The follow I read somewhere else on the web (C....'s List), Is it good advice ladies?
Ok guys, I'm back on the dating scene again,(not my fault)and I have to tell you, the scene is scary. I've checked out quite a number of sites to see which is better. What I've found is an incredible disconnect between what women are looking for and what men are posting in their profiles. I thought perhaps you all could use a little unsolicited (but badly needed) advice.
1) The Photo. Please, unless you want to attract women in prison..don't look like a convict. Smile, step away from the camera a bit, make sure it's in focus! If you don't have any good photos, get one taken first, then post. Have a REAL friend (preferably a woman)look at the photo you are thinking of using and listen to their advice. And for god's sake, if you are over 45 or 250 lbs...keep your damn shirt on! Do not post more than 5 photos...too many photos is a signal for women to flee from your profile. Don't ask me to explain, just listen and trust that I tell you this for your own good. Also, and this one is REALLY important...make sure the photo was taken this year!!! I once went on a date (note the word once) with a guy that had a very good photo, which turned out to be more than a decade old. It was quite obvious why he posted that photo...but if you lie about what you look like...what else will you lie about? Seriously, we don't want to waste your time anymore than we want to waste our own.
2) The Description. Say something...if you don't let women get an idea of your personality, then why are you posting on a dating site? Women like to read, we like details, it helps us make informed decisions. Most important...SPELL CHECK!!!! Read what you wrote...twice. Don't post anything with misspelled words, it shows a lack of concern. After the second misspelled word, I'm gone. If you don't care enough to write something readable, then why should we have an interest in dating you?
3) Posting. When you are dating someone, and it's not going well...DO NOT POST ON ANY DATING SITE UNTIL YOU HAVE BROKEN UP!!! Again, trust me on this, we will find your posting and the results are bound to be ugly. For your own sake, don't let the dating site handle the break up for you. I would never do such a thing, but the word revenge has cropped up in conversations about this topic.
4) Last but not least, if you find someone that you are interested in and you email them, do not assume that they are not interested if they don't email back. Some of these sites are expensive and we can't afford to join. I put clues into my profile for interested men to follow. I figure if you are smart enough to find them and follow them, then you would be worth my time! Also, check out M.....2...it's FREE.
Hopefully some of you will take some of this advise to heart and have much more success finding your soul mate. Good luck.
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