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I think it's the weather... dang right chilly outside! Is everyone bored and simply in an existential mood? Maybe we need better light in here so everyone will cheer up! I couldn't find a point to post on this thread so I'm just hacking at it. One thing for sure .... if you make any kind of serious post on these type of website forums somebody is going to flame on even if everyone else is being very positive... seems that lots of people only want to find faults rather than put a positive spin on good ideas.... maybe it's just because they don't have much of a home life and are sexually frustrated.........


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Despite all the heartache and pain of past relationships we can find happiness in knowing our accomplishments while the relationships existed. This past thanksgiving I was very well over the separation and traumatic experience of gf deserting me. I was going to be alone during the holidays which I had never in my life been alone before. Yet, I sat at the computer and typed out a simple letter letting her know that it was thanksgiving and that despite my hurt and pain I found great joy in remembering the 4 1/2 years we had been so happy together. To this day I do not harbor ill feelings for her and have found new interests in a direction away from pursuing her in any way. Just knowing I can find joy in knowing I accomplished many good things and had a very good life with her has made me happy.
Now, I'm very happy that she has a new life with her family and I'm faring much better in my own endeavors and being alone has finally become a happy and joyful time when I can concentrate on the things that make me happy. Getting out of the rut of thinking I can't live alone has brought a whole new joy to my life.


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Sorry mam... nobody asked me a question ... I was being nice and let everyone else speak. Personally, I'm not so overly anxious to jump right into a big time serious forever and ever relationship...but it would be nice if it should happen. I don't have a schedule or agenda to worry about despite how I worded the post. I do find the responses very interesting. I made this same post on 3 other date sites and for the most part was bashed and trashed. I have a bad habit of studying or at least paying attention to people's reactions and I found the differences from site to site to be insightful in the nature of social behavior. It seems that whatever the first response is that it sets the tone for the vast majority of other responses. This particular site has been overwhelmingly positive and most seem to identify with the proposition. On other sites it has ranged from indifference to outright attacks in defending free speech. And of course, nomindgames even chastised me without provocation simply because I had not participated in the banter. Gawd... human behavior is amazing. One person wants to be funny then everyone wants to be a comedian...one starts out bitching and the rest tend to follow the leader. When one sees good in you then most look up to you as if a hero. I don't know whether to describe this as social phenomena or a particular term for the behavior of masses...something to do with mass psychology. Quite interesting tho for political persuasion and what to avoid when trying to test a political sales pitch. As for the o.p. I'm still wondering why some people get the point and others seem to totally over look it indeference to their right or desire to pursue entertainment. Very interesting..............


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Don't know about eveyone else but I got bored on CS and found other forums to play on for a while. It might be the winter blahs... I got back to work and it has brought me around and changed my whole attitude! Feeling like things are super fantastic for a change rather than all crappy. Just working out the kinks so I'll be moving much faster in the warmer months... pretty nasty weather outside at the moment...good time to have inside work!


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yes...that is very true....but then the point of the post is that maybe there could be one topic for threads which are intended solely for seriously looking people and not merely for chit chat of those who are ONLY for the forums. Actually, most of the people I IM with and exchange emails with are ladies who are married and in a serious relationship already... we are only friends and quite open and helpful with each other in our discussions and have absolutely no intention of meeting.


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Lots of people on these date sites are misleading and in reality are using them as the local watering hole for discussion. Supposedly the purpose of these forums is to assist in people meeting so they can date and hook up. But, you can find a large number of people who simply come here to meet friends, kill time, and play. Lots are wasting time of people who are very seriously wanting to find a mate or simply a date. Maybe there should be a way to separate them in various discussions/meeting places...maybe filter out those looking for just friends or email ... possibly could apply to intimate encounters as many of us are actually hoping to find a serious relationship as our ultimate goal.



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Sheesh... I thought D&D went out in the 1980's? That old head banging stuff.....


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.....alive....


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As for IM's and communicating on the internet...that is absolutely my #1 pet peeve. I get into chats with females who will have a pile of chats going at the same time....definitely a put down. If I'm not worth her full undivided attention then she gets less important to me very quick. It is definitely rude in my opinion.

Another is the ones who jerk me around and make b.s. excuses. I was supposed to meet a lady for brunch today... "you're sending me mixed signals"... totally stupid to me... We were supposed to be meeting, not debating the quality of her understanding. The next signal I sent was not at all mixed...it was direct "FORGET IT!" I give respect and expect it in return...is that too much to ask?


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Just gotta do what ya gotta do to make it work. I know that I've totally enjoyed relationships that we didn't spend much time together but had total trust and commitment. Then I distinctly remember one that we were totally inseparable. I know that the one(s) I loved the most were the ones in which I was so anxious to see her. I would get excited (not aroused....) when it was time to be with her even if it was only to be in the same room. I just loved being together.


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One of the things bad about women... some think they've got the market cornered on wanting to be a parent. I absolutely loved being "Daddy"... greatest job I've ever had. Still hurts that I don't see them as often as I used to.... fathered a set of twins and had step-twins... absolutely loved it! and still long for having the critters around....


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It's a double edged sword to me...

If a woman doesn't want me to meet her kids then I have a thought in the back of my mind that she may be ashamed of me. Like the OP I'm a sucker for the kids and have been hurt before by losing the relationship with the kids more than with the woman.

The other side is that if I really get attached to her and we begin to get serious before meeting the kids...and for some reason they do not accept me...then it's a really bad situation. I can personally attest to that one. My last ex- had a son who NEVER accepted me or respected me and seemed to be totally jealous of me in his life. It is a big part of what ruined our marriage.


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I'm by far much better at it than in times past...but it still hurts when I've become attached. I have no problem letting go... it's dealing with the feelings that overcome me that is the problem... I'm the one who hurts like hell...but I do nothing to make HER hurt. To me that's what's important...not interfering with the other person... nothing you do can make someone love you and to try to do so is futile...time wasted... just suck up the pain..suffer through it and go on. I've done it, didn't like it, but I'm willing to do it again if that's what I have to do to know love again.


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Hell.... I'm just thrilled to get the attention... send me old chunks of coal and I'll be happy....


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not a nut... she's mentally blind and insane... If she wants a virgin she needs to get at least high school guys if not much younger.....


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Well... if she's got her own income that's o.k. too.... still, it's no free lunches here....


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Call me anything you want to... I won't even date a woman who has nothing going for her. Either she's going to work or she had better get her work clothes on and get ready to go to work with me. I'm not looking for someone to lay up while I bring in the bacon. I certainly do not expect her to support me....no free lunches at this house. Most of the women I've dated make more money than I do. I just spend far less and do almost all of my own work..


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Yes... I would and I have. Recently had a sleep over date with a lady I met online and totally enjoyed just getting to know her and the cuddling... Much different than when I was much younger. Back then I just could not have handled it...frustration would have driven me insane. Now it's nowhere near as important as just enjoying being with someone... the sex comes in due time.. I've learned something extremely important! Patience and respect... I hardly even make a move on women now and score far more than before.


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I don't have one simply because I know for a fact that I can and will use one. I own several but none are in my house. Unless I was attacked by surprise I would not need one. If someone else has one pointed at me then me having one is probably not going to do any good....so, what's the use... I've got a mean sling shot, a big dog, and I'm pretty handy with self defense and martial arts. I've got enough tricks that I don't feel the need for a gun. If I had one somebody would probably take it away from me and hurt me with it.


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I think that if she really likes the guy.... ream his ass out...then give him one more chance.... and make sure he knows this is the ONLY chance he gets.j... it would be helpful if she put him off a little while to see how he acts...but do NOT stand him up....string him along a little but don't hurt the guy. Some people need a learning experience to straighten up their lives. If she just throws him away then it might be the one time in his life that he could have changed into a decent caring person.


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