Sommerauer71: Hi Daisychick
What an interesting thread. Oh the reasons why people are here. One topic where many people think they know why other people are here.
I cannot speak for me. But I can tell you why I came here. I came on the recommendation of a friend, when another forum closed down that was a relationships forum and at that time I was going through a rather spectacular break up. I joined here, in what was a fragile state. I posted once, then I never returned for six months to the forums, as I could not face it and was in all honesty seeking the safety of my old forum. I came back again around 18 months ago. To the forums and I never used it as a dating site, I used it as a way of filling time, my children had left home, and the long winters in Austria, made it a place to come and chat and get to know people. I was never here for dating, even though I had a profile completed and the dreaded 'What you are looking for# filled in. I would become frustrated at people over IM who I could not have a conversation with and set my IM to switched off. Then I began writing in the forums, firstly over in the EU then I had a browse in these ones and I liked them.
Being in a school myself, I find the adult interaction is good for me, especially as I do live alone, I am only here for the forums. I have not made so many friends, because I don't want a huge long list of online friends, I have the ones that know me personally and we meet who are also members here, and a couple that I chat to outside of here.
I did not use this site as a sole avenue for meeting a person. I did in the end, meet a person from here and we are in a happy, stable relationship.
I do not even begin to speculate why other people are here, but it will be interesting to see why people really are here.... I know from other threads that people have written why they are here, but I like it when people write about themselves. So it will be interesting.
Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. I have noticed that you have found your match and you both are very happy. I find it inspiring!
I started this site with the same frame of mind (it was strictly for friendship.) I feel like the "adult interaction" is very healthy for me (I've somewhat avoided it since my 'husband' passed). I don't seem to have a lot of it going to school with the younger generation. Up until recently I have only even started thinking of it as a "dating site" again.
I guess in the end my only point of my "rant" is to understand others and the way they think. I want to be here now to meet someone that wants the same things I do. I definitely don't want to rush anything at all. I am in a point in my life to where it is okay to be picky. I guess I was just wondering if anyone else out there was experiencing what I was. I have these moments (or days
) that I try to understand probably more than I should. Plus, I wonder if maybe I am too focused on a career now than just finding that one person to connect with. I hope that is not the case because I don't believe one can be truly happy in a relationship if they don't take the steps in life to be happy with their own individual life.
In any case, I am very happy that you have found someone special here!! I think it's lovely and I hope to have the same outcome!!
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