Instering thread, I joined this site just before my 41st birthday back in May of 06, since that time I have seen just about everything here in the forums, major arguments (some of which I was a part of), relationships start, and fall apart.
I have gained a lot of experience about about people in general since I have been a member here, I have met some realy fine people from this site in person.
I think what we should ask ourselves is why are we here. Some say just for friends, some say for love, some say they don't really know. Yes it's true that most nice guys finish last, but at the same time there are a lot of nice girls that do as well.
In my life I have been through a lot of heart ache and pain, from my mother's death, to having my heart ripped out by a girl I was very much in love with.
People that know me in person and know what I have been through say they can't believe that because of what I have had to endure over the years from the years with my exwife, watching my mother die a slow death, to being torn apart from another relationship that i'm still a kind and caring man when most people would become cold and heartless.
All I could say was I just can't change who I am. My mother was the most caring, loving, and kind person I have ever known, I loved my mother dearly, I held her in my arms when she took her last breath, and no matter how strong I was, I couldn't do anything to save her. A part of her still lives on in me, and when people meet me I want them to see my mother through me.
Am I a nice guy? yes I am, I still believe in treating a lady with love and respect, openning the door for her, and doing little things that add up to big things, being sensitive to her feelings, comforting to her when she needs it, and letting her know just how much she is loved.
Some women I have met say they can't believe some lady hasn't snatched you up yet, well I always say you would think one would, but then why hasn't the one that said it snatched me up?
The ones that were single that is.
One last thing I would like to say before closing about myself, Yes I am a nice guy, but I am also a warrior, I am a protector, I am nice until there is a reason not to be, I am not a woman beater, never have been,I don't like fighting, but I will fight if I have no choice, especially to defend someone I care about.
Lastly, we have all been hurt in one way or another, my advice is to put the past behind you, move on and just let it go, learn from that experience, but don't be to afraid to give someone new a chance, and don't prejudge them because of what someone else did to you before. for those of you that are still young, you can afford to take things slow, for those of us that are older, well, we should be a little more willing to take chances since we don't have the kind of time we did when we were younger, not meaning to just jump right in, but move a little faster.
If you see someone you like, and are interested, let them know, the worst thing that can happen is they say no, or you just never get a response..
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