Posted:Sat Oct 24, 2009 10:10 PM CST
i take care of my dad but.....
so i take care of my dad full time. i work 6-7 days a week as a server. my dad is 50 disabled, severely depressed, heart disease, ephasema, heart attacks, dizzy spells, and an alcoholic to boot. im 26 years old and 1 of 7 siblings and the only one to take this responsibility on. to start i walked through the door tonight and my father was already drunk... he immediately goes to blaming me because his "friends" are mad at me because i demand a little respect. i come home from work to a house full of people more days than not and scare them all off...but thats not the point... so my dad goes to yellin at me and blamin me for everything that has happened while i was at work.. his "friends" kicked in the door while i was away... wanting to beat him up.. his girlfriend wont talk to him because he is a flippin lunatic... he gets in my face and pushes me against a wall.. i push back.. he goes over the coffee table... chases me around the house and i flee out the door... im not a fighter yopu see... ill talk my way out of a fight first. i guess mainly i just want to vent but also to let you all know. i also have medical power of atterny.. which means when he is not in his right mind i can say what to do with him.. to me he isnt in his right mind. but how do i prove this? how do i make this madness stop? how do i get my sanity back?
WhovianGeneva
Geneva, Geneve Switzerland
Sat Oct 24, 2009 11:53 PM CST
Hi
First my respect to you. That's not an easy situation....even more difficult if your siblings don't help you...
I think the first to take care is his alcoholism. Not sure what you can do about that. Perhaps a place where people could take care of him when you're at work ?
unlucky
Hamilton, Pembroke Bermuda
Sun Oct 25, 2009 7:14 AM CST
Hi
Look in phone book for AL-ANON Group. Unlest you been a caregive [i was for 14 years] they do not understand. You are a
but try take care of yourself too. Get information from his doctor, there is virel infection people with heart probles sufffer from extreame mood swing, a simple check up will tell. If want email me if you want to vent. TAKE CARE
Englishman55
Cortona, Tuscany Italy
Sun Oct 25, 2009 9:24 AM CST
People don't appreciate what they have until it's gone.... maybe you should try leaving for a while, and see if any of your siblings will assist.
Wow, I give you credit for all you are doing for him, but when it gets physical it's time to leave. You are no good to him or anyone else if you are injured. The first thing I would do is leave, then maybe see about having him hospitalized for the depression and/or alcoholism.
Good luck, and please be careful.
delphi_in
rotterdam, Flevoland Netherlands
Sun Oct 25, 2009 5:53 PM CST
i agree with englishmen and longhairedwomen that noone in thi world has a right to hurt anyone no matter what.
U have a life to live and dont letyour mood and mental health get affected by this.
Move on.You dad is not doing good to you or to himself.
Have a independent Life away from the hassels.
:)
lonelyrk
westville, Illinois USA
Sun Oct 25, 2009 6:32 PM CST
Your the best of 7,im sure you love your dad.if you didnt you woudnt be trying to take care of him.Maybe some in home care would help your problem.you do need some free time for your self before you lose it. im sure there is someone out there that will help you with his mean strick.If you would like to talk e-mail me.best wish butterfly,and take care.
caspatch
galena, Missouri USA
Mon Oct 26, 2009 11:15 AM CST
i went to family doctor and he filled out the paper work to have her committed for alchohal problems, they had a hearing with a judge at the hospital to determine if it was needed after a 4 day observation period.. i think you should talk to some one.. tha county has a drug and alchohal abuse center that handled the commiting and sent the sheriffs dept out to pick her up
tonymhancock
League City, Texas USA
Mon Oct 26, 2009 3:14 PM CST
Iron Skillet will usually take most of the fight out of someone. Look, think of you kid and your personal well-being,.. choices are pretty easy to make after that
50alone
indianapolis, Indiana USA
Fri Oct 30, 2009 3:15 PM CST
This is from your dad dont put my life online any more You are not my care taker just my daughter You are here to help me with the bills and to help when I need it and thats not often. I take care of myself. I can wipe my own ass and feed myself. I clean my own house not you I also do most of your laundry includeing the ironing so back off
and to take the abuse...
eaglo
Orlando, Florida USA
Sun Nov 1, 2009 1:50 AM CST
Take care of him you will win at the end. I promisse.
LILLYLADY
10 Sneeze Town, Ohio USA
Tue Nov 3, 2009 1:12 PM CST
Your dad has spoken here in the comments section. Move on and move on out. Your mental and physical health will go kaput if you stay. No need to help him with bills or other things as he believes he is quite capable of taking care of himself.
However, if you feel he is a threat to himself and others or is at risk of being harmed by others.....then call the local Adult Protective Services and they will pay him a visit. There are reasons that you siblings keep their distance. Perhaps it's best for you to do the same.
jayjaywaiting
dublin, Dublin Ireland
Sun Nov 22, 2009 12:16 PM CST
you need to get out and live your life for yourself and your children.....dont let your dad stop you....as he has said he is well able to look after himself and if that is what he thinks then let him do exactly that....
regards JayJay