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you're going to have to éscalate the conversation otherwise it'll just be pen-pals. Good luck

If ur looking to buy urself some time then i'd suggest sending messages that aren't too long.. cos if they are it means that u are talking about a lot of different things and probably in a lot of detail.. and that means that u can soon find urself running out of things to say. Tell ur stories but dont give away all the details so that ur giving him a chance to ask u questions and so that u will have the opportunity to reply. if he keeps asking questions then it means he's listening as well as interested.. if not then.. well at least u kno not to waste anymore time on him. This works both ways.. so u will need to get interested in whats goin on with him too.. otherwise it'll just get boring.
Either way.. dont put too much expectation on anything.. if its meant to b it will happen! Good luck

I agree with cookie. It is for most men difficult to keep up a conversation when the woman says to much at once or viceversa. We guys arent as evolved as you hehe ;) . Anyway try to find things in common and be constant. If youre flighty or sloppy to him it can drive him away cause he will think youre not into him. And also be yourself. Im sure youre a wonderful woman who has much to offer so go for it!

soccerfan90

Wish you the best but i don't know how to advice!!

I agree with scon1916. Your going to have to go from email, to phone to web cam, depending on how much you like this guy and if he's worth it to you. If you have to flash your naked ass in front of the web cam to keep him awake, personally I think he's not worth it, but only you can judge!!

Good luck and God bless!!

Online long distance relationships can be very hard I think.
When you realise that the only way you could ever be together means one of you has to give up their current way of life, job etc and move to the other one's country. It is a big risk but you have to be 100% positive about taking it, or else what is the point of getting a LDR started ?...... And if you have children then that is a near impossible thing to contemplate, for me anyway.

Wishing you the best of luck though, it can and does happen here.....

Hey kasih

Follow your heart... good luck i hope it works out for you

I think you need to break away from emails and try some live one to one on msn or skype. If it's a genuine feeling for one another it shouldn't be an effort to keep a good conversation going, if anything, the longer you talk the easier the conversation should be.

Good luck. :)

When you say "long distance" presumably its safe to assume another country ?
When you say "it takes lots and lots of trust....", trust about what ? About whether or not he is still "talking" to other people !??
Surely if you meet someone on a website and it gets at all "serious", one thing to do is both leave the website ! Another thing to do is to arrange to meet in person, or you just happy with a cyber friend for life ?
Finally, you say "there is still a possibility of not ending up together". A possibility !? Well without all the normal face to face things I would have said a very real probability of "not ending up together".

Thank you guys. . . Like i say,we all play to win . . . I just hope i get lucky?

Just a comment in general and not pertaining to your question or situation.


Only if people could listen to RDM59 advice, all this insanity of looking for a long lasting long distance relationship talk could end. After a certain age nobody has the energy, except for the few very lonely souls, to specifically make a journey to meet some woman in another country-- unless that woman is Claudia Schiffer. Relocation, retirement, and vacation are different issues. I still wonder why women are looking for love in other countries with barriers such as language and distance. I personally get a headache sometimes trying to figure out what my exotic Asian female friend is babbling about. One also needs to figure the money factor involved in keeping such a relation. For a woman it’s love and for a foreign man it could mean a fast withering bank account. What is wrong with local men? What they have done wrong? Just because they don’t earn in $$$, that should not be a consideration. Or is it the only one? When you can have kids with a local man, why bother now to look for a foreign lover? Long distance thing is good only for an occasional short term affair with the mutual understanding and convenience of both parties. Or else, perhaps laying naked all your life on skype can make the relationship ever lasting.

Hello Howe1, without your comments everything seems so dull here.

I agree with how1e,, Get off the site..Get off the social-dating sites..go from there.

prestidigitator1 Thats good so you can stay there in your Dirt swirl country and I will marry a bice Asian girl inspite of my low energy,desperation ..u can keep all the girls in your country to yourself..U have a nice day :)

@prestidigitator1 . . . They say love is something u cannot see but yet u can feel it presence. You feel the love of children and parents. But first you have to believe in it . Its like the air that u breath, u cant see it but its there.

Mr P, thats very kind, thank you !
Ms Kasih, you are now starting to sound like that well known CS blogger Steveno. (Not that I ever read his entire blogs, I would like to quickly add). "They say love is something you cannot see...". Who are They ? Love between 2 people does not whistle through the trees or float on the wind or even come through the wireless internet connection. Its not an intangible asset, its something real which you can touch and hold. If you want an analogy then love without these things is like a building without foundations.......sooner or later its just going to fall down. The internet is good for introductions but after that you have to make something real happen.