Why do you want a partner?

Most of us, if not all, are on a dating site because we are looking for a partner. That is the purpose of dating sites after all. We could blog on any social media site.

But why are we really looking for one?

Is it to have somebody around on the long cold evenings, for companionship ?
Somebody to do the jobs we may find difficult ourselves?
Somebody to keep us warm in bed?
Is it for financial security?
Somebody to have by our sides when we go to weddings, funerals, etc.
Is it to have somebody look after us as we age?
Or simply somebody to have sex with on a regular basis?

Does society make us feel like we are not complete without a partner or wife/husband?

Do we ourselves feel like we are not complete without a partner or wife/husband?

Why do we really want a partner?
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All of the above and more,..................................................wine
Worst case... you learn to get by without...
Molly, good question...I ask myself that every now and again. Just when I think I want all that and I get close to someone, I freeze up and can't move forward. And it's not him, it's me. I guess I wouldn't mind having someone around for all of the above but in small doses! Not sure if that makes sense, but I'm still in the, loving my independence stage. dunno
To go to the gym with snooty
Mimi, you wont be needing the gym to go to in a couple of weeks time,..........................laugh banana
wave I never felt any external motivation to have one, and the last five years did not want one.
Now, I feel a void that a female partner would fill. Only one for methumbs up Why? Because I can
enhance her life, and she mine.
Molly
I stumbled upon this site.
I didn't came on here initially to find anyone.
Sometimes the blogs cause me to forget that though initially I wasn't really looking, I might still want to meet someone.

Sometimes when you're going through a certain phase in your life all you really want to do is just converse with someone and have a great conversation going.

Nice blog Molly.
every woman should have a comfort zone...........professor grin
@Scotty. .what more are you looking for?

@Seri, we all are, whether for the long term or short.

@Luv, you don't sound like you are ready for a new relationship yet. Give it time, you'll know when you are hug

@Mimi reunion
I nearly wet myself at the thought of you pumping irons in the gym laugh
Molly, best friend and partner in crime,.............................banana
Molly, I love you, I really do!
Please don't @ me... I'm still traumatised blues
Yes Molly, I agree with you. In time...wink
@Peds. Good answer. It us nice when you get to that stage if wanting one again. Hope you find the right one hug

@Prof , sometimes it is good to be reminded what we are looking for.

@Tru, can you expand on that answer please? professor grin

@Scotty, that sounds like a good plan thumbs up

Apologies Seri, I won't @ anymore
hey ...luv....i would,nt agree with molly........shes had more partners.....then a rock concert......rolling on the floor laughing ...hiyer molly.......wave wave .....>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>super giggle
Yes...All the above for me and also more besides...but not 24/7 as I need my space.
But I didn't come on this site for this.


Ped. wow that's the best I've ever heard from you.teddybear
Too kind Molly roll eyes
Oh well Daniela. " Rock and Roll, can't stand still, got a flaming heart can't get my fill."
Hi Daniela, that is another factor - the together-time

I didn't want to make the blog too long though laugh

Some people do want a regular live-in relationship/marriage

Others want part-time, on their terms.

Still others are happy with an LDR .

There is no right or wrong answer to the blog, just opinions and diversity.
Hi molly , wave

A life partner is a partner on all occasions and conditions , to me , it is hard to spend a loveless life , I am not looking for someone to financially support me or make me warm on the bed , but I need someone to spend a happy and successful life together without any greed or selfishness , love makes our lives peaceful And beautiful wine
Ah Ali, it is nice if she can make you warm on the bed.roll eyes
It sure would be if I could find one grin
Hi pedal laugh
Hi Ali, nice answer.

But as Peds said, it is nice to have a warm body next to you in bed too, especially on the cold nights happy place
Yeah, I would have no problem changing the bed sheets frequently.grin
That's s part of relationship and I do like it of course ,
But a Partnership is more than warming each other on the bed molly hug
Falseheart tongue
Hi true laugh
Hi Molly, For me all of the above but with someone who wont mind when I head off to my bunker for time on my own, not a smothered relationship, and with someone who who likes coffee and sunshine.
Peds, I always keep loads of spares wink
Maps,
is there a barista in your bedroombatting
Molly, Yes, The perfect match, she should be good at making soup and cakes and enjoy cleaning.
Map, are you sure you are only looking for one woman? uh oh



laugh
No, one is more than enough, There are a few who can multitask and be happy at the same time, the rewards would make her efforts worthwhile.
Map, and those rewards are? writing
Relationships come in different forms and often develop from nothing. Just as easily, they can fade away. A good relationship is based on each partner wanting to bring out the best in the other. It can be from a regular passing smile, to having a close physical relationship ,to full 24 /7 togetherness. Once each person is growing from it then it can't be bad.
Great answer Greg
Welcome to the blogs cswelcome
You are right. There is no one-size-fits-all in relationships.
As long as both are happy in the relationship, that is all that matters thumbs up
I'm not codding at all JJ.

It is something we all think about, or should think about, once in a while.
If we don't know what we are looking for in a partner, or why we even want a partner, then we may have to reevaluate.

And don't worry, you come across as a perfect gent, funny but grounded

hug
Yes Molly, and what fits perfectly for one person might be too large or too small for the other wink
Seriously, I count myself lucky that I have many great relationships with people. Develop a friendship by just being nice and everytime you run into them that time with them just adds to your day. If you can manage to fill your day with experiences like these then your not doing to bad at all.
Look at tribes, the most basic form of human settlement. They are not a couple /family living out on their own in one hut, but a mix of everyone, all acting as one.
Thank you for your kind welcome beer
a gent I see /think im normal or as near as you get .yeah we should know what we want .I do but find it not so simple think its age you knows me some I suppose im a fussy git .has to be right for both and you have to adopt to another most wont have this interview process I just laughts at . but its a great blog girl is serious as well if I met right persom id be gone from here pronto might say hello every while .
Greg, I think that may be one of the problems with modern day society.
We are so obsessed with individuality and our rights as an individual, we forget we are all an integral part of society and also need society.
That is why there is so much loneliness in the world.
I miss the smell.
Yes Molly, one size might fit perfectly for one person but be either too big or small for the other wink
I am lucky to have many different relationships with people. It starts by just being nice and can add so much to an otherwise boring day. If you can fill your day with good experiences then your not doing to bad at all.
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