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sweet_saucy2008
Northwest, Tennessee USA
Sun Aug 9, 2009 9:03 AM CST
Apparently things you have been through have scarred you so emotionally that you cannot let your guard down. It has been said that physical scars heal faster than emotional ones.
If you haven't already tried this, counseling one on one or in a group with others who have experienced what you have been through would be in order. If you have not already done this, keep in mind it will take time. I entered in counseling and it took 5 years to sort through experiences. Time well spent, yet you will still have a bit of caution, you will be able take that first step in dating.
I wish you all the best.
gypsysoul
Bangor, Michigan USA
Mon Aug 10, 2009 7:33 AM CST
Start loving yourself, then people can love you...
RDM59
Edinburgh, Lothian, Scotland UK
Mon Aug 10, 2009 2:34 PM CST
I am at a similar point also. I miss the love and the intimacy and that belonging together feeling. Yet I fear sacrificing the independance I have achieved and which I am enjoying. I am enjoying my solitude at the moment more than the desire for a relationship so I think that means I just ain't ready yet.
I tend to bottle out of things also as I don't want them to develope. Plus there is the aspect that it affects others and people get hurt and that is not good, not at the expense of our own personal experiments, so to speak. Until I know I am ready again for a LTR, I am laying low basically.
Good luck, chin up and walk tall
geordie1007
glasgow, Strathclyde, Scotland UK
Tue Aug 11, 2009 4:18 AM CST
GET UP AND GET OUT BBEAR WHAT HAVE YOU GOT TO LOSE DON'T BOTTLE IT. IT'S FUN BEING WANTED AGAIN JUST THINK BACK TO YOUR FIRST DATE AND ENJOY THE MOMENT
stranger007
elstree, Hertfordshire, England UK
Tue Aug 11, 2009 6:25 AM CST
Life is easier than we think, and life is short..just live it
don't histate....
and call when you say you gonna call
each one of has his/her own inner beauty....get up and start living
Don't look back one day and say I wish I did this or that
paulie100
munich, Bayern Germany
Tue Aug 11, 2009 7:48 AM CST
maybe if you stop being a Bi.c. & stop talking bull s..t you might (if you are nice ) find a good man ,but i know you & your type ,
now i tell you to p.o.f !!!
i would make a date with you & not turn up
enjoy
zdeathangelz
jacksonville, Florida USA
Tue Aug 11, 2009 9:52 AM CST
define what you want and stop faffing around it's your life define it!
get some values to your life! and learn to say no if you're not ready!
carry on the way you are with saying yes and standing people up doesn't make you a good prospect for anyones future let alone your own!
marispotens
springfield, Pennsylvania USA
Tue Aug 11, 2009 7:59 PM CST
you have a psychological block because you were seriously injured by a man. your subconscious is trying to protect you. simple as that. you need psychological counsoling.
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Wed Aug 12, 2009 5:36 AM CST
what can i do? have a couple drinks before your planned date arrives then go out and have fun go somewhere you feel comfortable maybe have some of your girlfriends already their to check him out and you'll feel safer or more comfortable good luck with everything god bless
honkeytonk
Murfreesboro, Tennessee USA
Sun Aug 16, 2009 2:36 AM CST
I am the same way!! I don't like it.
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Sun Aug 16, 2009 5:25 AM CST
buy a cuddly household pet.. such as a cute dog with a soft wet nose and long floppy ears, not only will this wonderful canine be a brilliant companion, if needed it can also become a guard dog.. 2 for the price of one.. 'nuff said.
yo ho ho me hearties and a bottle of rum..
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Mon Aug 17, 2009 3:09 AM CST