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Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA
Kuriouskitty: I think I lost him.

i sent him an email which was short and to the point but not too clipped, letting him know that I care and willing to get though this with him. Spoke to him on the phone for a bit where I told myself I was not going to cry and ended up choking on some of my words like a fool. It was like I just wanted to say so many things, see his face while I explained it and just crumbled when trying to express all the emotions on the phone. He said he would call today but didn't. I am sure in his books there is no going back. Trying not to be too cynical but I may have to lick my wounds Ambrose and call it a day, and maybe just say I definetly lost someone special.


Well, if so, you made the effort, and if someone isn't willing to reconsider you under the circumstances you've described, Kurious, then the bond probably wasn't strong enough. And that can bring you some peace, can't it, K?wine


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Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA
Kuriouskitty: Ok. I guess I jumped the gun based on what most of you are saying and in the process may have lost someone who could have been special.


"May have" are the operative words here, I think. dunno hug


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Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA
I hope it is something that will be merciful when it finally finds me! uh oh uh oh hole


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Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA
freemind63: Hi Kuriouskitty,

Am I not understanding something here?

You see him on CS and your world falls appart just because YOU think deleting your profile is the right thing to? look how many people with partners, even married ones are still here.

Then YOU are the one to tell him you think it is best to go separate ways. Honestely, you wanna know what I would think (I mean, such a strong and imediate reaction just for the fact that he visits CS)? Honestely, I would think:..... woooooow, ok!?!? Maybe better, fine!

Not saying if he is or isn't to be trusted, but I would definately not like it when someone would forbid me(or just be in schock) to be on CS, not even my partner.
Talking about that and your feelings is a different thing ofcourse.

I have the feeling there is more to this, but than again, I might have missed something.

take care, ok?


thumbs up head banger


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Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA
LadyPhoenix1965: Ok, so I just got an email from a local man. YAY! Right? Lives only 20 minutes away, HUGE bonus! Little bit younger, but you never know. So I open his mail. Wants to know if I would like to get together with him and watch him.... self satisfy.



I deleted him without response. Was I wrong?


You mean, say, watch him read passages from the Encyclopedia of Philosophy (one of my favorite methods of self-satisfactionsmitten)?

If so, you were probably right to delete him without response. I know from experience that we intellectuals can be tough to deal with. blushing sad flower beer


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Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA
druidess6308: Good advice, J.


Good to see you here, D. I think you were needed. laugh hug


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Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA
ladichatterlee: i don't think government's track record is any worse than that of private enterprise.


confused I guess that depends on how one defines "track record."

Anyway, it's not a case of "free market health care" versus "socialist government-run health care" in this country. Our medical system is HEAVILY socialized as it stands. When comparing our system to Canada's (for instance - a system I know a little about and have experienced first-hand), it's comparing a system which is a hodgepodge of government control and private factors to a system which is more government controlled (though Canada also has private-free market factors in its medical system).

It's hard to make that comparison. For a certain group of people, the Canadian system works better, I think (also, as in America, where you live is highly related to what care you receive, and how reasonable it is). Many people have lost their homes and livelihoods and found themselves in horrendous debt because of medical expenses - something which doesn't happen in Canada - so give one point to Canada. Canada's more oriented to preventative care (e.g., colonoscopies...we've all read about people in the US who waited too long to do this simple preventive test, and reaped the horrible costs...something rarer in Canada) - point 2 to Canada; there is more innovation and better quality care on the higher levels of the US medical system - point 1 to the U.S.; taxes, largely in support of medical care, are substantially higher in Canada - point 2 to US; businesses in Canada are spared to some extent the tremendous costs of employee health-coverage - point 3 to Canada; people who are well-insured in the US are better-off (they get faster and more skilled care) than the average person in Canada - point 3 to the US. Etc.

So one's perspective about health care largely depends on where one is in life. Most of the people I know are nicely insured, and are able to afford it while maintaining a good middle-class life. I think they're a bit better-off than their Canadian counterpart. Those who aren't so well-insured (and aren't poor enough to qualify for medical assistence), are not better off.

For the record, I think I would prefer a more unitary system like Canada's to a piecemeal socialist system as advocated by Obama (and is used in other countries, to some degree), where one may get the worst of both worlds. hmmm


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Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA
Kuriouskitty: Feeling like an absolute idiot now. I know there are 2 sides to a story. I said what happened and said what he told me in response. Now feeling like absolute shit again. Did I really over-react about the website? He did ask silly questions, like how I did not know he also cancelled his account before saying he was just curious about the emails and so checked them. This upset me as I felt betrayed that he would check emails from other women on a dating site when we were supposed to be connecting and getting to know each other. That is what upset me. The feeling that he was looking elsewhere for distraction and not being honest about it. All he had to say then and there was that the relationship was not working and we should move on.

I mentioned his condition but did not go into it as I did not know the symptoms and external effects it could have on other while I was with him. It was only after returning home and doing research I gained more insight on the condition, which if I knew before would have allowed me to approach the situation in a better way.

If I could, I would go back and change it all, but I can't and it hurts. I may have lost a wonderful person and through my silliness I am unable to change it. so please people some of you should be careful with your remarks. please. I am hurting and feeling like absolute crap. I am literally blaming myself for his decision. I feel maybe I should have read more, done more. I hate it because I miss him so much. I want to hear his voice again. I want to see his smile again. I want to hold him again and I just feel it was all abruptly taken away and I will never see him again. I ruined it. I ruined it and I just want to kick myself.


Why assume that you've ruined it? It isn't over until you both say it's over. It's common for couples to break up and get back together again in the course of a developing relationship. Even the most compatible and caring lovers hit snags from time to time.

Why not contact him again and talk about it? The worst that could happen is he would say "no," in which case, at least you tried. There's no point in beating yourself up over past mistakes. It's really how we respond to our mistakes that makes us who we are.

The best that could happen is that: 1) you could achieve some kind of closure for both of you; 2) your relationship could continue, stronger than it was before.head banger hug


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Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA
druidess6308: A good, and valid, point Morgan. Some of us have too many friends here, and too much fun, to leave. Good morning!

Ambrose, as always, spot on and giving good analysis...especially about why it can't be, since we have only a little information and only her side. There are always three sides to any story...his, hers, and the truth (which lies somewhere in the middle).


hug head banger cheers


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Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA
morgan5: Hi Ambrose also possible the felt he was trying to be controlled, trust is a 2 way street.

As you have said many stay on the site once in a relationship for various reasons.


Morgie!hug wine


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Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA
Kuriouskitty: Thanks Brooklyn. I am going to take your words to heart and just let it go. I am sure I will cry a bit more for the next coming days, but I am sure he is not the least bit perturbed as I am. So I am not going to let it bother me too much any more, or so I hope.

To be fair though, despite what happened, he is a fabulous guy with a wonderful heart. I just think maybe he he was so severely hurt by his first love, that he gets into flight mode the instant he thinks or feels someone getting too close.


Hmmmm...sounds like that last might apply to you. AFter all, in your account, you immediately reacted to a perceived problem by suggesting you break up. hmmm dunno


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Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA
Kuriouskitty: Now you are making me smile.

It is awesome to know that you are no my side. Not that doubted this:)

Either way you gave some really good bits of advice and I will take it to heart.

I knew this site was good for something other than scammers, not that I have particularly attracted any. but then again, was this relationship a scam? Hmm. Nah. Won't go down that road. It is good to know that there are good people online, especially.

I was weeping my head off this morning thinking, goodness how could I have gotten it wrong again. How could I let such emotions surface. How could I let him hurt me. How, how, how, how, how????? Now I am thinking ok. So it is over. Yeah it feels a bit sucky. Nah it feels a lot sucky, but life goes on.


Your disagreements seem possibly pretty trivial. One thing that's necessary for a relationship to grow is the ability to deal with disagreements. If you lack the tools for that, you're relationship is basically dead on arrival.

Unlike most of this thread's respondents, who seem to be making all kinds of unwarranted assumptions, I'm suspicious that you simply packed it in upon encountering the first little relationship snags, which are unavoidable. But again, unlike most of the others here, I don't see enough information for more than speculation. (Morgie was, predictably, an exception, demonstrating her usual intelligent take.wine)


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Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA
You haven't provided enough information to do more than guess (wildly) what happened. From what you've written, his still being on CS could either be completely benign or some form of betrayal. I would lean toward "benign." Hell, I'm still on CS, and I have found the love of my life. So have many others here. dunno confused I have a strong feeling you waaayyy overreacted. Again, without any information (for example, what did he say when you asked him about it? Etc.), it's impossible to say.


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Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA
HealthyLiving: I suppose you never read any of my threads on Bush and Cheney?

Better read back.

Hey, I am really really "nice" to Obama if you want to compare my writings.

Meet the New Boss...
Same as the Old boss
!


head banger I thought that was my line, H!laugh beer


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Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA
lonelycowboy101: When It it time to realize there is no one out there that matches ??????????????


That's easy: when you've met all the women on this planet (leaving off the question of extraterrestrial romantic life).professor laugh


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Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA
rickjc25: Phyllis Schlafly got into this because Abram was quoting from Phyllis's website.
http://www.eagleforum.org/psr/2009/may09/psrmay09.html

IF you even bothered to do a minimum of research instead of just blindly swallowing what others rant about you would have realized that.


What the fuck does wondering where Phyllis S came into this have to do with "swallowing what others rant about"?? confused dunno


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Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA
OUTRAGEOUS: No, is not her (Outrageous)...if people wanna post main profile photos which are not themselves it is not OUTRAGEOUS fault!


Well-played, A. I should've seen that one coming. laugh hug


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Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA
Harleyquinn: What are you talking about you old witch?


Whom are you calling "old"?? snootyblues


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Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA
You've been a great contributor here, Ray. It's been a pleasure having your around.hug head banger


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