chughtayejee Blog Post: Fri Sep 4, 2009 11:07 PM CST

chughtayejee burewala, Punjab Pakistan
Posted:Fri Sep 4, 2009 11:07 PM CST

Arrange marriage or Marriage after Friendship.....

Its said by some scholars that.........
All love that has not friendship for its base,
Is like a mansion built upon the sand.
I asked in my previous blog that is love possible in first sight, i received some replies in negative results......
Then what about arrange marriages which are present in a lot of country in its original shapeconfused

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sweet_saucy2008 Northwest, Tennessee USA
Fri Sep 4, 2009 11:52 PM CST
Arranged marriages are not built on a foundation of friendship, but a promise. Once the marriage takes place it is understood that the couple will remain as husband and wife. Friendship comes over time as well as love between the couple. grin
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Kasih Jakarta Indonesia
Sat Sep 5, 2009 12:45 AM CST
I agree, marriege is not based on friendship only.
It is based mostly on commitments and understanding.
But the commitments come first. And understanding is the language of communicating.
We should put high respect in the marriege to avoid all the acts and thoughts that could destroy it.
I think it is the same in all country. . .
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chughtayejee burewala, Punjab Pakistan
Sat Sep 5, 2009 12:52 AM CST
but what about arrange marriage???
is this a wrong method?
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BrunoMcMahon Hardwick, Vermont USA
Sat Sep 5, 2009 5:18 PM CST
I suppose if it is a part of your culture it is easier to understand and accommodate.

In a perfect arranged marriage I'd expect both would work very hard at making the relationship function. Something that does not always happen in relationships based on attraction. When the fascination is gone often the relationship is too.

I suppose if I had a child and lived in a country where it was common practice I would want a very close relationship with the family from long before the time our children were supposed to marry to be sure everything was going to be as smooth as possible between the bride and groom and out families.
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Kasih Jakarta Indonesia
Sun Sep 6, 2009 7:06 AM CST
Marriage can be a very big thing for some people..
In my country, the parents approval and blessings are very important,and there is also marriage counseling and courses..
But I am sure that no matter what and where the country is, getting the real marriege it is not as simple as just saying the vows....


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lilay vordingborg, Sonderjylland Denmark
Mon Sep 7, 2009 3:30 PM CST
well i think arrange marriages can be beneficial in some cases,sometimes they can develop their feelings to real love,but why settle for this kind when you can a relationship built in friendship and develop to love as you both discover each others strength and weakness..in the its a matter of choice and acceptancecomfort
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chughtayejee burewala, Punjab Pakistan
Tue Sep 8, 2009 3:23 AM CST
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