Posted:Mon Nov 2, 2009 10:35 AM CST
Passion & Stability
In looking back on my life, I've had several long term relationships (at least 5 years), some relatively long term relationships (1 to 4 years) and quite a few short term relationships (less than 12 months). Being somewhere in my midlife, I guess I am relatively quite experienced with love.
In summary I find it somewhat ironic that some of my most passionate relationships were also some of the most short lived. I mean, these were often relationships where we both couldn't wait to get our hands (and other body parts) all over each other the moment we got together. It was like nuclear fusion. Now some of these extremely hot relationships fizzled out, because the other person turned out to be already in a (committed?) relationship. But, others just burned out due to other circumstances. Perhaps they were like raging fires that rapidly consumed all in their path. Or maybe that heat was too hot to handle. Regardless, ideally, shouldn't this be the type of relationship you would want to hold onto the most ?
A lifetime of passion sounds very tempting, but maybe a slow steady burn is better for relationship stability ? Or perhaps it had more to do with the intrinsic volative emotional nature of my partner ? Maybe the more emotional type of woman turns out to be the hottest lover, but also the most unstable ? Ideally one needs to seek a happy balance of passion and stability. In my opinion sex is very important aspect in a relationship, but so is other communication as well. Its like the sex & romance provides the heat 
, but the rest decides how cool it is. 
Together, they help you feel overall satisfaction comfort. 
Or perhaps more applicable, the overall satisfaction is the glue that holds together the relationship, but the passion is the magnetic attraction. If you have both, it's a stable long term bond.
May you all find that perfect blissful blend. 