English that suggests translating software or some other "tell". I lost a close friend of years who thought I was just a suspicious asshole who didn't believe it was possible to fall in love online. I DO BELIEVE IT'S POSSIBLE however, like winning the Powerball®, it's a long, LONG shot! This guy tells her "I love you" and all that and spun the story perfectly building lie on lie pulling the strings of her heart every time he got a chance. One by one, the tells have piled up. He's coming to The States (from Nigeria, of course) but had a problem with his passport and requires more "Fees" to expedite the passport and visa. Once that was solved he was short on his ticket, then some more bullshit and like a dope, she keeps sending money to this asshole. It's one thing after another exploiting the lonliness and emptiness of an aging beauty who doesn't think she has anything to offer now that youth is quickly passing...
Bad things happen every day...why can't that prick find his way under a bus??

Be careful with your heart.. for everyone who is looking for your heart 10 are looking for your checkbook! Be careful but dont' give up!
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mariano1 Apopka, Florida USA
Fri Jul 31, 2009 7:29 PM CST
Very well said.
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hollandgirl Okanagan Valley B.C. Canada, British Columbia Canada
Fri Jul 31, 2009 7:54 PM CST
All scammers want you to meet them right away on Yahoo.
All scammers their wife's died 5+ years ago.
All scammers have most of the time one child.
English is bad when I asked I was told that is because I lived in Italy for 16 years.
They ask questions 25 of them mostly innocent. Then this do you rent of own your own home.
Send more pictures they ask you. Don't do this.

One scammser was claiming she was a woman doctor. Lost her mam
Would I adopt her.
Worked in Africa worked in Africa.
Then Nancy wrote that she needed money for medicene
Ended with a kiss.
Ha Nancey good try kid you are not a woman but a man you are not a doctor either.
What gave Nancy away not only asking for the money but ending her letter with kiss.
Women would not write this.
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Looking4theOnly1 Fernandina Beach, Florida USA
Sat Aug 1, 2009 2:11 PM CST
wave HI and Thnk you for your post. I totally agree with everyone's views on this..except one..if i may...I would DEFINATELY NOT alllow someone i met on here or anywhere on the WWW (unless & UNTIL i MYSELF had spent MANY MONTHS talking to them on the phone, in IM'S, via Email as well as STILL ON HERE AND had already met THEM, IN PERSON!)..BEFORE I WOULD LET THEM NEAR MY (Grown) daughters OR my GRANDSON..Next, i have also had the experience of a man IMMEDIATELY asking for my email address, which i gave him ONLY because i access CS by cellphone & the only 'feature' i cant use on here is IM...Well, EVERYTIME i was 'online' he would 'pop-up' and started saying 'I love you so much but i have money in an account in The US, so when you send me money for my plane ticket, i will pay you back when i get there' And things like 'i'm so in love with you, please do this so we can be together forever' and the like, so after about a week of this happening, i IM'd back & said 'First of all, WHO are you to say you 'Love Me' when you dont even KNOW me' then i said ' I am forwarding these IM's to the FBI & DO NOT try to reach me again!' And almost INSTANTLY, Before i COULD 'block HIM' HE 'disappeared' from my 'contact list'! Now, in answer to what i'm sure oMANY of you are asking yourself, WHY did i 'correspond' with him to begin with? Because he had a picture of an 'ordinary' Caucasion man, said he lived in Maryland, had a 'normal' name ( Kevin Kingsley) AND in his emails/flowers on HERE, he spoke perfect English, NO 'TELLS', NO BROKEN ENGLISH, it was ONLY after our VERY 1ST IM ON Yahoo that all of the 'tells' came out! And because we DID correspond for several weeks on HERE before i gave him my personal email...So, LADIES, MEN, PLEASE DO NOT ALLOW ANYONE TO YOUR HOME OR ANYWHERE NEAR YOUR CHlLDREN..Thank you for reading..God Bless you all in your 'search' for the 'real deal' and DONT let these losers, users & fakes ruin your belief in LOVE &/or PEOPLE..THERE ARE STILL PLENTY OF GOOD PEOPLE LIKE US ON HERE!! teddybear peace XO angel
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