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Ok, your last question, just half of it really, you wonder what women want? Well men have been wondering that since the beginning of time, and since all women are different it makes it even more complicated, I think a woman wants a man who will for starters be his real self and not put on some fake mask, that will sooner or later come off, after wasting much of their precious time, you have read my blog I know, I saw your comments, that is how I express myself, you think my blogs are all the same, read better, think more deep and maybe you can answer some of the question you have here yourself. Peace-out.

Point well taken Sir! :)

have you read mine...

u didn't really give a descrpition madame! :)

Perhaps one must be willing to take all the chances and risks, open all the windows and doors for any possibilities of good relationship.. that is if they are really wanting to have one...just be wise and smart to distinguish the truth from lies...its a common sense... a lot may promised true love but u know..time will reveal who will stay till the end of the rainbow...everyone deserves to be loved...finding the right one to love is not easy....just keep the faith..don't lose hope...it will come knocking on your door and will stick to your face whether you like it or not..... have a nice journey in searching....

Sometimes it is important to have certain features to a relationship. My work is how I support myself. If I have someone in my life that disbelieves in what I do, it causes problems in my work. It undermines my good humor and I do not feel complete, nor supported, nor trusted. So, it is not really a matter of being picky. It is a matter of being in my groove in my own home.

I can't have someone in my life that not only does not have faith in me but demeans my work. Been there, done that. So, now my work (and myself) is more important to me than a relationship with a man.

Well that's a complicated comment HavinfunTX! I can sense an accute disappointment in your situation resulting from the bad experiences of your last relationship. And yes I agree with you to the extent that one should not continue to accept the utter disregard by their partners and if it cannot be corrected anymore, one should get out of such a waste-of-time/life relationship.

But I strongly disagree having no relationship at all. Just for the mere fact that you had bad experience(s).

Just like bad people, good people find you too. You just have to open your trueself snd see how the magic works for you. Simple! :)

Hi, Max, I am a very complicated person. Therefore what would be a good fit for me is very UNcommon of a person. They have to have an extremely open mind because my career is so extreme.

We are not talking one relationship here, Max. I have had three failures to date since I started my new career in Dec 2000. I almost even gave up my career that pays me well and I love dearly...for a man. But this man refused to at least honor certain promises he made. That too, is not one time this has happened.

So, falling back on my career as a healer I have to look closely at ME. What is THE common denominator? Me. I allowed these people in my life and I allowed myself to love them. Because I am the problem...picking men that disrespect me and my work ...then I need to not have a relationship at all. Until I heal that energy within ME that attracts that type of man or that makes me so desperate that I would chose someone so demeaning to me. Do you see?

I do not blame them. I knew that the next to last one was a liar. And took him anyway. I knew the last one was a religious nut. Ditto. So, I have to love and respect ME more. That way, if I have love of self within me, I can attract someone that can love and respect me as strongly as I do. What is within...is without. Law of attraction.

Bingo! I am glad that you took the courage to point out YOU as in the common denominatior and the biggest problem to yourself. What is more interesting is that it was not an error of judgement on your part. YOU DID KNOW what kind of men they were exactly. And you continued KNOWINGLY.

I would disagree that you attract such men.

Since you are an artist, though I hate to generalize, I suspect you may be a bit eccentric and might have mood swings specially during the periods which my artist friend call a "Creative Fit" when ideas are flowing in.

That makes it difficult for conventional people to digest a lot of different behaviours emanating from an artist, not from a loving partner. Generally people fail to make the distinction.

I think it's normal and not a big deal. In your case your need for acquiring love quickly, perhaps overwhelmed your right judgement and made you take hasty decisions and accept people who were not right.

And then you repeated it thrice. I would say this time do not give your partner a benefit of doubt on something that's so obvious. And do not rush. Take it more easy, rather than just shutting down permanently.

After all those were only 3 from the 3.5 billion on earth. I don't think they represent the entire lot :)

To love someone means you are willing to sacrifice, not to change who you are.
And to love means you are ready to take the risk.
I do believed, still there are good people there who will going to love you, and accept you the way you are.
Every one has his/her own partner, maybe we did not find it, or maybe we already met them we doesn't notice their presence because we are still looking faraway.

Thanks for the comments Trixie. I can sense from your words that you are a genuine person!

Hi maxmate, yes I am.