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I guess some women don't want the responsibility, either that or they're scared of it. If I met a guy around the same age with kids and we really hit it off...then I wouldn't have a problem with them having kids.

afraid of responsibilities being an instant mom..especially if the woman is single...and no kids...and ur time must be divided among ur children and ur lover... hope i helped u with this...

It could be that some girls are just scared that they wont be the most important thing in your life.....OR that they know if they get into a relationship with you they know that you will still have something to do with their mother, and maybe it is too much for them to handle, as some girls get more jealous than others....these women that run a mile are not right for you...
There will be a woman out there who will love the fact that you are responsible, and have your priorities in tact and obviously are not scared of commitment. They will be the one that will realise that you are a guy who is strong, and who will do the right thing and make changes when needed...You sound like you love your children very much and that to me is a very attractive atribute to have!! SO keep doing what you are doing and embrace it!! It may not happen tomorrow, but the right person is out there! If they really like you, they will make it happen....
Hope this helps a bit!!

I think you're doing a great job,and if i was your age i would be there like a shot.These girls who meet you and run,after finding out you take care of your kids,well,they just dont deserve you,but the right girl will come along one day and be right by your side.I take my hat off to you,Good Luck to you in the future,i'm sending you and your kids,BIG KISSES XXXXXXXXXXXX

OK Im not a girl.........but seems to me Arielle is completely right. You dont need to be Einstein to work out that unless you are a crap parent, those kids are always fundamentally going to come first. And how many women want to be coming second ?

Perhaps you could focus on ladies who are also single parents so they have a complete understanding of the situation and the difficulties.

Best of luck to you....

They want to be the center of your attention, not your kids...I commend you for being there for your girls.....my kids are grown, but I was a single parent also....I stepped away from the dating scene and concentrated on my kids, because it was hard for someone to take me and my kids on......Just love them, they grow up way too fast...and know everything will turn out fine.

It's not the same thing with all women.. I believe that women prefer single men with no kids at all because of the complications of the relationship. It's not being scared but a little bit complicated adjusting with the children and stuff like that.
Eventually, you will find someone who is the right for you and will not run away when you tell her you have children.

Cheers,
Jenny

From my perspective (as a parent having my kids with me full time) it's a good thing. It means that people who don't respect my priorities and the fact that my girls come first don't even appear on my radar.

Just think of it as a very effective weeding out of the 'wrong' sort. At least you know that any girl who makes it through that first intro at least respects where you stand with your family.

Weather your a single mom or a single dad, the first thing you need to do is to extend the age range you will accept. A young single mom will probably not attract a 'young hot' guy and it is probably the same for a single dad......but for the 'young hot girl' instead. At least that is what I have been told by a female friend of mine who is only 20 and keeps getting guys in their late 30's interested in her. She can't seem to get anyone around her age interested in her and she said she knows it is because of her 'single mother' status. If you extend the age range up to 40 you never know. Then again I could be misinformed as usual I wish you the best of luck

kudo's for single dad's

now honestly, it's not that different then what single mom's go through. it's a rare PERSON that can see past the obligations and responsiblities and time demands and restraints that single parenthood brings to the potentially wonderful partner you can be.
It was hard for me to do, but i seperated my personal adult life (dating and talking with men) from my maternal life (getting girls to school, making teacher conferances, work, helping with homework, cooking, washing,ect..) and to tell myself it's not my kids business yet. and my kids aren't my date's business yet either (other than letting them know i have them).
My kids don't need a vauge memory of different men (if i ever find a single one that'll amaze me) mommy's dated and i want that other person to get to know ME before getting to know the mommy me.

there was a point in there somewhere, lol

i think it was something like 'buck up'.

I would enjoy a man with kids that actually accepts responsibility for them. A longer and responsible father is an amazing thing to find. I have two boys I am raising on my own and not one of my dates has ever taken the time to get to know them. I agree there is some hesitation on their parts, I am sure you are not asking these girls to marry you on the 1st date, but that is how I feel the guys I have met treat me. I don't want their money, I won't allow them to move in or stay the night, I just want somebody to get to know me and the kids, but understand that things will go slow because I will not have my kids hurt by some fly by night fling.
You are doing a good job, don't give up and keep the girls first and foremost in all your choices.

I just wanted to say thanks to all of you for your support. Its nice to know their are real people out their that are going through the samething. My girls are my life and it will be hard but I'm sure I will find somebody that will understand that they come first and dosent have a problem with that.

Again thanks to all of you that responded

Justin

There a alot of reasons why, to young, don't want childred, or just plain scared. There are women out there that will love you and your children, the point I am trying to make is you don't want a woman that runs away when she finds out you have kids, but one that will run to you and love them like they are their own. I have the highest respect for you and wish the best for you and your girls...

I can't speak for anyone but myself. And my answer is simple. I don't like kids. LOL. (Well, don't 'hate' 'em, just don't want to be around them).