Posted:Sat Nov 7, 2009 11:42 PM CST
I am always amazed...
...by how ridiculous the stories are that I tend to make up about the people I read about...from their profiles. Profiles tell you a lot about someone. A mini picture of how someone's mind works. About how their mood was the day they wrote it...
Yeah, I know. I have only my picture about what is in that person's head and it is entirely judgmental to think that I know someone by what they write ...or don't write in their profiles.
Ah, so I am human. Big deal. Rag me for being human. But I just can't help but make those little stories up about the lack of info in profiles. To me, that reads..."I can't/won't communicate." Or..."I want it all my way...you get the little bit I am willing to give you and you just are gonna have to like it. After all, I am so dammmed sexy, you will be happy to have me without a word about how I really am or what I want."
I can't help it. From many past friendships and acquaintances online, I have found that people that won't talk about themselves in a profile or in public...just are secretive. That is compatible for some people but just not me.
I wonder...do they get people that way? Just a thought.
Curious...but HavinFuninTx
cunniligula
oklahoma city, Oklahoma USA
Sun Nov 8, 2009 12:36 AM CST
I only skim long profiles. Give me a pic and a sense of your personality. The rest--including how reserved you are--I'll determine later.
Tulefel
Göteborg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden
Sun Nov 8, 2009 7:39 AM CST
A profile that’s actually a long list of features a person thinks he/she has, and in the same manner a list of features that he/she is looking for in his/her eventual partner doesn’t tell me much about the author’s personality, but never fails to make me bored.
What and how much I would reveal about myself depends on the person I communicate with at the given moment. Don’t see any use in publishing a detailed self biography as introduction. Those, who are interested in boobs only, won’t read it anyway. Those, who’ve got brain, know that it takes much more than reading an introduction, however detailed, to learn something about a person.
almera03
portsmouth, Hampshire, England UK
Sun Nov 8, 2009 8:57 AM CST
Someone's profile could have 1000 words all B/S and a pack of lies or one could have 20 words all true and meaning . How you choose who to mail is of course entirely upto you , though sometimes we all fail to see what's just in front of our nose .
solitare
Up river from Concepcion Paraguay
Sun Nov 8, 2009 12:07 PM CST
More often than not, I think that most people would pefer to use 'generic profiles' targeted for gender, age range,, personal info basics, what they are looking for, etc. etc. Really clear, precise and creative...and correctly spelled words, even the ones with only 3 letters!
HavinFuninTx
North of Houston, Texas USA
Sun Nov 8, 2009 10:40 PM CST
Woops, that was refuse to communicate.
jeepers
Cowpet Bay, Saint Thomas Virgin Islands (USA)
Mon Nov 9, 2009 3:34 AM CST
What do you think of mine ? Just curious.
lrrh77
college station, Texas USA
Mon Nov 9, 2009 7:19 PM CST
I know what you're talking about. Those profiles that say "I'm here looking for somebody...wanna know anything just ask" And that's it. Nothing else to go off of except a picture. I don't care for those for myself.
HavinFuninTx
North of Houston, Texas USA
Mon Nov 9, 2009 9:58 PM CST
There you go. Not much for sharing, some of us. Then some make an art work of their profiles.
They make an effort to portray themselves. And it shows.
solost82
Half Moon Bay, California USA
Mon Nov 9, 2009 10:36 PM CST
You're not the only one that thinks this way I promise you. Your standpoint is quite solid. What people write about themselves, or fail to write about themselves, shows several things.
One of the most discernable characteristics is the effort they put into their profile. If their profile is vague and has little-to-no information about them, with maybe one picture, if that; then there's a really good chance that they are only on here because they just want to see what the site is all about, or they just want to find people close by to meet up with. If the individual actually did take the time to at least cover most of the details and has more than one picture, then most likely they are here for something more serious than just a fling. Then of course lastly, you have others who post no pictures, and still write about themselves sincerely.
"The only thing that is compatible with secrecy, is more secrecy."
-A.H.