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The man is a fool. He has a beautiful woman living just around the corner, she is a great kisser and is great company ! Then he disapears. There is something not right here ....

Many would have at least tried a few dates until they had their wicked way with you, and then disapeared.

He did email to explain. Perhaps he is a true gentleman .....

No great harm done by the sounds of it, chalk it up and let it be .....

Thanks for your imput. I appreciate it.

men jus want their cake an deat it too...u deserve sooo much better,in time the hurt will heal,and u will find someone new ,and honest...good luck ok.................m

if you see him again ,then give him the finger or some other jesture that you feel is right...its assholes like that make it hard for real men to find someone nice

I was in a situation a few years back that the outcome of, may pose as some significance to your question. The predicament that I was in involved a co-worker that had a very strong attraction to me, but I was in a serious relationship at the time so I didn't reciprocate, even though I did like her.

Well time passed, and about a month went by since she first starting coming on to me. One day out of the blue she dropped by my apartment. I lived with my brother at the time and he was out of town. She told me she just wanted to stop by and say "hey" and see how I was doing. A couple of guy friends of mine were over playing some video games so I invited her in for a few minutes. She gladly accepted and I told myself it was a bad idea. I kicked my conscience and went along with it anyways. Things were going respectably for quite awhile. I left the common area to go to my bedroom to put my cell phone on the charger. She came in behind me and closed the door. She started taking off her clothes while walking towards me. I was sort of dumbstruck at her boldness and without thinking about what I was saying I asked her what she was doing. All time seemed to stand still. My conscience kicked me back and clearly stated, "What the hell do you think she's doing dummy!?". I jarred myself from my stupor and picked her clothes up off the floor. Then while handing them to her told her I couldn't do this. I told her that if I wasn't already committed that maybe we could have something together, but that I wasn't going just throw away what I already had. She started crying and I felt like jerk. It's a natural reaction to want to comfort someone when they are upset, but she hadn't dressed yet, and I wasn't in a good position to attempt any kind of consolation. I quietly left the room and shut the door allowing her privacy. My friends were acting like typical guys giving me thumbs up and smiling. They had no idea what all had gone on. I just let out a heavy sigh and went outside.

The next day we worked together, she was really upset, and was reluctant to be anywhere near me. I don't blame her at all. She had just been, for lack of a better term, rejected, after having thrown herself at me in the most vulnerable way. I felt bad and tried to talk to her. Come to find out she was afraid I was going to spill what had happened to other employees and she was really embarrassed. I swore I would do no such thing and that she shouldn't worry. Everyone goes through their desperate times, including myself. She hugged me briefly and blew me a kiss. I shook my head and went about my work. We saw each other every day after until she quit a month later. She was back to her normal self after that, still trying to convince me that she could treat me better than the girl I was with. And who knows maybe she was right, after all that girl I devoted myself to so diligently, did leave me.

Moral of the story is, don't let it stay awkward. You can both still get along pleasantly and civilly without hard feelings. Just always try to be the more mature party in any relationship that you encounter, and you will carry on without regret. So if you bump into him sometime in the future just be polite and sincere. Once he sees that you still have your dignity about yourself and that you aren't bothered, he will react with the same. I hope this was helpful. I wish you well.

Sometimes you can't predict those first encounters.
Try next time to get to the know that person a little bit more??????
If you get to bump into him again, I'll just ignore him, what's the reason to talk to him,when he was with another person while going out on your date.
As you see there are those that want to have fun on your expense.
If you knew he was not looking for LTR as you I would have not even bothered.
Here there is a little for everyone, activity partner, intimate encounter and it becomes endless.
Hope your next date really becomes into a real dream!!!!!

Thanks guys, see that is what I said...you guys are really great. I know that I will learn to be more informed next time. I didn't know that he was not looking for a LTR at first, until the last minute. But, I will take it at heart to consider all your inputs. Thanks all. God Bless!

I don't know if I am in same situation as you? A guy who I know for 5 yrs by only email without any romance mail. Finally we met last two day when he drop by my country. We both liked each other very much and we kissed , he was a very gentleman never do anything over beyond it and he fly back after few hours...... don't know if he the same just wanted to date around until he find the one he wants? I was so dull after he go back, worse day and couldn't focus my work. Miss him all the time and at last I told myself. " do I like this kind of feeling? So suffer at all even I found he is very nice person , what I am looking for? A man who I can be with and develop in real life but not flying most the times and I have to worry about when he is and if he is safe? So i wrote him I only want friendship but no more move forward as it is real hard to keep last of the long distance relationship. Now i feel very release after telling him that though maybe I miss one very good destiny but I prefer to have peace lives for the rest of my life.

You face them with your head held high and don't let them know how much they hurt you.

I was going out with a guy for 2 years and only found out recently that he had been online on many dating sites. He was emailing women from different sites at night and they were sending him photos and videos of themselves naked. he was having what you can only describe as pornographic conversations with loads of them at night. I only found out because he used my computer one day and didnt shut it down properly. when I logged on later that night his email opened automatically and I saw all the emails and links to dating websites. He was also on sex dating websites asking women to meet him for casual sex.

He had asked me to marry him but yet at the same time he was carrying on like this behind my back.

I think there are far too many "easy" women on so many sites that have no morals and no respect for relationships and a lot of men can't resist the attention they get.

I'm still sick to my stomach. We tried to work things out but the trust is gone. He refused to take his profile off some sites because he said he had made FRIENDS on them !!!!!

If you want my advice you keep you head high and walk with pride. Men like that are not worth a second thought.

Forget he existed in your relationship. It happened to me once and all I can say is when you see him, don't let him know he took your power of trust away from you. That was yesterday, and today you are a different woman with different values. He is no longer significant in your life. Act accordingly and treat him like you would other strangers (with dignity and self control). For me in this similar situation, my relationship is dead so I buried it.

Its going to be awkward if u guys bumped in to eachother . . I would advice see what is his expression first or you could simply pretend he doesnt exist. I prefer the 2nd opt.

This is tough! But I would say pass it off as a nice evening and leave it at that

Be happy that he told you the truth. My dream come true that turned into a nightmare is lasting for over 7 years. Be glad your time and youth was not wasted on more lies and deceit.

"My question is how do you face someone after going through all this, if we happen to bump into one another?" Ignore or say hello to him and go about your life!

Thank you again for all your inputs. It is rewarding to know that you all have such kind insights about dealing w/sensitive issues. Some of these issues might seem stupid, relevant, or just nonsense, but for the person experiencing it, is not, and it is a burden. All you guys have the right answers and alternatives to deal w/this or any situation...and all your support besides being needed, it is also very appreciated.

Thanks all.