laurabona Blog Post: Sat Nov 7, 2009 2:46 AM CST

laurabona gold coast, Queensland Australia
Posted:Sat Nov 7, 2009 2:46 AM CST

why do we think that an emotional affair does not

It seems that in this day and age emotional affair's seem to be on the increase. Why do I say this let me explain. Some time ago I was talking to a friend, when he started asking me certain questions that is usually left for lovers, or husband and wives.

I have to admit I did let him continue just to see how far he would go. Then I asked him a question HAVE YOU EVER HAD AN AFFAIR answer no been tempted but no. Well my answer was yes you have, you have been having an emotional affair with me, and its been going on for a while, there was silence and he admitted yes he had. needless to say our friendship has continued, but now his conversation is more to do with everyday life little hiccups and we are back to becoming firm friends as before, which I am pleased about.

You see with the internet and on line dating sites chat rooms etc it is so easy to fall into that web.


I honestly beleive that an emotional affair is an affair after all it does not matter if one is sitting in front of a screen and chatting, or at work when one becomes dependant on a work colleague it is an affair, and sometimes emotional affair's lead into the passion affair.


Has anyone had an emotional affair that has led into a love affair let me know

Thanks teddybear

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franklyone Nelson, Nelson New Zealand
Sun Nov 8, 2009 8:39 PM CST
So are you making a case for 'emotional' affairs being bad? A sticky 'web' you'll die in if you don't fight free? I enjoy the opposite argument: that having an emotional affair with an internet friend, having a 'dream' lover on the net, and going to exotic, exciting, sensual places with her or him verbally is helpful in maintaining a real physical relationship, in which you/I/we cannot fulfill our less polite fantasies.

And, do not all affairs begin in the head?

Nice thread, thanx.
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broncos Toms River, New Jersey USA
Wed Nov 18, 2009 10:20 AM CST
I suppose that words on a computer makes it an affair, but some people married or not need the stimulation and the kind words from someone else that they may not get at home. Not condoning affairs, but some people need the emotion that sometimes unfortunately, comes from others. I am the last to judge and totally understand that behavior.
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laurabona gold coast, Queensland Australia
Thu Nov 19, 2009 3:17 AM CST
It is true what you say that words written by way of the internet are sometimes all someone has, and that a strong emotional bond occurs, and most of all a friendship, that two friends find and connect in a way that is sometimes not found at home, what a pity that these emotions cannot be expressed to the one that is a partner in life. But as you have said we cannot judge anyone, for no one knows what goes on behind closed doors. What a pity that sometimes we find it easier to talk to a stranger than our family.

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