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Thanks airliner, I'm just passing through. Not here to stay.

I've been composing music lately.

You can hear my lastest piece here if you like:

http://www.csonline.net/designer/ideas/fantasy.htm


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Unfortunately sexual compatibility is important. And this is a huge reason why finding a lifemate is so difficult.

If sexual compatibility could be removed from the equation there are tons of women I’d be compatible with on an everyday platonic level.

The problem with sex is quite simple. If your not enjoying the sex, they you will have no motivation to be sexual with your partner. So you’re either going to view that as being an undesirable chore, or something you’d just rather avoid altogether. Moreover, if you do engage in unfulfilling sex as a chore you’ll necessarily become resentful that you aren’t getting anything out of it. ESPECIALLY if your partner thinks that you are! Pretending to enjoy something that you’re not enjoying is basically lying. You will have become a chronic liar and you will be living a lie.

On the other hand, if you tell your partner that you just aren’t interested in them sexually chances are the relationship will be over right there and then.

Why live a lie?

Would you be attracted to a man who told you that he isn’t sexually attracted to you, and doesn’t enjoy being with you sexually?

I can’t imagine too many women saying, “That alright, let’s get married anyway!”

As far as I’m concerned sexual compatibility is an absolute must. If there’s no sexual desire its much better remaining platonic or non-existent. It wouldn’t be good to live a lie.



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Just stating the facts ma'am.

I never said that it was dumb to believe in a religion.

All I said is that it doesn't require an ability to think.

So your conclusion is illogical and unwarranted.


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Believe everything posted.

I always do!

Fall in love with anyone who posts to your thread.

I always do!

Use the word, "I", a lot.

I always do!

Pretend you're cool.

I always do!

Don't say you're single when there's a woman or man out there that would get very mad at that statement.

I never do!

Disregard people like me.

I always do!


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Religion doesn't require mathematics, or logical thinking.

In fact, it doesn't require the ability to think at all.

The less good you are at thinking the better you are suited for religion.


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I’m not a theologian, but it’s my understanding that of the four testaments “Mathew, Mark, Luke, and John” (I think?), only two of those actually suggest a resurrection, and they both give differing accounts of it.

I personally don’t believe that Jesus was born of a virgin, or that he was resurrected. I believe that he was a mortal man just like you or me. That’s what I believe.

The testaments were written years after the actual crucifixion, so it’s make a lot of sense that they would be elaborated on by wishful thinking.

I don’t buy into the ‘mystical’ aspects of the story. To me it is a distorted historical story of a very wise and dedicated man who lived in an oppressed society and hated the Roman’s guts. He defied them and paid for it via a horrific punishment that later writers attempted to immortalize by making him into a divine martyr larger than life.

The real irony to me is that if most Christians actually discovered that Jesus was ‘just a man’ they’d most likely denounce him.

I don’t believe that Christians are the slightest bit interested in Jesus. I believe that they are solely interested in the promised salvation so they can worm their way into a make-believe heaven.



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The real scary thing here is how quick the police are to pin the blame on an innocent person.

Makes me wonder just how many innocent people there really are in our jails!

And how many guilty criminals are running free because of it!



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You're a half-way intelligent, semi-good-looking, obnoxious person.

You’ll make out alright.



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You made a mistake when you made the promise not to tell in the first place.

I've made it clear to all my friends that if they want something kept a secret don't tell me about it. It's as simple as that.

It's not that I'm going to instantly run off and snitch on them. That's not the point at all. More to the point is that I don't want to be in a position to have to lie to protect my promise to them. So I solve that problem up from by simply not making those kinds of promises to begin with.

I’ll try to guard people’s personal ‘secrets’ for purpose of respect. Although, in those cases rather than lying for them I can simply respond to any inquisitions by stating that I feel a topic is too personal and I’d rather not discuss it.

However, in the case of actually having to lie to officials about a crime? No, I don’t want to be put in that position.

Moreover, why would a so-called ‘friend’ want to put you in that position?

Perhaps you need to reevaluate who you consider to be a ‘friend’.



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Immediate gratification?

I haven’t met a woman who can be immediately gratified yet.

They always want more, and more, and more.

They’re insatiable I tell ya!


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You're just begging for another email aren't you!


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Yes, a very important and necessary ingredient,...

but definitely not the only ingredient.


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I think a more enlightening question to ask is this:

Would you want to be in a full-time committed monogamous relationship with a person that you aren’t the slightest bit interested in having sex with?

There’s a difference between a platonic relationship and a romantic relationship.

And the difference is sexual desire. Plain and simple. That’s what differentiates a romantic relationship from a platonic one. And as far as I can see that’s the ONLY difference.

Romantic Love is just Platonic Love plus sexual desire. Period.

So no, love is NOT sex. But sex is the only thing that separates romantic love from platonic love.

If you go for someone based purely on sex and you don’t also love them platonically, then you are just going for sex, and not love at all.

For a romantic relationship you need both. Platonic Love AND sexual desire, which together become Romantic Love.

You can’t have romantic love with out sexual desire. Why not? Because by pure definition it would be reduced to platonic love if no sexual desire is involved.



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Do you love me
by The Hollies


You broke my heart, cauze I couldnt dance
You didnt want me around
Well now Im back to let you know
I can really shake em down

(two, three, four)

Yeh, do you love me (I can really move)
Well do you love me (Im in the groove)
Well do love me (do you love me)
Now that I can dance, dance, dance

Watch me now (push push)
Ah shake it up baby (push push)
Why, youre driving me crazy (push push)
Oh cmon a little closer

Well I can mash potato (I can mash potato)
Well I can do the twist (and I can do the twist)
Woh tell me baby (tell me baby)
Do you like it like this (do you like it like this)

Tell me, tell me, tell me

Do you love me (do you love me)
Do you love me (do you love me)
Do you love me (do you love me)
Now that I can dance, dance, dance

Watch me now (push push)
Ah shake it up baby (push push)
Why, youre driving me crazy (push push)
Oh cmon a little closer

Well I can mash potato (I can mash potato)
Well I can do the twist (and I can do the twist)
Woh tell me baby (tell me baby)
Do you like it like this (do you like it like this)

Tell me, tell me, tell me

Do you love me (oh do you love me)
Do you love me (do you love me)
Do you love me (do you love me)
Now that I can dance, dance, dance


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Do you feel that laws should be created to push moral values onto people?

Or do you feel the laws should be created to protect the freedom of innocent people from those with criminal intent?

I ask this because many people do seem to have trouble separating their politics from their personal morals.

I have a strong devotion and belief in the freedom of innocent people. Because of this I try very hard to keep my own personal moral values separate from my political (or legislative) views.

For example, personally I’m basically Pro-Life on the abortion issue, yet politically in good conscience I must vote for Freedom of Choice, because there is a difference between laws and my own personal morals.

Same thing goes for Gay Rights. On a personal level I’m not gay and I would be totally happy in a non-gay world. Yet on a political level I must vote for Gay Rights because I believe in the freedom of others to live as they wish.

Do you separate your personal moral values from your legislative decisions? Or to you believe that the purpose of laws should be try mold the world into a place that fits your moral values?

I pose this question because it is my belief that the vast majority of people make no distinction between their personal morals and the law. They tend to vote to have their morals put into law rather than considering and respecting the freedom of other people to hold their own moral values in an egalitarian free society.

I personally don’t believe that morals should be bureaucratized.

What are your thoughts?



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Cameras in the streets are not cameras in the house.

YOUR OFF TOPIC!

ARREST THAT MAN!!!

HAUL HIM AWAY!!!

What does he know anyway?




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I think they're a good idea too.

If the idea is to monitor crime, then only criminals should be worried about them.


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The forums on Connecting Singles are almost used like Chat.

They are supposed to be for 'discussion', but people use them more like IMing most of the time.

You can't edit or delete anything you post on a forum. Like AB already said, the forums are like the 'town hall'

You have a bit more control over the blogs. You can edit them and delete the comments that other people make to your blog after you've read them. It's more like it belongs to you. But you'll also get less reads and comments there.

You can post to both if you like. Theres a lot more action on the forums, but you might get a deeper discussion going on in a blog.

You can actually use a blog as a personal daily diary but I don't think anyone has actually done that yet.


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Lovely poems.

Nice screen name too.

I sincerely hope you find the one who's searching for you as soon as possible. I can fully identify with the wasted days and wasted nights you speak of. Sounds like she will be a very lucky woman. And I'm sure you'll be a very luck man as well.


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I simply don’t buy into the theory.

I think any cognitive mind is going to automatically question its own nature just by the simple fact that it is indeed cognitive.

I would personally reject any hypothesis that this stems from a physiological force. I mean, other than the obvious fact that brains are physiological in their nature. But what I’m saying is that if it were possible to have a purely spiritual non-physical cognitive mind I would readily believe that that mind would also be interested in discovering its own nature.

So, to me, it’s simply a result of being cognitive, period.

Any cognitive creature would surely question where it came from and what its true nature is.

Seems to me that if it didn’t, then it wouldn’t be very cognitive.

“Neuro-Theology” ,... Bah humbug.

Just my thoughts folks. Don’t get all bent.



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