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"I think men who have a pierced ear are better prepared for marriage. They've experienced pain and bought jewelry"

how1e cologne, Nordrhein-Westfalen Germany
1 hour ago
"I think men who have a pierced ear are better prepared for marriage. They've experienced pain and bought jewelry"
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Thanks But No Thanks

Mr. Howe, considering I have both my ears pierced and my labret pierced, it would seem that I'm even more equipped to undertake the marriage scene. Thanks for the advice sir! I really need to get on the ball if I'm ever going to match the average failure rate of marriages in a lifetime. Maybe I should marry a few women at one time so I get ahead of the game. Imagine the bragging rights I'd have with three divorces at once!

Marriage is only good for men. So it's all about you!

Until the patriarchial society we live in changes. So good luck! lol!

Thats an interesting perspective DMouse, runs contrary to the well known "i have always thought that every woman should marry and no man" (Disraeli). But if it is true that marriage is only good for men, then its definitely true that divorce is only good for women !!

Bravo Mr. Howe.

No good answer yet please can some one with a better answer come in to this

Here's the best answer you will get. What were you asking again?

Having read another of your Blogs.... You already know the answer to your own question... To Quote your blog Question

"IF THE BIBLE REMAINS A CLOSED BOOK TO YOU, YOUR STRUGGLE,CONFUSION AND FRUSTRATION WILL CONTINUE THEN YOU ARE LIVING BELOW STANDARD OF GOD'S IMAGE BECAUSE THE BIBLE IS ALSO THE MANUAL OF HOW TO LIVE LIFE HERE ON EARTH"

So if the bible is the manual to live your life here on earth... I suggest you go read it again... You obviously missed the part about marriage.... unless, of course you are not from this earth.

Or maybe you ARE the "Second Coming"

Not sure if I understand the question, but marriage is the joining of two lives: two hearts and two minds. That's why Scripture says "that they may be as one". Because marriage is more than a physical union, it is important to be sure that the other person is a good match for the whole person, and is not entering the marriage for selfish reasons, but truly loves you enough to put your happiness over their own.

This is what marriage should be. Actually carrying it out is another matter entirely...that's why so many divorces.

dude, marriage in reality is none of the things you posted. It is a man and a woman uniquely crafted for one another. Only God can give a true marriage and that other side of yourself will be to you as your very own flesh. Like a child is your very own flesh. You will feel as strongly toward her as you would to a child, or other family member. It cannot be found in your own power for you do not know what to look for. It must be given.

Marriage has become law. It was not that way from the beginning. Two people were given to one another and recognized eachother as flesh of thier flesh and bone of thier bone. they could no more be seperated then they could chop off thier own arm. Never marry unless you recognize the one in the way in which I speak. If you do, not only do you do yourself a disservice, but you most likely will be depriving the other of ever having that one as well.

I think i am getting some good answers here to my question about what marriage is really all about I have asked this question not because i do not know a bit about marriage i have seen good marriages gone bad i have seen young couples separated or divorce after having kids which is the fruit of marriage though many marriages are still intact and healthy so whats the secret to a long lasting effective marriage I believe as a christian that marriage without CHRIST will be in crisis but what about falling in love with a non christian what about the financial aspect of it what about characters such as honesty , forgiveness , humility , understanding tolerance etc. does it mean that those broken marriages has lacked all this ?

I think when those bad things happen that it is ultimately self centeredness. Not having Christ as THE focus in the relationship. Not treating the other as more important than yourself. Missing some humility and longsuffering/ patience that only being christ centered can teach us. Remember, we are not always faithfull to christ, but he never leaves us or forsakes us. However I truly truly believe that no one should get married unless it is brought to them by Christ in a way that is unmistakeable. Then you know you are with the right one and can have and be taught by God what a real marriage is, not to mention that you will not be getting married for selfish reasons to begin with..

If you are going to use Holy Scripture as a reference, there are a lot of passages which can pertain to this issue. Many times we think we can marry someone and then we can change them or they will convert to our faith - but we should not expect this because it is not true at all. God does not make this promise. Instead we should walk into it knowing we cannot change another person, that there is no guarantee that they will become the same faith, even if they tell you they will - it has to be a heart conversion, a gift/grace from God, not an agreement born of romantic passion, which may not last.

Only what's built on Christ will last...I believe non-Christian marriages can make it but they lack the fundamental grace of the union as God instituted it by not basing it on spiritual principles, and only on human love for each other, which so easily can fail and is rife with imperfection, which is why we look to God for guidance and strength to be able to truly love another, in good times and in bad.

Many times a partner who does not share your religious viewpoint can slowly tear your faith apart by constant planting of seeds of doubt and then there is the question of how to raise the children.

Marriage is the union of body AND soul, as Scripture puts it, can two walk together unless they are agreed? (Amos 3:3)

I don't know if this what you are asking, and I wouldn't use Scripture for a non-Christian, but I believe your profile states that is your Faith persuasion. :) Atheists and non-Christians need not start an argument, I was referring to the Christian belief system only and in no way am implying non-Christians can't have beautiful successful marriages.